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  1. Chastityboy1992
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    So I am planning on tying up my girlfriend and edging her for a while denying her orgasm until she agrees to dominant me for locktober. I'd like to give her a list of ideas and am working towards guidelines for her that will make her more make her more interested in femdom. She isn't uninterested in it, she just prefers to be submissive. I do need some ideas for her. So far I have and admittedly most of these are for me:
    1. Continuously locked for as long as her choosing but no less than locktober and ideally no longer than denied december.
    2. Requiring a title of Mistress/Goddess etc what ever she prefers.
    3. On demand massaging.
    4. Ordering me to dominate her, but remaining locked.
    5. Tied up edging and ruining.
    6. Forced to shave body hair.
    7. Allow her to do makeup on me.
    8. Require her to masturbate in front of me while we watch porn together.
    9. Any cum produce must be swallowed.
    10. Dressing pretty for her.
    11. Fucking her with a strapon.
    12. Getting fucked with a strapon
    13. Require her tie me down regularly and use cane/whip/flog/hot wax etc.
    14. Dice/Card games of chance (need rules for these)

    Things that I know are out of bounds for her:
    1. Other people
    2. Animals
    3. Urine and Scat
    4. Public exposure
    5. Permanent body modification
     
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    I don’t think this is the way to go about this,
     
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    I agree. This is a HORRIBLE plan.

    If she prefers to be submissive you need to figure out why. Then you need to see if it’s something she has hard wired or if it’s something she Is willing to change.

    These require open and honest discussions. And not something you push on another. Now don’t get me wrong. Play can be used to help open it. Bu5 it has to be done the right way. And based on your post I suspect you don’t know what that is, and I’m not sure I can help you figure it now.

    So I’d say, It’s time to talk with basic discussions and build from there.
     
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    If I were you I would just start doing nice things for her. All you can. Maybe she will get to like it and want more, maybe not. Her choice. But either way you get to do nice things for the one you love. And if you can't enjoy that, there's a problem.
     
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    ...or you could just have a chat with her to discuss your wants.
     
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    I don't think anything you are looking at is "Female Led" in the slightest, it is classical "topping from the bottom".

    Nothing should "require her" to do anything, she has to want to do things freely and of her own volition / for her own pleasure.

    I'm not dissing your list at all, lots of it looks really good, but you just need to adjust your thinking. Start small and simple, let her build up to things at her own pace. If she doesn't want to do that, then thats her right.
     
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    I think if this is trying something new for her then that list is really asking a lot of her. You could put a list of your fantasies down in a document for her to read and she can think if she would want to do them but I think you cannot make it a list of requirements or expect her to do any of them.

    If you really want FLR as opposed to just being dominated in the bedroom then you can just get into the habit of asking her what you can do for her frequently so she gets used to the idea that you are available to help her and do things for her. From there you can slowly grow perhaps but this is not a fast process and it needs to be within her comfort otherwise it will just scare her off the idea for a very long time.

    If it is mainly the locktober thing then just ask her if she would want to do that and make that the only thing you really want to do.
     
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    I guess that post didn't get the anticipated reaction. Agree with all the others.
     
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    Nice story.
     
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    If you think you can force someone to be dominant by tying them up, you really need to think again. Why are you being dominant instead of being submissive?

    What I'd recommend is an open and ongoing discussion with her (not with an internet forum) about her needs, and then yours. If you put your needs first, then are you really cut out to be submissive?
     
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