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  1. BegForDenial
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    How many of you have cheated when your key holder didn't take care of keeping the key away from you?
     
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    im bad at this. very bad. part of the reason i was glad to find the lori cage to keep me honest with pulling out the back. however when my wife is lax wit keeping the key locked up... i have had a weak moment a few times. she has gotten very good about not doing that over the last few months. im hoping this means she is enjoying keeping me frustrated and under her control.
     
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    If my sub would cheat on the chastity, we would have a very serious conversation about our FLR and whether it can continue.

    If you are dissatisfied with the course of your FLR it's time to have a sit down conversation and not time to cheat and ruin your partner's trust.
     
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    We are not in an FLR, and I am not her sub. It's a sex game.
     
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    @MRS.Lilith , respectfully, it's not always or necessarily about dissatisfaction with one's FLR. Men are weak, many men are simply masturbators, incapable of controlling themselves. As @luckyubby83 explains sometimes the solution is better security, not giving up on the FLR you both need.
     
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    I don't cheat.
    I'm in chastity 24/7, I have access to the key and I'm an adult.
    I know that being caged is good for me and for my marriage so I stay caged.
    And yes, orgasms feel good for a moment but being horny is good also, in its own way, and lasts much longer.
    Masturbating used to take away from my relationship with my wife.
    I'm done with it.
     
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    I have access to the key and permission to use it every other day for cleaning. I haven’t cheated that way before, but I have had unauthorized Os (sounds like a breakfast cereal) on a couple of occasions, mostly while locked.
     
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    Are we all not adults here?

    It sounds like you're fully committed to not pleasuring yourself and a cage is not really necessary .
     
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    I'm guilty as charged....and pay the prtice for doing so....ouch!
     
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    Never, the key is always locked in her safe and she never unlocks me.
     
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    Never, I was out of my device for a time and I still didn’t wank. It was a trust thing
     
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    In my longer looker 2 it was possible to shake to orgasm, and if mistress and I had a scrap, id be inclined to let a ruined one go (thats all they ever were), I fessed up to it though and yeah owe!!!, mistress went rather hard on the paddle followed by the switch.

    In the short looker 2 with the tetherspout, there is not enough to shake, I have had a bit of a try out of curiosity but ...i think IF i could get there I would be a sweaty mess, there is just not enough there to get any feeling or get remotely hard....just would not be worth it...and mistress knows better than to leave her wand around at my place...lol because I am pretty sure I could with that.

    But then I would have to own up to it anyway, and while I like the attention from the paddle, mistress can and will really push my limits sometimes and thats not pleasant if I have pissed her off for some reason.
     
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    So many men are addicted to masturbation, and I am supposed to coddle their addiction? Sorry, you got the wrong mistress for that kind of excuse here.

    You might find women elsewhere who support the idea that men can't control themselves, but I am not one of them.
     
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    I am fully committed to not masturbating and my chastity device helps me in two ways. First, the cage obviously makes it very difficult to cum. Second, the cage reduces my feeling of urgent "need" to cum. It makes it easier for me to do what I want to do.
     
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    I have many chine cages, today I found double key and I can unlock my cage with this key...
    My wife don't now about this situation... What can I do?
     
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    Give her the key.
     
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    I’m of the mind that no cage is perfectly secure regardless of what’s advertised. If a man is determined enough to cheat, he will. The real chastity isn’t the physical cage, but your own mental control and self discipline.
     
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    Never...It's been 19 months since my Wife(KH) has locked my penis. I only masturbate now if she allows me to and she is watching.
     
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    I am confident my man has never cheeted. He has access to the key with relative ease. For us chastity play is very psychological not completely physical. Psychologicaly he is very much in the game and if he cheated it would defeat the purpose of everything he wants from this life. That being said we run hot sexually, so we play and are intimate often. For us it isn't as much about complete denial more about my complete control. I decide when, where, how, how much and how often. If he cheats he looses I allow him to decide that.
     
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    Have her change the lock?
     
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    My Goddess/ KH is really bad about holding on to the key she has some sort of a block about it or dosent understand the significance I think it's usually just in a box on her dresser or her jewelry box so I try to be on the honor system. Found the edge game edgemeplease.com and had to try it out. Only made it half way thru the darn game had to stop or ruin several weeks of lock up so it really doesn't count as cheating maybe product testing lol. I did tell her about the game though... And may now be in trouble for pushing as she calls it
     
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    Do you really need to ask?
     
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    I told my wife about my sunday cheat. Not only was it me desperately wanting to cum, because I always do, but it was a bit of me topping from the bottom as they say. She left the house without her key. If the honor system was really all that we wanted we wouldn't be playing this little cage game. Of course nearly any cage can be beaten, but that's not the point. I'm not gonna drill out my lock for 1 jerk off and then have to hand it to her and say let's try again. But letting her know that "hey, if you're lackadaisical with this thing I will be a sneaky slut because I am hardwired to cum every 24 hours minimum" was the goal. I was locked last Friday, scheduled for the possibility, not guaranteed, of cumming this weekend. I let her know Wednesday what I did, and I will be paying a price for that. And she will definitely no longer be letting the key hangout somewhere I can find it. I also told her she should periodically be checking my emergency key that I take with me everywhere. I crafted a sleeve for it and a plastic number lock needs to be broken to use it. She's never checked it and I could have used it anytime, but I haven't. I doubt I will have a chance at such an easy cheat for a good long time.
     
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    I know my wife, and simply telling her that I need her to keep the key away from me would not have been good enough. Showing her what I'll actually do if I have easy access was the only way. Our chastity relationship is not one of celibacy and servitude, we use it for sex purposes, so this was not some massive breaking of trust. She knows I want to cum all the time. And when I'm not locked I'm not expected to not masturbate. If there's one thing I dislike about the chastity community, it's how masturbation is often frowned upon or blamed for relationship problems.
     
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    No, ma'am, you are not supposed to or expected to coddle such behavior. As suggested, improved security and enhanced discipline should be employed to terminate such selfish behavior.
     
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