HELP!!! Wife/KH lost intrest because I topped from the bottom

Yes. Get a ksafe - timer lockbox. They keys can go in that. Ask her to suggest a time and go with it without flinching. If she refuses, lock up for 10 days (i.e. covering 2 x weekends) and see what happens.

Some of the fun is doing sexy stuff while locked.

 

I'm going to give you some advice that I haven't been able to follow myself. It's hard. But you have to rethink everything....

Her way is the right way because it is her way.

Yeah, you probably 'know' more about chasity than her. You have probably read thousands of words on the subject. And she may be doing it wrong. But doing it wrong is how you learn to do something right. Let her learn. Being patient is part of your service to her, and it's also the price of admission to the chastity game. Pay that price, and someday she will teach you how it's done.

(that's based on faith.... I haven't made it there yet)