My journey to FLR marriage with husband locked in chastity

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    Thats very nice of you. Do you still have piv with him if he is good? Or, is he not allowed to have piv?
     
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    How does it look like any light on this please
     
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    So I guess not?
     
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    what is his duties in a normal day
     
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    She has answered this multiple times. She does not have piv with him.

    Look at her prior entries.
     
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    OK cool. I have not read all the prior post sorry.
     
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    My bad for not reading the whole thread. I won't bother you with anymore questions.
     
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    Makes me even more interested in those belts. Could easily understand why it's emasculating that the bulge disappears below. Might psychologically be a challenge to overcome indeed. The good thing is feeling more "owned" and secure rather than those cages. I personally hate those regular cages the bulge looks odd and is in the way when wearing certain things my skin tend to pinch so would rather have a tube it could just slide inside. Cages also hurt the ball sack so maybe it would be better to go in this direction. Did you notice any change in him after wearing this type of belt over the regular cages? How about you personally do you prefer for asterics reasons or maybe more for security?
     
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    I wish I could trade with your husband. Or if my wife could have a fraction of your liberal sexuality and attitude. Love reading your blog
     
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    OK, I wanted to post this since I read the blog, and now with the "black lives matter" protests, it came to my mind again, and maybe I feel more courage to bring this observation, and maybe opinion, up. Mean Bitch is black empowered woman, and her slave is a white guy. This is just the reverse of the history, where white males owned black slaves, and women in general used to be subservient. I say power to the women, and black women and any other culturally repressed and stigmatized minorities especially. It is time we start all treat each other equally. I feel your dynamic is helping to balance the historic wounds and stigmas. Power to you!
     
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    Freaky Rabbit.....

    Errrr slight issue of consent and free will....
     
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    Since you brought it up, you can explain more.
     
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    The historical references you draw the comparison with were without consent or free will.
    The arrangement described in this thread is with mutual consent and free will.

    There is no comparison, or helping of balancing old wounds...the two scenarios are completely different.
     
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    Oh, now I see what you mean. Yes, they are different and I was not trying to say they are same. What I mean that this consensual role play, is something that may be healing some of the society stigmas and old wounds.
     
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    Not many of these women around.
     
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    The switch from a cage to a full belt was a watershed moment in the evolution of our FLR.

    My motivation was for increased security but the effect of putting my husband into the Neosteel went far beyond making sure he was locked up. Not being able to see or touch his penis, having a completely flat front with no bulge whatsoever proved to be completely emasculating, and the attitude adjustment that he experienced was and is palpable. There was no more manhood to cling to and no doubt that he was, to put it bluntly, a bitch. My bitch, to be specific.

    It has been an ongoing, slow process to reset his mindset and to internalize his subservience, but the switch to the belt was hugely helpful, a pleasant surprise for me.
     
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    Thanks! But I need to say "be careful what you wish for".

    I understand now that some men dream about this lifestyle, but the reality of a 24/7 FLR under a woman like me is that it's very demanding, emotionally and physically. My husband knows its best for him and appreciates the benefits, but even after years he still struggles with being under my control, essentially losing his manhood, and having to deal with an entirely new sexual dynamic. Adopting this lifestyle is not something to be entered into lightly.
     
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    It's impossible to know how many of us are around, but I suspect that there are many women with domineering tendencies who have been conditioned not to express those feelings, and to suppress their desire to be the boss in their relationships. I know that it took me a while to assert myself and to let my selfish ways surface.
     
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    I work in a jewelry store and work with couples all the. I feel because I’m more in tune with the FLR
    lifestyle plus having a degree in interpersonal communication I find I can read couples fairly well.

    I see a lot of guys come into my store who like to think/behave like they’re in charge or act like the dominant in the relationship. It becomes pretty evident to me when the decisions need to be made the female partner is really the one in charge. If she wants something done her way or wants to shut her man down It usually doesn’t take long before I see the nonverbal communication take place between the two and she gets her way. I see this with all age ranges, not just younger couples. It’s usually the older couples where the man really tries to put on a show like he has to prove something or is protecting his manhood lol. I think there are at least as many dominant women as there are men out there but as you said, due to societal reasons you would never really know.
     
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    It's also possible that many people of both sexes are simply unfit to lead. Leadership always comes with responsibility and it is unbearable for a great many. I agree with you about social conditioning, but as any conditioning, it's a tool to shape the material, and if it just isn't there, it won't work.
     
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    Thank you for your latest updates, Ms. MeanBitch. It's always such a pleasure to log on to read your thoughts and learn more about your philosophy. I'm sure many feel the same way.
     
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    I am, for one, is ' ' this close to give up my manhood and control, though circumstance dictates it could only happen inside the house. Hence wishing my wife would take up more control. She's already a dominant character at home and I follow her wishes and demands most of time already. The last remaining is perhaps inside the bedroom, which I'm very willing to give up.
     
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    I'm rather appalled that this thread still exists. It is also very unsettling that so many members here view enforced chastity as an actual method of 24/7/365 extreme behavioral modification, rather than a kink a couple enjoys as part of their sexual relationship with each other. How many times throughout this thread does she point how embarrassed he is. Embarrassment should be enjoyed by subs that use it as a kink. It should not be a major factor in one's enforced chastity life. Despite how much she claims they enjoy each other's company, this is not the foundation of a healthy relationship or partnership.
     
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    But this thread goes to Eleven.
     
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    Not sure I agree with this assumption. He has a choice to leave and move on with his life without her if he chooses. He may have to start over financially but he can leave if he wants.
     
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