Hello, I'm a male, 60's ,married over 30 years to a lovely vanilla woman who works way too much. I tried introducing Chastity over 20 years ago. She hated the sight and feel of the CB-2000. So I gave it up. Fast forward to this year, I had been occasionally playing with ball stretchers, when she discovered this, it led to a conversation about why. My comment that I had always liked things binding my cock and/or balls, "like the chastity devices", led to more conversations and eventually I was locked in April, pretty much full time. The quarantine actually sped her acceptance along, as we've been working from home. Had I been going into the office daily, she would have removed it. Now it's just natural and she no longer worries about me wearing it full time. I tried for years to introduce some form of FLR into the relationship, we would make a few false starts and in a few weeks or months end up back where we started. She doesn't have the time or interest to look at anything related to the topic. With Chastity, she can pretty much just set it and forget it. She is taking to this more than she ever did FLR. Now she wants to keep setting records for length of denial. Our longest is 15 weeks, with me being let out once a seek for play. Now we're celebrating Locktober, I've had once release for washing so far this month. And she is hinting, strongly, that November will be a continuation. I'm off the rest of the week, so she left a short chore list as she left this morning (she's on a limited work in parts of her practice now) If we go by what has occurred in the past, my next orgasm will be in Mid January, looks like 3 or 4 is all I can expect for 2021. Of course last time we hit 15 weeks, I was willing to sign up for another 3 months. As she gets more comfortable and confident with this, no telling where we will end up. I never thought she'd keep me locked completely for a month, let alone two. She's not missing out, the Vixskin with a harness is longer, harder, and has more girth, so she's enjoying our weekly romps. Of course, I am as well, just different than it was last year. I'm wearing a Cherry Keeper small with medium headlock and total touch stop. I love the touch stop, basically no sensation at all to the head of my penis, It's so sensitive when I'm finally let out, It increased the strength of my erections as well. So while the Vixskin may be better, I'm much better performing than I was in 2019. I'll hang around awhile.
Welcome to our community. I hope you find it enjoyable, and helpful. You and KH sound like you're really making it work and your input could be good for others.
Thanks for the welcomes. A small tip, if you need glasses, wear them when locking or unlocking. She went to lock me up Sunday after letting me out for a shower, neither of us had our glasses on. She inserted the key into some crevasse and neither one of us could tell she missed the lock. The little scrape she made with the sharp key turned into a sore that has required the removal of the cage for a few days. I think I'll buy some "liquid skin" as a prep for the area immediately behind my glans. Hopefully it will give a bit of a barrier at least temporarily. That area is tender and the headlock can irritate it, a little scrape and it quickly got worse. So in a literal sense, Loctober is blown, but I expect to be caged for our weekly romp on Sunday. So we will keep it in spirit. Silly woman left for work with me unlocked, she trusts me not to violate our agreement <sigh>
Don't violate her trust, remember you wanted this. Show her you are committed. Best wishes and welcome to the club.
There is a really low risk of that, I stopped masturbating somewhere around 15 years ago, No reason, no plan, just one day I realized that I hadn't done it for months. Masturbation may be the only sex topic we've never argued about Besides, it's not even been a month yet, and I'm more interested in 3+ months of denial than I am playing with myself. No it was more a lament that every time she has a choice, she always chooses the "normal" path. I suggested wearing the Stub cage, which would have no contact with the affected area. Nope, let it "air out", a medically unsound opinion, which she should know. (Band aids exist to keep dirt and air OUT, they had to put the little fake air holes in them because people believe that wounds need to air out) But as I said, she always goes to normal, why it is easier for her to clean something rather than tell me to is still a mystery to me. She did have me on a cleaning schedule, which I followed for months, then slacked off, that was ok, then I stopped altogether and that was ok as well. It can be very frustrating to always be right, to never make a mistake. I'm very good, but I ain't perfect Of course I did tell her that as soon as she pulled out of the driveway, I was going to check out pornhub...I'm going to have my fun one way or another, and I do find it fun to tease her.