Online KH, give me the details

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    Really interested in all the details of a online keyholding where you pay for services. What you get out of it? Do you find it satisfying? What you do for your KH, exact examples? What kind of contact you have? Obviously the relationship between a husband and wife is very different than this situation so am really curious about others who are in this dynamic. I find it fascinating.
     
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    I find it unsatisfying.
     
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    I am in online KH - I have a people person holding one of my keys and the other is sealed in a small container with a plastic security number tag -
    I have to ask to cut the seal from my KH
    Mainly Doc appt or flying -
    We briefly talk daily - she rarely gives tasks of chores - I do obey her wishes and commands
     
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    Yes I imagined it would be, wasn't sure how you could possibly have your needs met.
     
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    For a long time I had known of chastity but never cared to partake in it. As in, what?! No orgasms? Where's the fun in that. At some point in time things changed and I tried it out. It was an exciting sensation. Something very personal to you being out of your reach, allowing another to decide when it's appropriate for you. And the teasing just to make it a little more fun.

    But now to your question. Being new to it and single I tried only two pay for online services. One would occasionally ask for verification throughout the duration but we didn't talk much. Which I guess is part of the agreement. She did reveal she felt she had not much control in her life and having others locked gave her that feeling of being in control.

    The second one I tested in a pay service for one month. Advertised that two tasks would be given weekly and verification pics would be necessary at least weekly.

    After I paid we never communicated again.

    Actually there was one more pay service that turned out to be completely automated as if you were getting emails from a real life human. Btw tons of people were like omg I've been accepted! Yes. You too had a debit or credit card. Congratulations.

    So from those three, I can say nothing. Lol. Best to find a partner.
     
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    If you're practicing chastity as a fetish, it would be woefully inadequate.

    If you're practicing chastity because masturbation is like eating fast food in that it feels good initially but is soul sucking in its emptiness, then it could work.
     
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    I often have males asking me to hold their keys for money, I always decline and often block them.

    It sounds good in theory, but if I were to say yes, their next question would be "What do I get for my money?" or "What do you offer that other keyholders don't?"

    That's a killer for me. I'm not a sex worker.

    What they should do is take a different approach and try to impress me enough that I'd want to hold their key and own them.

    It's about them pleasing me, not me pleasing them.
     
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    We live on a two way street and believe it’s about pleasing each other.
     
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    I like the kind of subs who get pleasure from pleasing me, so it's a win win situation.

    If I wanted some kind of equal relationship I wouldn't be on fetish sites where men say they want to serve women.
     
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    Yes I imagine
     
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    Interesting perspective
     
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    I hear you. People facinate me and what drives us to make the choices we do. This is an interesting concept to me as I imagine both sides can be left wanting. I hate to judge here but I imagine it is a case of having someone hold your key is better than no one.
    Iike you said I have no idea what a woman gets from the online dynamic. There may be an illusion of control but that is minimal. Removing the hands on relationship seems to severely limit potential for satisfaction.
     
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    Well in a vacuum that’s sounds great to me, but the reality is I desire much more. We are all different though and that’s what makes me me and you you.
     
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    Yes, I wasn't criticising you.
     
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    If I was going to be an online KH, I would do it as something like a “life coach”/ “personal trainer”.

    I’d find out where they are in life and what they need help/encouragement with and use chastity and release to help guide them there. If they need to lose weight and get in shape, I’d make sure they were eating right, working out, etc so that they are making daily progress to the goals that will make their lives better.

    There are so many areas in people’s lives that could be enhanced if they were held accountable to make daily progress. It would be worth far more than $100 a month for the client because they would be getting far more than just their fetish fed.

    You could push them towards goals of health, education, employment change, organization, self help, learn new hobbies,, community service and just push their boundaries in beneficial ways.

    It could be very rewarding if you are kinky and like helping people better themselves.
     
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    Something that people on this site tend to forget is that not everyone is submissive. Male chastity can work for submissives, neutrals (I don't know if there is a term for it), or dominants though it would all play out differently.

    I will say that solo locking has the potential to be an excuse to not find an actual relationship, so online keyholding being at best barely passable for some but generally a dismal failure is actually a good thing in my opinion.

    I personally think online keyholding could work if the keyholder was like a therapist pushing the lockee to find and form actual romantic relationships, but that would almost certainly cost a lot more money and you have to really want to help someone to push them to get themselves in a situation where they no longer need your services. Even actual therapists sometimes string people along because of the money.

    edit: I stopped writing midway to make a blueberry milkshake (2 cups vanilla ice cream, 1/2 cup milk, 1/2 frozen wild blueberries. I 100% recommend) and Jessica Alexander posts something very similar to my last point.
     
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    I do this kind of thing, if I like a sub. I don't charge them money for it.

    The thing is, the sub has to make you like them, and most can't be bothered to put any effort in.
     
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    No worries I did not take it that way.
     
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    I think it's awesome you took time out from your post to fuel the engine, and in such a delicious sounding way!
     
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    Dessert is serious business. I also have a piece of whipped cream cake with powdered sugar icing for a post-dinner dessert for later.
     
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    Just gotta say Unlucky, I'm but a hopeless Neanderthal bumbling around the kitchen in comparison to all these culinary wonders you are so gifted with creating.
    Thumbs up!
     
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    While it can seem intimidating, baking is really just following directions. Unless you're doing something like caramelizing sugar (not necessary for the cake I mentioned), you're never even on a timer, so if you have to stop and read the recipe 400 times, that's fine. The most difficult thing is probably minimizing the amount of mess you make in the kitchen, but you can always clean up afterwards.

    If I haven't sold you on making a whipped cream cake which is something that even my brother who lacks a sweet tooth likes (the icing is an optional addition. It is fine plain or with a dusting of powdered sugar), I also really enjoy a chocolate velvet fudge cake with (peppermint) icing.
     
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    @Unlucky I'm afraid BR is a complete lost cause in the kitchen. He will however clean up the mess
     
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    In more ways than one my dear :p
     
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    My experience is that you have to like the person (and that goes both ways). So, the locked person does not want to cheat and disappoint the keyholder, and the keyholder would be disappointed if the locked person cheated.

    Or something like that. :)
     
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