If you were going to be denied an orgasm, even a ruined one, for a full year (or any length of time longer; just wanted to use a year for the starting gauge), which would be worse: 1) to be locked up without any form of teasing whatsoever and not let out until the year is up 2) to be teased every day for at least 30 minutes.
For me, I would rather be teased daily. As excruciating as that would be knowing there would be no release, it would be better than the alternative. If I go longer than a couple weeks without any teasing, my minds starts to wander to dark places and I start thinking that my wife is no longer attracted to me and doesn’t want anything to do with me sexually.
My situations have always been without teasing, but have never lasted longer than 145 days. I have been denied intercourse for 3 years and 3 months, though. No teasing there either, but I do get hand jobs a couple of times a month, which are violent and as fast as possible. They never last longer than about 20 seconds.
If she is going to ignore you for a year ( # 1) then just take the care off and say we will revisit this in a year. A year of your life wasted if your not going to interact.
To me, being teases while caged is the worst. When wife teases me out of the cage I can at least feel her and when she performs and action there is stimulation however brief. When in a cage, even flicking my cock thru the metal makes me nuts and when she grabs hold of the cage I know she is there but get no pleasure. The physical denial morphs into psychological denial which is worse.
im pretty sure most men crave chastity as it brings a man and woman closer together and there is MORE interaction not less. its just denied a orgasm or release, keeping us focused and attentive. to be caged and not interacted with for a long period of time? thats not healthy IMO whats the point if there is no intimacy? im sure many asexual women would love that version of chastity
Depends on your relationship. I wear a cage to submit to a Superior Female. My goal is to provide pleasure and entertainment for Her. If She enjoys teasing me as a form of Her entertainment then fine. If She'd rather i just serve and focus on Her needs without interruption, then that is best option.
Interesting points made here... Provided there is an actual relationship, the denied sexual contact or 'attention" done every day.. well, there's pros and cons to both... if 'teased' or stimulated daily, I'd agree with the point that if it's for her amusement to witness the caged arousal, then sure, teasing would be wonderful, BUT, if she's not interested in it, then although it's arousing, it's still a turn-off as she's not getting anything out of it.,.,.,
Number 1 of course...we would be like any other elderly couple who just stopped having sex. I have to be teased and denied multiple times a day.
I think it should be No. 2. Chastity Play is all about tease and denial. Being locked up for any significant length of time is just that . . . you quickly get used to and it ultimately becomes 'normal' and even boring. It's the teasing that keeps it fresh and frustrating. Remember, of course, that you don't actually have to take the cage off to be teased. I get more excited and produce way more pre-cum when licking my KH to orgasm than at any other time, without even knowing whether I am going to get out at the end of it.
My keyholder and I communicate on an almost daily basis, and we rarely discuss chastity. I have been denied relief for over a year now, and I would say that regular teasing would be worse.