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    Hi all,

    We are back at it for a third time since we had our baby almost two years ago. We restarted chastity in January of this year, had an amazing two weeks and then Thatguy got so sick it warranted an ER visit, so I took off the cage. His illness, coupled with still getting into the swing of things as new parents and just being tired ALL. THE. TIME. I decided to keep it off.
    This whole time, something just felt like it was missing, sexually and as a couple...you see, kink and sex was our hobby before we had our kid. It sucked SO bad putting that on the backburner while we navigated our new lives together with the addition of the little one.
    Three weeks ago, I was thinking that we really should resume our escapades...the kid is sleeping thru the night and we have a good routine down with her, so there’s no reason not to. Ironically, Thatguy mentioned the cage that night and we put it back on him after showering together (of course no orgasm for him because he wouldn’t want to put it on then.) I decided to go slow because I need to get my Domme legs back since we were pretty much just a vanilla couple these last two years. Well, life has a way of forcing you to go slow....only a couple of days after caging him my monthly visitor came and then after that was gone I ended up getting sick with a very bad cold, he ended up getting sick and run down and the kid ended up sick as well. Fun freaking times. It’s been a week and a half since that hit and I’m just now starting to feel somewhat better. So we will see what the future holds in our FLR/Chastity life. All I know is that it feels right. Happy to be back!
     
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    Everything has to be right to make it work. You have both had a lot to deal with.
    Third time lucky.
     
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    OMG. I totally get everything you said. Our kids are now 14 and 13 and I still remember those years when they were born and the intimacy between us just disappeared for one reason or another. You’ll get through it. Be patient. All will work out. Good luck.
     
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    It’s hard to make time without little ones so I feel your pain. I wish the wife and I discovered chastity when we younger. Before cell phones and the internet, I could be wrong but life seemed simpler and we had more time. Maybe it just because I was younger and more energy then but it’s seemed different.
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    Sooo happy to hear from you two! Hoping we get into the swing of things again as well.
     
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    Hi Nic!!! Your picture has changed a little since last time! Is that you??? If so, looking good!
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    Well it’s me but hair is fake and it’s a lot of make up! I don’t normally look like that, just trying it on for fun.

    funny, I was just thinking of changing it to something less...boobyish
     
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    Well, for what it’s worth you look great and I like the boobies!!
     
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    Well thanks, they are starting to grow on me too, literally lol!
     
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    I remember those days, especially when the kids started school. Once they came home from the germ factory (school) it was a month of sickness going thru the house. First the kids, then me, and then the wife. Once you were over it, a new one came. I think it was a full 2 years before we built up enough immunity before we could go out and have fun.
     
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    Welcome back and nice to have you back
     
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    Welcome back!
     
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    Welcome back,

    I know how stressful kids can be so give it time, as long as you are both motivated you will find space for intimacy. Congrats on the little one!
     
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    Welcome.
    Congrats for your baby.
     
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    Welcome back! My wife and I have been in a similar back and forth. Our daughter is 14 months now. I have stayed locked up most of the time though. She still enjoys me locked even if there is no play time and I enjoy it as well.

    Glad you two are back to feeling better and enjoying some fun again!
     
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    Wow! She kept you locked the whole time? May I ask why? Was it something you wanted? Was it because having a new kid is just exhausting so it’s easier to lock you? I’m actually a little intrigued. We’ve just been vanilla these past 20 months with some kink interspersed here and there. It was hard for me to be all softspoken and nurturing to our sweet little daughter and then flip to Domme at night - especially when I was exhausted when she was having a bad day or something. It’s getting easier now, thankfully.
     
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    It would be hard to do that kind of switch, in emotion and tone, while dealing with a little one. We weren't doing anything kinky when hers were little, even regular sex was rare. But getting back here and checking in, is a good sign. Hope it goes well.
     
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    You will be able to get the great times going again. We did and are in our 70s and are still going at it. Just a damper though. Interruptions will still occur from time to time though because you will always want to support your children when they may need you.
     
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    I haven’t been locked the entire time, just most of it! Probably been free maybe 3-4 months total since conception. Nothing too interesting, we don’t have a very D/s relationship, she just enjoys me locked and knows I prefer it. I’d love if she would play the Domme role but that’s just not where we ended up in all of this. Sex has been extremely rare since I introduced chastity way back when we were dating.

    I can only imagine it would be very tough to switch that side on. Having a baby has definitely changed everything, in so many ways. Definitely a challenge to find the energy at the end of the day. Glad to hear it’s getting easier for you though!
    We have been extremely lucky that our daughter has been sleeping through the night (most nights) since very early on.
     
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    Welcome back. We missed reading what you was up to.
    Have no fear, ample play time will be back before you realize it and the little one will be off driving somewhere. It happens fast. Just play what you can for now and enjoy everything life has brought you. like they said, it gets easier faster than you think.
     
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    Welcome back! And good luck on your new journey!
     
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    Its great when they sleep through the night finally...and then its awesome when they no longer need diapers$$$ glad all is going good.
     
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    My hubby and I are trying to get back into it now but our 3 year old has thrown a wrench in the plan...will not sleep outside of our room . he is caged but no action for now lol
     
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    Great, hope it works out for you both
     
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