Found my boyfriends device by accident

Is anyone still giving odds on verification for this poster? Last I heard they were going off at 10:1.

 

Does it really matter? Got a real interesting thread out of it, with lots of posts and great suggestions. If it's true, great for her (and him). If not, been a nice read.

 

To some of us, it does matter. This is one of a very small set of online spaces where people are attempting to navigate actually living a Femdom lifestyle in a tangible Female Led Relationship, so when fiction masquerades as reality, it is problematic. There is a section on the site set up for fiction.

 

I remember a time when the site was welcoming and encouraging. It seems to have become hostile and antagonistic. The content has suffered as a result. Just one long term members opinion.

 

If you were watching something on TV you didn't like you'd change channels.

CM has always been a fantastic place, unlike the rest of the Internet, zero flaming, swearing is almost zero. Maybe it's the chastity devices that makes the men more docile. Whatever it is, let's keep it good and magical, and a lot of the chastity lifestyle only exists in the head

 

I'm sorry if i misspoke, or offended anyone. I enjoyed the thread but also don't want to make waves. I really cherish our community and hope we can continue to enjoy each others' thoughts and experiences.

 

The content isn't presented in a titillating or salacious manner. If it's fiction meant to be wank fodder, it's doing a poor job of it.

It may be BS, but it presents a very real situation that has undoubtedly played out in the lives of the members here whether they know it or not (a significant other finds a device that had been kept a secret).

I don't see the potential harm here. But running her off as an imposter, on the other hand.... The potential for harm is real.

 

Whenever humans form a community, there are those that apoint themselves gatekeepers. Claiming to keep the community pure. Whilst their goals are often laudable, there inflexibility often destroys the very institution they sought to protect. I dont think we need it here.

 

It may start that way, until a sucker bites in. I was for lack of better term “hit on” via IM on here. It started very similar to this thread. “Gee, I just found this in my hot roommate’s dresser. I googled it and it confused me so I joined here...Yada, yada.” Eventually it became obvious this person was catfishing.
In short, I am skeptical, particularly with the OP’s scarce responses to their own post.

 

Totally agree with those who have said go with giving benefit of the doubt.

I myself was into the bdsm/kink/chastity lifestyle long before I was with my wife and I would say I kept it hidden from her for the first 8-9 years quite easily, as she does not have the same kind of kink drive as myself and it took me forever to break the ice and broach the subject. So 3 years is nothing! Even now she really doesn't know just how much experience I have had or some of my more extreme kinks.

 

One thing to consider is that gate keeping can lead to self editing. Recently my KH and I decided to not write about something we had a blast doing because of a worry that we would be thought of as making it up. It is hard to know who to believe, but that is probably an unintended consequence of gate keeping.

 

For whatever it's worth, speaking purely from a personal standpoint, if a Verified Woman, or sub of a Verified Woman posts something, I believe it. No additional proof ever needed.

As an aside, GoddessofHomebody totally wears your key the same way that mine does (same chain length and everything!)

 

Authenticity of the thread now withstanding, the person I shared this with had plenty of questions, most not the exciting kind.
1. Does he feel self hate? Want to punish himself?
2. Does he dislike his penis? Does he have gender issues?
3. Is he gay? Does he want to lock it away because he can’t come out of the closet?
4. Does he feel guilty about something? Self punishment?
5. Does he find me unattractive? Wants to have less sex with me?

My girlfriend and now wife asked all of those. I explained the best I could, she confirmed with some internet searches, and tested the waters. To be honest I believe she was fairly worried and apprehensive about my reasons for a few months.

She joined here, and as friendly as everyone is, she didn’t particularly get into the whole sharing and friendship thing. One, she didn’t really feel like she needed advice...”I’m in charge of his penis, end of story, thanks”, it’s just not that complicated. Two, she has other interests she spends time on online(Facebook, couponing, reading). Three, in general she’s not big on friends or getting to know others online.

I do believe she read through a bit here though, lurking and seeing what others like me really like, as well as see where this may lead.

 

I would like to add as far as my own skepticism, is it any different than getting blasted by the “you are doing it wrong” purists?

There is a reason I don’t post any new content of my own here anymore, and that is the reason.

 

No. There should be no place for that, either with the caviat that some people do get things wrong and should be corrected.

But I think you are referring to the people who think you should have to get permission to sneeze from your all-powerful keyholder. They are silly to think that they discovered the only way to do chastity.

 

The first reply I ever received here read, in total:

/r/thathappened​

But I stayed anyway In the end lots of fiction posing as non-fiction is shared here, and it's good to remind people that things on the Internet may not be real, but I don't think there's much to be said for calling out individual examples because you never really know. Just read it, think "/r/thathappened" to yourself, and move on.

 

If you're going to bring the subject up with your boyfriend, do one thing first...

Buy yourself a replacement lock of the same size.
Then, when he agrees to be locked up (he will if he owns and has kept the device) you then produce your lock, so even if he has a spare key somewhere, he can't use it, you're in control.

It'll add to the excitement when you both know for certain that you are the only one who has the key.