Excited by the idea of chasty

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    #1 George James, May 22, 2020
    Hi my name is George and I'm new to the group.

    I've been intrigued by the idea of physical restraint and giving up my freedom to play with myself for a while. The thought of handing that power over to someone else is exciting, but also scary.

    Tumblr and Twitter (and especially Goddess L-u-c-y) have only helped bring me to this site as I explore more. Just before writing this note I measured myself and got as far as adding a cage to my shopping cart, but then pulled backed. I'm sure this will happen a few times before I full the trigger, but I'll send an update.

    For background, I'm 55, married and live in the WA, USA. Only wish I know about Chasity earlier in life.

    George
     
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    #2 MissyB, May 22, 2020
    Welcome to our community. I hope you enjoy being here.
     
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    #3 MistressS, May 22, 2020
    Welcome to CM. I'd say go for it. I am sure you'll enjoy it too

    MistressS
     
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    #4 I am tiedup, May 22, 2020
    Welcome, how interested is the wife if it is ok to ask?
     
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    #5 Jessica Alexander, May 22, 2020
    Just start simple with the wife and don’t dump a decade of fantasy ideation on her. Start as a game where she locks you Saturday morning and unlocks you later in the evening if you ha pleased her. Let it evolve from there.
     
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    #6 George James, May 22, 2020
    Thank you
     
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    #7 George James, May 22, 2020
    Thank you
     
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    #8 George James, May 22, 2020
    Honestly that's a great question. My wife doesn't get it. She's as submissive as I am and is not into the whole thing. When I did the dishes in pink panties and an apron she just rolled her eyes and carried on. That said, she did dare me to do same next time she had friends over but I bottled.
     
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    #9 George James, May 22, 2020
    Thanks. Sounds like very sound advice.
     
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    #10 Jessica Alexander, May 23, 2020
    It’s tough when they are submissive too. Many women are turned off by guys wearing women’s cloths so make sure you got a good feel for that. I find other trans women attractive but not turned on at all by a man in panties or other things like that.

    But keep it simple for now and don’t go any further than letting her keep you locked and keeping her equipment ready for her use if you get beyond day play.
     
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    #11 LesterBallard, May 23, 2020
    welcome. Give it a go. What's the worst that could happen?
     
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    #12 madams-sissysub, May 23, 2020
    Hi there and welcome to the mansion!
     
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    #13 Eve, May 23, 2020
    Welcome have fun n enjoy
     
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    #14 George James, May 24, 2020
    Thanks all for the welcomes and encouragement. Quick update: Today I hit order! It was exciting just to to hit this first stage ... but here goes!
     
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    #15 George James, May 28, 2020
    Cage ordered! Wow can't believe I hit order, but very excited I hit the order button!!!

    Didn't go mad on the cost, but just ordered "Eyes On Her Prize (Medium) Metal Cock Cage 4.33 inches long. I'm a shower not a growing so didn't start small....

    Exciting wait ahead!

    George
     
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    #16 elias, May 28, 2020
    And now remain patient when bring the message about the cage to your better half. I think Jessica's advise is very valuable. All the best!
     
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    #17 George James, May 28, 2020
    Good advice, but it'll be interesting to see how that goes. My wife has not really shown interest in my other submissive actives - tends to roll her eyes and carry on. But, we'll see.
     
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    #18 Mistress Julie, May 28, 2020

    Hello George, Well well, another man who craves being locked up. My my.....
    Like my Grand mother used to tell me "Be very careful of what you wish, as one day it just may come true" and very good words indeed.

    But seriously, You need to talk it through with your wife, Im sure thats the only way to go. If she holds the key then thats the whole point. Control!
    If you have the key then its choice, and there really is a big difference. I hold the key to my subs cage I am in charge! Only ME has the power of deciding if he will ever have any sexual pleasure. ME...not him......
    Yes he craved in the early days....even begged. Thats when your wife will begin to realize the power over you. And believe me, that feels so good.
    If you wish, ask you wife to contact me on here, I will only be too happy to help her in any way I can. But one rule we made was
    "Once you cross the line, there will be no turning back"
     
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    #19 cumplexity, May 28, 2020
    Its true, you can be into chastity slowly, slowly,. and one day, you realised this trap is your kink, and someone else have the power on you...
     
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    #20 bondinchas, May 29, 2020
    That's a great answer. Your wife is obviously open minded, or she wouldn't have suggested that, so that's a good omen for the future. Take it slow, and let her find out by herself the benefits of denying you. She'll "get it", but it often won't happen until after you as the chaste "gets it".
    You need to go through that point where you stop "topping from the bottom", and you let the person who was the bottom do the topping their way. Male chastity is actually all about her, not you.
     
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