My wife prefers my penis to our larger strap ons but i prefer the opposite

I am in a similar situation. We bought a sleeve that makes her wild when we use it and she cums so hard. Yet she still prefers me. Th here isnt a cookie cutter for everyone’s chastity relationship, just figure out a happy medium for y’all where you get what you like but most importantly she gets what she wants. If she unlocks you often either don’t cum or ruin it. My wife isn’t really into ruining so sometimes I do it to myself and don’t let her know!

 

I agree, just because she prefers your penis to a dildo doesn’t mean you should be allowed to cum or orgasm to!

 

Same queries I have too

 

We have had this made, it hasnt arrived yet. It was my KH idea. Completely covered head section
Link below

https://www.shapeways.com/product/8...tom-ckc-6nxsh5-20?optionId=154028732&li=shops

 

Have you looked into finding a cyber-skin (or similar) dildo closer to your size? It would have a more realistic look and feel, and also be closer to what she wants.

Otherwise, I vote for just ruining your orgasm.

 

That's a delicate balance, but i would favor her desires. Byrdie's suggestions might be best approach, especially if you had dildo you could switch out to prevent your climax.

 

I don’t know the specifics of your relationship, but it seems to me if she wants piv, then you just go with piv.
We can’t hand over the key (and everything it represents) and then insist it has to be on our terms, irrespective of what she likes.

 

If you become really good at giving oral, then she might get to prefer it.
All you have to do is to get her off more by oral than PIV.

To do it you need lots of practice
Start by when she wants PIV, give oral first as part of the foreplay, then over time increase how long and how intense the oral part gets, until eventually it becomes the event, rather than the starter.
It will take time, and she may always every now and then want full PIV, if you're being submissive in chastity, then that's her prerogative, but it's much easier to change things little by little, than in one sudden change. On that journey, she (and you) might notice that with less orgasms yourself you become more loving, when it 'clicks' there's no going back.

 

Numbing cream?

 

If she wants it, give it to her!

 

Think of it as control. If wants your penis, then she's should be allowed it. Like others have said, try some numbing cream and put on a thick condom.

 

My wife's feelings on dildos, strap-ons and PIV changed over the years...

She used to enjoy the strap-on more often than not, but then she would still want me to put on a snugger fit condom afterwards so I could get off too, which generally only took a few seconds and that's assuming I didn't cum in my panties while working the strap-on. Overall the feeling was still like we were having regular PIV sex the whole time, and it was clear that she was imagining that the much larger strap-on dildo was my dick. But that dildo was not very realistic feeling. The satisfaction came from it being large enough that she could actually feel it, as well as it having the stamina I did/do not.

And sometimes she would say she just wanted to feel me inside her and we would skip the strap-on. Again, it was clear that the strap-on dildo did not feel enough like a real cock.

We also tried chin dildos, extension sleeves, virtually every kind of toy that's made to be inserted in a vagina.

The turning point when everything changed was when I bought her a very large (8x6.5"), very realistic feeling (VixSkin, I believe), dark-skinned dildo. To be perfectly clear, we do not engage in any race play, and the only reason I mention it is that the pigment of the dildo so clearly does not match my own very light skin. That combined with the fact that it is not attached to me like a strap-on or extension sleeve, opens up a whole world of role play scenarios, specifically involving cuckolding. The dildo itself is incredibly satisfying for her because of its size and also because it feels very much like a real, big cock. And when I work that dildo for her I can lick and finger her clit and/or anus, worshiping her as the submissive cuck we both know I am.

The reason I say that was a turning point is that now all of her sexual needs are being more than satisfied, and it's in a way that neither of us would or could pretend that I am "man enough" to do it. She has incredible orgasms, and we are both very much aware that each of us is imagining another man is there having sex with her while I'm only helping in the only way I can.

And with that turning point she finally gave up on having me inside her at all.