Today again I had a discussion with my wife about FLR and enforced chastity... It went surprisingly well. She said she would accept to indulge in the lifestyle if I accept do do certain things for her (a bit costly I admit, but it could be worth it...) So I think we will move forward. She told me to put the cage on again while I go see my Mom for a Sunday brunch... and she will remove it this afternoon when I return... Last night it was my first night with a cage on. Today it will be my first day - and "in public" as I will not be home... I am all excited about this. Even more knowing nobody knows about this, except my wife and i (and you on this site lol). Wish me good luck - I need support (I am a very shy guy)... Have a good weekend all of you tintin
Good luck!! Most of us have all been where you are at! A FLR is a two way street. She needs things for her and you need to do those things!! LOL Have fun...if you're like me my first time out in public with a belt on, I kept wondering if anyone could see my odd bump in my pants! It was so exciting knowing only my wife and I knew our secret!
Thank you MissyB. I just got back home now. It felt strange that I was wearing a cage outside of my home, and the fact nobody noticed but could have, made me super horny. Especially also because my sister-in-law looked sexy as hell ;-) As I had an erection, it did hurt a bit inside the cage - now I know what it is designed for :-( My wife freed me once we got back home, just a few minutes ago. And I have to admit this time it was a relief ! I have never been caged so long (except last night) and I am not (yet) used to it... But talked to my wife again about FLR and D/s... she's still against it but I see room for her to change her opinion and accept it to a certain extend. I can't wait. Now she's leaving (we live separated) and we'll meet again next weekend (for another D/s adventure I hope)...
Exactly ! You are perfectly right... I need to do some efforts on my side too... I'm not too much into "service" but I think I should do part of the chores... I will... soon... she'll like it I'm sure !
My first few weeks wearing a cage, I was positive that everybody knew. But in reality nobody (that I am aware of) did. Use the stall in a public bathroom rather than the urinal, and sit to pee (people will just assume you are doing something else). Unless your cage is huge, very few people are likely to notice the difference in your bulge ...as long as you aren't wearing leggings, or super tight pants of course. Chastity is going to play with your head, ...enjoy
I am glad you asked clearly for encouragement. I think that's really what a lot of us males really need on this site. Being a "full blown" keyholder involves work. Sometimes it helps a lot just to know what ladies here really want from us and to hear their suggestions. Just to be whimsical: maybe we need a "Encouragement Sought" section alongside the "Keyholder Sought" section. (just kidding, maintaining the site is work enough, I am sure.)
Indeed it is not easy for a man (like me at least) to do his "coming out" around BDSM and D/s Society has moved forward and accepted the Gay/Lesbian community but not yet the BDSM one I think...
Good luck and have fun! It sounds like your Wife is at least partially on board. Don’t try to push too hard on the FLR piece, just let her know how much you love her and appreciate her letting you feel these new sensations. I hope you both enjoy the ride!
Thank you for your advice Sir ! I sure will enjoy the ride once we are both on board and confident we can move further... Patience is key here... I know I cannot rush things or everything will stop just like that...
Not so sure about "accepting" Gay or Lesbian, more like they've "got used to it". Funny how BDSM is still taboo though, considering how widely available it is on the net! It's that same old thing no one admits to watching porn, BDSM or whatever! Hey ho folk are quite funny really! I include myself in in that last sentence! I mean I don't tell anyone that my wife locks my cock up and I'm a member of a Chastity forum!