Hi everyone, i'm Playtonic. I've been wanting to adopt the lifestyle for a while now. My wife is naturally a very dominant person, and I've definitely taken a submissive role in our relationship, so I guess it just seemed natural? I do most of all of the cooking, cleaning, and child care. While she is the main breadwinner. Something about the thought of being locked up and having her in total control over when, how, and IF I cum just seemed so... exciting. I always hated how much control my extremely high libido had over my life anyways, so I imagined it being a healthy change of pace too. I don't think I had gone more than two days without cumming since grade school prior to being caged. However, my wife is a fairly vanilla and straight-laced, especially in the bedroom. I was terrified of what she would think when I brought up my desires. When I finally worked up the guts, she was definitely taken aback. She found the notion weird, perverted even. Fortunately, she truly loves me and eventually agreed to experiment with chastity. My first cage arrived at the begging of the week, and when she first saw me in it I could tell she was off-put by the sight. At first, she didn't really even want to acknowledge it or would just laugh if she did. But she began to slowly take notice of changes in my behavior as I slipped into a truly submissive and servile mindset, which felt natural to me. Each night I would spend hours massaging any part of her body she desired. We could finally be physically intimate for long periods of time and not have it ruined by my compulsion to push her until she finally relented and had sex with me. I would attend to her every need during the day and even try to anticipate what those needs may be... I could tell she was slowly being to realize the benefits of this dynamic in our relationship. Finally today, I think it clicked for her. I was busy cleaning the kitchen when I asked her what she wanted for dinner. She said her favorite potato soup, and I replied that I would be happy to make that for her tonight. That's when she shot me a stern look and commanded "now". I was so thrilled! Later in the evening, after I had finished massaging her for a good hour, we embraced each-other lying in bed. She started to passionately kiss me, and this progressed into some light touching. I was eagerly awaiting her to release me after being caged all week... But then she stopped, looked my dead in the eyes, and said: "we'll see if you earn it tomorrow" before rolling over to go to sleep. I felt the most exhilarating tingling sensation wash over me as soon her words landed. It was absolute ecstasy. I'm thrilled to think we finally have the dynamic I always dreamed of... We'll see if I earn that release tomorrow
Welcome! There is a saying “be careful of what you wish for...”; don’t know where it came from but can be very true when there are women involved to take to it naturally!
Welcome to our community and i hope you enjoy being part of it. Sounds like you've got a good start on a new life.
Welcome. It sounds like she is onboard, now it’s just a question of how far she’ll take it. Best wishes!
Thank you. Should I just reply my to original post or make a new thread? New here and I don't want to break any protocol haha.
I have some updates The following day while I was giving her an afternoon back rub, she turned over and out of nowhere told me to eat her pussy! I did as instructed with great enthusiasm, eager to please as always. After she was satisfied I thought for sure she would unlock me... but she just rolled over and told me to rub her calves now! I was totally caught off guard... Definitely didn't expect her to warm up this quickly to it all. In the years we've dated/been married I think I can count on one hand the number of times she took the initiative to initiate anything sexual. I was always the one expected to "make a move". It was definitely a huge turn on! She did end up unlocking me later that night before bed (after I had given her a full body massage). But not before some heavy teasing on her part. In our post-coital bliss, we ended up having a pretty honest discussion. She admitted that she was very off-put by my suggestion at first, and was initially just humoring me. However, as the week progressed she began to notice my increased energy, passion, and attentiveness towards her. She began to really enjoy the experiment, as she couldn't deny the immense benefit to only her personally, but our marriage. My new caged more suited to long term use arrived yesterday (Small Holy trainer), and she locked me up that afternoon! We'll see how long this go-around lasts. I suspect she will really push it this time. I only hope she learns to tease me more often to lead me along in the event this lock up goes beyond a week. Let me know if you guys have any pointers!
Just have a look at the different headings. You can create threads in any of them or you can start your own journal and keep that updated if you so wish!
Yet another update, though the news is not as good I thought she was really warming up to the idea and seemed enthusiastic last time we played. However, she has become a bit moody and doesn't seem to want to acknowledge me being caged anymore... She hasn't even bothered to hide the keys despite my insistence. They've been sitting in her nightstand drawer for days, so I don't know how seriously she's taking this... I think she's wondering how long this will last, and maybe coming to terms with the fact that I want this to be the new permanent dynamic in our relationship? Perhaps she's even thinking "why now? What was stopping him from behaving this way from the beginning, and why do I have to lock up his cock in a little cage to be treated this way???". I just hope she realizes that I truly desire to recommit to her, and only want to finally worship her and giving her the power she deserves... She's my world and I want to make sure she knows that each day through my actions. I'm trying to give her control over the most intimate and personal part of myself. I just hope she sees I'm sincere.
Just be patient and keep doing things for her. If you push now, you run a good chance of cementing her feelings about chastity. This has happened to others here and some have had to wait years before they could try again. If she leaves the keys out, don’t touch them. You have them to her and they’re not yours anymore. Show her the value of keeping you chaste but don’t talk about it or bring it up for a while.
A week from indifference, to control to indifference again? All sounds too quick and very quick for her to notice the increased attention and attribute it to your device. I've said on here a few times, its a marathon, not a sprint. There will be hurdles, her hormones for one depending on what time of the month it is can play a huge part in sexual appetite. Also, just because you are locked and have a constant reminder about your chastity journey doesn't mean she will be as enthusiastic and hyper aware of your state all the time. It can be easy to go overboard with the non sexual attention, the massages, foot rubs, cleaning etc etc to try and convince your other half that chastity is the way to go. Sure, these things are noticeable straight away, but can you do it for the long term? Are you trying to "top from the bottom" and manipulate her into doing something she doesn't want to do? By all means, keep up the attentiveness, but don't be surprised to be left "locked and forgotten" from time to time, sometimes life gets busy and our wives have different priorities than "sex".
Oh boy, what a weekend! Friday night I decided to have a heart to heart discussion with my wife. I had a feeling she was still confused about WHY I would want something like this, and just wanted a proper explanation of my motives. I laid it all out on the table and touched on every point that lead me to believe chastity would be a blessing for both her and our marriage. I discussed how I believed I had a problem with pornography and masturbation, a bad habit I felt disgusted by, and that was causing me to throw away so much passion and energy that could have been routed to her. I shared that I felt like a better, more loving, and attentive husband when in chastity. I discussed my desire to put her needs and pleasure first, and take away the pressure she felt to please me when she didn't feel like it. I confessed that I was a naturally submissive man that desired an FLM and my belief that she was a more dominant and assertive woman (a dynamic seldom discussed but true none the less), and that me giving her power of my sexual gratification felt like the natural progression of our relationship (she laughed at that part and admitted we were pretty much already living in an FLM haha). And finally, I admitted that I would be lying if on some level the thought didn't just plain turn me on... After this, she said she understood where I was coming from. She told me she did find our initial chastity play exciting, and that she would be lying if the thought didn't make her feel empowered and turned on. However, she was still dealing with the surprise of my confession and trying to process it all. She also had to wrestle with her notions os societal norms and a fear of what others may think of her if they found out she was taking such a dominant role. So needless to say I understand why she felt conflicted and got cold feet. After our talk, we embraced each other in bed for some time, which eventually lead to us making out like randy teenagers again. Things got hot and heavy rather quickly, and I was surprised to find that she was wetter than she maybe had been ever before! I don't think I had seen her this excited since we were still teenagers, and even that paled in comparison to the tsunami before me! (seriously, no one tell Ben Shapiro). She started calling the shots and commanded I eat her out. Several orgasms for her later, and after she teased my caged cock for a good while, she graciously unlocked me for what had to be the most intense sex we've ever had. We embraced each other again for a good while after that, and that's when she finally said it... She told me she loved this and wanted it to be the new normal for us... That next morning she went to the store and bought a small combination locking key box, and sealed my keys away before placing it in her nightstand! She's had me eat her out and massage her each night since... teasing me before rolling over and declaring she just feels like going to bed, and that maybe she will feel like unlocking me the next night. I'm absolutely floored, who is this woman??? lol I'm looking forward to what the future holds for us!
It will be very interesting to see where this might lead! Hope your cage is comfortable. I only say this in case she ends up following the Mrs Chaste route! Have fun!