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    #26 Alceste, Mar 1, 2020
    Why, because people are talking about you in public in the third person? At least they are not using the past tense.
     
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    #27 tomf_22033, Mar 1, 2020
    I hope not. Hope you’re around for a long long time.
     
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    #28 LesterBallard, Mar 1, 2020
    Better bloody not be. Our own Miss Lucy is our voice of reason in a crazy world. We need you, Miss.
     
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    #29 johnjames55, Mar 2, 2020
    I am so sorry, I meant no offence but didn't want to bother you if anything was wrong, and you must be so busy with emails/messages. Again please accept my appology for my mistake.
     
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    #30 whizz, Mar 2, 2020
    In my case, it is not even about PC. They see that I am into chastity and in some chastity groups, that I don't have a partner or KH listed and just start sending me unsolicited messages that just randomly insult me, tell me how much of a loser I am and that I belong owned by a goddess like *insert generic name here*, I need to lock up and send her a tribute because all I am good for is my money". Bitch, I live in golddigger capital of Germany, if I want a golddigger I pick a 9/10 up at a bar, one that is not 3/10 trailer trash like you. Interestingly, these "dommes" mainly seem to be US based and on all their pics it's either a messy dorm room or some trailer.......

    Sorry, I am really annoyed about that :D
     
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    #31 Alceste, Mar 2, 2020
    Block once, block often!

    I was referring to the general movement that certain groups "own" certain practices and behaviors, have all of the answers, and everyone else is wrong. And if anyone questions them, they get attacked. I have seen it on many occasions.

    There are also groups who believe that they serve as enforcers of a code of ethics and behavior. They will condemn and attack both dominants and submissives which violate that code.
     
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    #32 L-u-c-y, Mar 2, 2020
    Most profiles like that are probably men with a few stolen photos.

    Any "Goddess" that needs to approach men is not a Goddess.

    I've been on fetlife for 5 years and have never messaged any sub first.
     
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    #33 L-u-c-y, Mar 2, 2020
    This is the same with a lot of people these days, if you agree with them 99% but disagree 1% that proves that you hate them and are therefore scum.
     
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    #34 GoddessLslave, Mar 2, 2020
    I'm glad I left Fetlife about 4 months ago...
     
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    #35 L-u-c-y, Mar 2, 2020
    I think fetlife is a great site, but a lot of members are trying to ruin it with politics.
     
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    #36 GoddessLslave, Mar 2, 2020
    How do you mean?
     
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    #37 MRS.Lilith, Mar 3, 2020
    Thinking of leaving Fetlife myself, it's giving me nothing but thirsty subs that don't read my profile that states I am already happy with my one sub and not looking for another.
     
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    #38 keysandlocks, Mar 3, 2020
    I no longer get any messages at all on FetLife.Think they have all given up, as I ignore and block 99% of them.
     
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    #39 Pasmem, Mar 3, 2020
    Well said, except She's not "our own Miss Lucy". In any case, we belong to Her.
     
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    #40 LesterBallard, Mar 3, 2020
    Quite right. I consider myself corrected. :)
     
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    #41 filltee, Mar 5, 2020
    When you have something s big as Fet with as many members you are bound to encounter some people whos views are more extreme than your own and some that differ from your own. I have no problem with any of that.
    What I object to is that some people get stuff taken off or even get blocked for minor /petty and alleged offenses whilst their exista s double standard as there are others that get away with stuff which ought not to be tolerated if all were being treated equally.
     
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    #42 Xileh, Mar 6, 2020
    I respectfully disagree. I belong to a woman, but not Miss Lucy, as delightful as that experience may be.

    She does own this site. Therefore, I agree to her rules and desires. I consider them to be absolute. And, she has my respect for the quality of her efforts and the positive contribution to our lives. It would not be what it is, without her.
     
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    #43 L-u-c-y, Mar 6, 2020
    @Pasmem and @LesterBallard were referring to themselves, and they do belong to me : )
     
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    #44 Xileh, Mar 6, 2020
    My goodness, you do love a challenge. My respect for you just increased.
     
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    #45 LesterBallard, Mar 6, 2020
    Confirmed
     
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    #46 Pasmem, Mar 6, 2020
    Thank You for Your answer, Madame. I'm proud belonging to You.
     
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    #47 Achedlock17, Mar 7, 2020
    Only having been on Fetlife myself for a brief period a few years ago, I can barely recall it now.
    Perhaps Fetlife has since been infected with the cancel culture meme from mainstream society, and given there are so many rigid categories in BDSM it is too easy for apostates to be identified and abused, and too easy for the monitors of the definition of those categories to take all the fun away?
     
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    #48 L-u-c-y, Mar 7, 2020
    Very much so. A lot of discussions end up being about trans/race/womens/sexworkers rights. It's very tiring.
     
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    #49 krystalasbaby, Mar 7, 2020
    I definitely find the same issue on Fetlife. The so called FinDommes i just forward to my Mistress and let her deal with them. So called male Doms have to keep referring to my Mistress for permission. Some of the men i really believe don't see a Dominant woman for more than a sex toy. You Miss Lucy please keep putting them in their place along with my Mistress.
    Now some of the so called sissies, lets see; clean shaven, no. Ok for job reasons they feel uncomfortable unless they dropping their underpants no one except wife is going to see the no hair and the beard got to go.
    The ones who can not get the message "YOU DON'T TOP FROM THE BOTTOM." They need to be blocked.
     
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    #50 sillymaid, Mar 7, 2020
    Goes and checks the nutters message post to make sure I'm not there.......
     
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