I've been chaste so long (3 years without using my penis for sex, or sex while unlocked) that when I look at porn, or imagine doing it again, I feel like I'm a virgin again. Anyone else feel like it would be awkward, weird and quick if you were required to perform?
The topic interests me. I've always felt some degree of awkward, weird and (sometimes quick). This is part of the reason I am sexually submissive, and ambivalent about taking charge. I like it when my wife (playfully) taunts me with this kind of stuff. What is your relationship status, and would you want to remain a Born Again Virgin? Or do you want the excitement of losing that status?
I certainly understand the feelings. That's one reason, I'm comfortable wearing a cage and severely limiting or denying any erections or orgasms. Submitting to a Mistress who is training me to think of surrendering anally or providing oral stimulation as the only proper ways to express my sexuality fits with the idea of no PIV.
25 years later, my Wife still teases me that i was a Virgin when we met. i was intimidated by her and a bit anxious. Sometimes she teases me about giving me my virginity back.
A friend of mine told me that after 7 years of of being permanently locked and denied she will start referring to me as virgin again. So I guess the answer is virtually yes
Nah, it would be like riding a bike for me. You might fall over and hurt yourself once or twice, but you would get back into the groove quick enough.
To clarify my status, I'm married 30 years, and also in a D/s relationship with a friend of ours, who is in charge of my chastity. My wife likes the simplicity of sex with me wearing a strap-on, and other than a brief attempt at penetration a year ago, that's what we do. With my keyholder, we engage in BDSM, but she doesn't use me for sex, although I am used for sensual massage, which she prefers to sex. Wearing a device that pushes the penis into the body, and being denied as I am, I find I don't identify with thoughts or images of guys with erections like I used to. Seeing sex is like seeing it before I'd had it, and going back to doing it would feel pretty strange, despite having plenty of intimacy and sexual contact. I also am far more wired to give pleasure now, and don't have the same need to experience having pleasure beyond what I give, if that makes sense. The attempt at penetration last year also showed that my penis has gotten way too sensitive, being up inside. Probably similar to someone uncircumcised, who exposes the head to find it's too much.
it sounds like you have a MUCH more active sex life than just about any virgin, notwithstanding that you seemed “retired” from PIV. What virgin has that kind of intimacy?
My penis stays locked for any intimacy, and due to Crohn's disease, my ass is off limits to penetration. Basically, I'm a Ken doll with nuts, and a keyholder who likes to whip nuts.
Apart from the thread's topic I want to congratulate you for your luck in being dominated by two Women! Absolutely double fun!
You can’t undo “never” but maybe you can remain in or return to a state of being “naive, innocent, or inexperienced” and thus a “born again virgin”.