Marriage and No Penetration

Yesterday my wife wanted to play a game, that would give me a chance to get out of her cage. The bet was if I was able to escape from her choice of bondage for me, I could have 7 days out of her cage. If I failed then Her cage would remain locked and never unlock again. I accepted the challenge because I'm already locked up and this was a chance to be free.
Her choice of bondage was pallet wrap and one chain. She started by wrapping plastic over my shoulders and thru my crotch 10 times over each shoulder. Then she started going around my waist up to my arm pits. Then she wrapped filament tape all around that and locked the chain with pad lock between my crotch. She basically made a PLASTIC harness with the chain attached to my butt. She wasn't done. Then she started wrapping more plastic starting at my knees and going up to my shoulders. She did 10 layers of that too. When she finished with the plastic, she cut a whole in the butt area and pulled the chain thru it and totally wrapped me up with filament tape from my knees up to my shoulders and then taped over my shoulders so I couldn't just push the cocoon of plastic down and escape.
After all that she then padlocked the chain to a shackle on the wall. I had less than a inch of movement from the wall.
Then she set a time limit of 5 hrs to get out. If the time ran out before I could escape, then she wins and I loose.
After 5 hrs, I lost. I tried everything to get out but it was impossible. She was so happy with herself. That she actually was able to keep me trapped.
She was so proud that she left me trapped for another 3 hours before she finally cut me out of it. Usually when she wraps me I'm able to escape but she was very clever in the way she applied the plastic and then the filament tape. She never used the tape before. That's what screwed me.
So I'm still locked permanently. Caged will never come off for any reason.
I hope she gives me another chance to win. I will figure out a way to cheat . She cheated using that tape.

 

Multiple answers here. There are plenty of married couples who do not have intercourse, most of whom have been married for many years. That doesn't mean they aren't deeply committed, they just dont get the level of enjoyment out of intercourse they once did.

Then, there are the "kinksters", like many of us here. When I went into chastity almost 4 years ago, she decided on no more PIV. And that's how it's been, and we both love it. I have no doubt that my cock will never feel the inside of a vagina again. (at least as long as we are both alive) And I'm comfortable with that.

 

My wife and I had not been having sex for months before chastity and when there are months without chastity (cage issues caused us to have to stop for a while) we don’t have sex then either. I don’t think that she is interested in my penis as she does a very strict about making sure I’m never released. I’m about 4.9 inches and now she has an 8 inch dildo which I’ve seen her ride and suck like she never did to me. She’s also very happy that I can never masturbate to porn and that I do all the housework including folding her bras and panties. My guess is that she is very relieved that she doesn’t feel any pressure to have to have sex and pretend she’s interested in or enjoying my penis,

 

My wife decided about 7 years ago that there would be no more PIV or any other form of sexual between us. Though I suffer from ED viagra is a solution but she refuses to contemplate that as a solution.
After a number of discussions it became obvious that this situation was not going to change.
I then developed my interest in chastity where I am self locked and then progressed into cross dressing.
After 40 years of marriage our sex life is non existent but I have my own private solo sex life.

 

This was close to how my marriage was for years. My wife always hated being penetrated. She would only let me do it a few times per year, and sometimes made me stop after just a few thrusts because it hurt. She did not allow masturbation, so I spent a lot of time being very frustrated and occasionally found ways to sneak in some masturbation.

I suffered from gender dysphoria pretty much my whole life and actually found sex very awkward and weird. The problem was I still had a sex drive in spite of me not liking it. It was a really terrible place to be for a long time. We eventually found chastity devices and it helped both of us for a few years. She liked knowing I wouldn't penetrate her and I liked not having erections.

Eventually I began to transition for reasons not related to our bedroom activities. But with the hormone treatment came changes in sexual function. I have been greatly relieved to have a super low sex drive. So, the whole horniness thing isn't there anymore. On the rare occasions that I do get really aroused, it only gets about 2 inches long and not stiff enough to do anything with, so my days of penetrating my wife are officially over. I couldn't do it even if I wanted to. Plus, it hurts to get that hard now, and even light touches on the penis when hard kind of hurts. I can't really use it for anything sexual anymore. Not even masturbation. If I have an orgasm, it comes by other means now.

 

Hmm.

To add to the responses, my wife and i haven't had PIV in four years now. Before that point it was, at most, once a month. Since being married we managed just 23 times - that's now less than twice a year as an average. However, this was one-sided. Initially my wife blamed me for not doing things right, or too slowly, or too quickly, or any number of reasons. Maybe it was children, maybe it was me, why not both?

The difference here is that, while she is perfectly happy, there is no real sharing of this. Sure, i'm in chastity, but without her knowledge or acquiescence. There's not a lot of 'care' there for me. There's been no physical or sexual contact since that time four years ago and, before that, there was a gap of around 9 months.

Not sure if that counts or is hot, but there you go. Oh, 12 years married.

 

@Consensus I've been in your shoes. I am sorry to hear that your wife just doesn't care about your needs. It is an awful thing to feel alone in a marriage.

 

Stories like spouses trapped in sexless marriages (not by choice) just make me so sad.

 

I can't get it up without Viagra and she will not allow me to take it very often (a few times a year). We have sex multiple times a day but no PIV and we are both ok with it. She has her orgasms every other night with her magic wand, but never has with little willy.

 

My E.D.has made penetrative sex pretty much impossible, meds really don’t help, so we have both agreed that being inside her for disappointing sex at this point is just not worth it, hence the long term direction towards Chastity. At least we both can say I’m not trying to play with myself without her and she knows that if she wants to make me orgasm, it will be what she expects, no more me “taking the edge off”. We used to fuck like rabbits when we were younger, we both laugh now and say maybe we wore my cock out... lol

 

Lucky you.

 

We are on a "kocked until I say

Similar situation. Over time, the vibe and the dildo became her go to. I can still get hard with a combination of blue pill and a couple weeks locked. But I don't stay hard. We had many good years of PIV , so now I really don't mind being replaced by her toys. I just sit back and enjoy the show. She sometimes let's me masturbate my soft litle dick while I watch (if I have been a good boy).

It ain't so bad.

 

know the space well... I enjoy getting her off and being kept locked. And when I was able to stroke my cock in the past, it was the same half limp deal. And her new phrase is “pussy free living for you”... it’s our inside joke to ourselves... good times for sure.

 

Further to my post I just wish my wife would have some interest in making our marriage a sort of sexual relationship by being a key holder but I know she would never entertain something so disgusting as a chastity cage.
It is very sad really she makes sure I never see her fully naked and even if I do happen to be around when changing etc she always ensures her back is to me. When we were having a sexual relationship it was always in the dark, make sure there I s a towel underneath and so on. She never initiated sex.

 

I had PIV once with my S.O. at the beginning of our relationship. Since then for the last 11 years I have had no PIV sex. I just do my best to serve her and be obedient.

 

Man, that's a rough situation there. I hope you can find some happiness!

 

Been married 28 years. Haven't had full on sex in 3 years, with 5 minutes of PIV while holding still over a year ago. With the wife I wear a strap on, and with the keyholder, there is no genital pleasure. We decided to retire my guy parts while they still worked OK, but were starting to become un-reliable. I was given a lot of freedom to explore kink wise by my wife, and being locked and denied going forward is made easier by having no regrets in terms of sexual experiences. Wife prefers toys, keyholder prefers bdsm.

 

i am in a similar situation as many have mentioned here. i can't remember the last time i was allowed PIV. She has been the 'top" for a very long time. But my situation became much more severe when i started taking blood pressure medicine as this caused some E.D. After numerous disappointing performances in bed She admitted that PIV would sometimes cause Her pain anyways so at that point She decided to keep me chaste semi permanently.

my penis is now tucked between my legs and held there with 'tucking' panties designed for transgenders. The Bijou cage locked on my member has a severe downward curve to it and works well these tucking panties . i also wear these panties when i sleep, thus all of my attempted erections are now held close to my crotch. Morning wood was waking me up but over the past few months but have gradually become accustomed to this new 'normal'.

This is a real mind fuck for me. When we spoon at night there is no penis in site. i gyrate my hips forward but no longer feel an erect head pushing toward Her vagina. From a masculine perspective my penis no longer exists. my penis is always 'bowing' to her presence even when i am very horny. i feel very emasculated.

Once in a blue moon, if i display enough good behavior over a period of time i am allowed an orgasm. She puts me in bondage, unlocks the vibrator and applies it to my chaste member tucked between my legs. She tells me i orgasm like a woman now.

i digress, my apologies.

 

No penetration for me in 41 months, and there won't be any again. Hand jobs only, about twice a month or less.

 

Amazing how. Simular our present situation is like you I am in chastity without my wife's knowledge or acquiescence. I couldn't work with a kh as you do but now miss my cage if I have to take it off.

 

My wife enjoys PIV but also enjoys having me locked. She is becoming more assertive and I always comply with her needs. We use unlock times as a reliving of our honeymoon. These times coincide with some event that keeps me unlocked for a few days but she is insistent on locking back up at the first opportunity.

 

I was rereading the post above I wrote a week or so ago, and realized I should have phrased it differently.

I should have written: "My wife enjoys penetration almost every day, but not with me. No penetration for me in 41 months, and there won't be any again. Hand jobs only, about twice a month or less."

 

I have been cut off from PIV since the start of the year. She need not worry about Ed issues. When she wants PIV, Mrs S. Will have me wear her favorite strapon or have a romp with a bull.
Outside of PIV, she has helped me become great with my tongue and fingers.