Will a hard on ever happen ?

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    This morning I asked my wife, Mistress Linda for a day or two out of chastity. She giggled slightly and asked me why I would ever want that? I tried to explain that I just wanted to get hard. I just wanted to feel it grow. I just wanted to see it at full strength. I just wanted to know if I could still get hard. I told her it was embarrassing to be locked up, that I knew she had told a few people but I didn't know who they were. She said "embarrassing?" Aren't you embarrassed about your bra and panties? They would still be on if your were out.
    I knew I was loosing here and wanted to change the conversational direction before I was in trouble. So I offered a foot rub or something else.
    She accepted the foot rub but denied the release.
    God I miss just having the occasional hard on. Do any of you still get hard? Do you enjoy it? God I miss it.
     
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    Well, I certainly swell in my cage! If I am let out I'm as amazed as Mrs Chaste at how hard I get! It hasn't happened for a long time though! And to be honest I don't mind!
     
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    Sounds like you missed some well needed communication earlier in this dynamic of your relationship. If you truly miss certain things enough you really need to put your foot down and say no. Chastity is a great is long as both parties are happy with the situation, but it sounds like you aren't happy with the current situation... or you are looking for some attention... one or the other...
     
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    I do miss not being able to be hard. I'd sort of got used to not being allowed to cum, so a hard-on was as close as I good get to that, in a way. I'm basically locked 24/7 in a cage that allows for sufficient hygiene without locking.

    For the occasional medical exam or imaging that I am allowed to unlock for, I am told in no uncertain terms that it is not allowed to get hard nor am I allowed to play with it. It is Mistress' property.

    So, yes, I do miss erections but I actually enjoy the frustration and her control. Eventually, I will be allowed to be hard again. I think.... ?
     
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    how long since you got hard ?
     
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    I have been in chastity this time for about 3 months but denied penetrative sex for over 4 years. I have tried to explain to Mistress Linda how good it would feel for me to just get hard. She smiled and said "well, would you like to visit the strapon? " I just changed the subject.
     
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    Interesting! I wouldn't want to give up piv permanently. But that's where I find chastity exciting is wanting it let's say for the hell of it daily but having that other layer where she would pick what excited her at the moment. Whether denying and frustrating me or letting it happen. It would definitely be torture to go for great lengths of time without it let alone giving up all together. I don't think I could make it that far. Kudos!
     
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    i think it depends on your age its much easier to go without as you get older i know i could not have gone without penetrive sex when i was in my 30s or 40s much easier now im 67 plus the fact the lack of intercourse has led to me not being able to get hard enough anymoor . a case of use it or lose it and ive lost it lol
     
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    Yup I'm not quite there yet. Lol. At my age it seems impossible to give up, for myself of course, if in a relationship, for four years. But that gives me something to think about. Do you miss it?
     
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    Orgasms are easier to give up, but constantly being locked up without even a hard-on is a bit brutal. I think if that's the case you should ask her to have a conversation.

    And that conversation is not as sub and domme, but as man and woman, or even better as husband and wife.

    In D/s relationships and traditional relationships certain basic needs have to be met and you need to make that abundantly clear. If your wife is understanding, she should back off a bit. Don't let the relationship tilt in an unhealthy direction. Why wouldn't she let you have a supervised break from chastity after several months?

    Just my .02$

    (by the way, I'm biased, I had an ex named Linda in college and she was a royal bitch. I'm sure your Linda is much better than the one I knew.)
     
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    I miss erection freedom more than I miss ejaculation freedom.

    Much more.
     
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    same here!
     
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    You can miss something about your previous lifestyle without being unhappy. OP sounds perfectly happy to me and I'd suggest to not pester her about it.
     
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    no dont realy miss intercourse ive become very sub over the years it might seem strange but i get my pleshure of of making someone eles cum . i can be feeling realy horny but after ive pleshured someone with my mouth im completly satisfied
     
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    Me too. I'm always amazed at the focus on not cumming around CM without any discussion of this more fundamental issue. Giving her 24/7 control of my erection is the most submissive thing I've ever done. As a comparison, sometimes we do the "locked from wakeup to bedtime" thing and I'm allowed nocturnal erections; that's much easier, because you can still feel them and even wake up with one. My longest total erection denial period was 56 days; I was a submissive mess when she finally let me out.
     
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    @Rectrix , I think the reason it's not talked about might be that we chaste men are REALLY frightened at the prospect. If there is such a thing as a secret we have with the ladies, it's that. If.....a big if....I were to cheat, it wouldn't be to cum, it'd be to get hard.

    Ooooops......
     
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    #18 nrbill, Aug 23, 2020
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    I'm 70, and can still get hard, but it takes a fair amount of work to get me up. Once I'm hard, just a few seconds of inattention will cause me to lose my erection completely. They're never used for anything but hand jobs. My wife went on vacation without me last month, and I didn't get erect again until she was back an entire week, so I went 17 days entirely limp. I was worried a bit before finally getting erect on August 15th. I'm at a point where I never know for sure if I'm going to be able to get hard and cum again.

    It doesn't matter if you can get erect or not if you're never allowed intercourse or to have a cum. If you're in a cage permanently, there's no reason to expect a cum or even an erection. I haven't had intercourse in 42 months, and all my cums are by hand jobs, usually about twice a month, sometimes less. I wear my cage most days, but not 24/7.
     
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    its been 18 years since i had proper intercourse with my wife
     
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    If I have to use the word "proper" to describe what I've been calling intercourse, I have to admit to 48 years of "improper" intercourse, which is all my fault, mostly for cumming in less than 10 seconds with a short penis.
     
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    thats such a shame i do feel for you. i have been quite capable of intercourse for probably 10 of the 18 years ive not had it my wife was simply not interested owing to cancer treatment but the other 8 years of no sex ive not been capable anymoor its been so long ive just lost the ability to stay hard
     
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    I’d say hell yes !!!
     
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    Try the " blue pills " !!!! Worked wonders for me !!!!
     
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    Ive been caged for about a year, very rarely let out and Never allowed sex. On the rare occasions im allowed out i have noticed that my dick has shrunk completely and my mistress humiliates me by timing how long i can last with out cumming, best ive managed was about 5 seconds into a handjob, first time i literally came as she unlocked the cage... thats all i got so she just locked it up again
     
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    You shouldn't miss it as long as your wife/Mistress does not require it for her pleasure.
     
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