Locking yourself up to surprise your KH

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    Who here locks themselves back up and surprises there KH? How do you go about it? I enjoy that rush evertime I hand that key over, and go for this Rollercoaster ride of feelings all over again!
     
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    I understand why that would be a thrill.

    But my wife/KH does not like me to do that. I did it once and that was the last time. :) If I feel a need to be locked, I can ask her to let me put my cage on, but usually it’s her telling me. In either case I give her both keys, and we have an agreement that I cannot ask to be released short of a genuine emergency issue.
     
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    Lol, ok when I first read the title I was like “oh some poor bugger locked himself up and thought he would surprise his wife with a gift and freaked his wife out.” Valentine’s Day it seems to happen more, that and Xmas.

    Glad it was just a surprise locking in a game you both know about and not a “hi...I locked my dick in a cage, here are the keys....surprise!”
     
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    To lock yourself up, supposes that you were unlocked. That’s a problem for me.

    Besides, she loves clicking the lock shut. She makes a big deal out of it.
     
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    me locking up is not a surprise. it is expected and assumed.
    i just feel i am supposed to do it and leave or give the key to my ... mistress?
     
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    I think there is a big danger of topping from the bottom here. In fact, it sounds exactly like that.
     
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    She expects me to lock back up after I'm allowed out for an approved reason.
     
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    If I locked myself back up without her knowing she would be really surprised, because she would say how did you unlock to to relock it.
     
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    The few times I have been unlocked in the past I have always locked my self back up without being told to, as I want to show my devotion to my madam, I used to recage and leave the lock open for my madam to snap shut, but she prefers if I lock my self now, as I never have the key so I am taking that extra step to please her.
     
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    Yes, I've done this, although most of the time I lock it under her orders. But, actually, just a couple of days ago I was preparing to have a PSA blood test and based on available evidence it seemed prudent for me not to ejaculate for at least 48 hours before the test. I have NO self control, was alone in my home office and incredibly horny, and I asked my wife if she had the key somewhere safe and hidden, and then when she confirmed she did I went ahead and locked myself up.

    Now, this morning I asked her if I might be unlocked because I had locked myself and the test was over. She said, "Absolutely not! You know that only I control when you're unlocked."
     
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    Its been a month or more since we have played with chasity. I decided to lock myself up and surprise my wife. When I showed her the key, she had a huge smile on her face. From that point on she was so distracted, getting ready for work she was almost late! Looking forward to what takes place next?
     
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    I could not envisage my Lady letting me go unlocked long enough for me to surprise her by self locking.

    I unlock in her presence if she tells me to ...and in the event of there being some kind of unexpected break down in communication whilst I was unlocked I have promised I would self lock immediately.

    The only thing that would surprise my lady would be being unlocked.

    And the deal is that should I be unlocked without permission I get control of my keys back and our relationship would be terminated, as simple enough arrangement that leaves no room for doubt or negotiation.
     
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    We use chasity to spice up our sex life. Its not something we do on a regular basis.
     
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    I can see how this would be fun for both of you. For me, being caged is not always essential. It is more being chaste and not having freedom to decide if I can have orgasms. When i submitted to @MistressS , i agreed to only cum when she allowed it. She has encouraged me to lock up and i was able to go several months wearing a cage. Good luck and enjoy.
     
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    Only Miss A locks and unlocks. That's the rule.
     
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    You have no need for access to the key.
     
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    My wife says something similar, “there is no reason for you to ever be unlocked without me”
     
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    How long do you keep miss Adam's boy locked up to a time? For i lock myself up and surprise her with the key. She then surprises my by unlocking me to have sex. But its never very long of a time span she has no will power. She nots over PIV sex
     
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    It’s Miss Amanda’s boy not Adam
    He is locked most of the time, even if he is not locked he knows not to touch himself. It is quite rare to have PIV. I don’t need it. I have found many ways to gain pleasure as my brain has become very important in my sexual pleasure. I also have a hollow strap-on which he can wear should I want the feeling of PIV.
     
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    Yes, that would be my problem with it. As soon as a sub makes these decisions themselves, what is left of the power exchange? My sub is not allowed to do that.
     
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    I would say we don't live the full on FLR. She would never consider me her sub. We have fun playing with chasity but its not a full live style change.
     
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    @Dirtwork guy , I can't answer your original question because, like others above, I have zero say in my locking. BUT it sounds like your KH loves the spontaneous commitment to another session and that is all that matters (you two are on the same page). If there is any doubt dont worry about us, ask her!
     
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    The arrangement I have is to be locked 3 days a week. Sometimes when it’s time for unlock id say “let’s wait one more day” for fun and she’d find it funny and “obedient”.

    I also self lock early sometimes and hand her the key. She likes it. I do it often before I go out. She finds it funny that maybe one of my friends might find me caged when I’m peeing or something or if a girl is dancing with me. And besides if I’m out potentially for a wild night alone without her I won’t get to actually cheat on her cause I’m locked.
     
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    My wife/KH is the same way she finds it very funny when we are out and I'm looked! Especially at friends houses drinking and I have to pee alot!! She knows I hate sitting. She also likes when I'm looked because I can't get enough of her
     
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    It seems you enjoy a similar dynamic to myself and I hope that you get as much enjoyment out of it as I do. I lock myself up and approach handing over the keys with great trepidation

    As ever with these things, there is no universal right or wrong answer, only what works well and is appreciated within the couple in question. My wife and I do not live full term chastity or FLR, we use chastity as another occasional activity to keep things interesting. My wife likes the attention when I am locked, she also likes it when I am released and she gets to enjoy me inside her. She does not initiate lock ups, I wish she would, but I have to accept that she is like that. When I present myself locked then she is more than happy to take the keys and keep me guessing for how long and enjoy the situation. This works for us and is greatly enjoyed by both of us so that is good enough for us.
     
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