Could this really be it?

I hope for your sake she doesn’t read this and put two and two together

 

Have you considered being open and honest with her about this site and your being a member of it instead of hiding it? Have you considered a nice conversation about your excitement and want to take that journey together? Have you thought about the fact of the resource this site could be to her and a mean for you both to come closer together through it?

To many here, your described situation is what they are seeking and honesty will likely net you more trust than trying to hide it. Also, it's kinda childish in a way to hide that fact that you knew about and are a member here, as if you can't trust the person that you're agreeing to be submissive to? Is that how you think you should honor that trust, with omission of the truth? I think you need to have a nice sit down over dinner or whatever activity that you can both speak to each other while holding hands.

 

So you're saying you don't trust her? I mean I could be wrong here and I might be, but I'd love for one of the female keyholders here to weigh in on this one because generally speaking being honest with your partner is better than them finding out later that you were dishonest through omission (or hiding it) from them as the circumstances will likely be worse for you later than if you brought it to the forefront now and if the picture you're trying to paint is as you say, I would think that your punishment would be far worse later than the possible reward you might get now. Just saying. I mean you do you, but don't say I didn't try to help or warn you. Also, the motto of this site might be something to think about "Be careful what you wish for." You might get more than you bargained for and then some.

 

I know exactly where your coming from with this. My wife doesn’t known that I use this site. I think very early on I might have sent her some links to here but, beyond that, in don’t believe she knows it exists.
But as a bit of a ‘white lie’ I’m happy to carry on like this. I believe we all need somewhere where we can talk and ask questions and that should be independent on our significant other. Normally close friends do this role but perhaps not for what gets discussed here!

 

Same situation here.

 

I’d love for my wife to join and actively seek advice/support. But I believe she’s see ‘us’ playing as between ‘us’ and wouldn’t want to involve others.

 

I send almost all of my blog posts to Wonder Woman because she enjoys reading them. On occasion I’ll send her a thread I see here if I really like it. I tried to get her more involved at the Mansion when we first started chastity but she never took an interest in this online community. I’ve prompted her a couple of times in the last 5 years to join but she’s never been interested. I love being able to come here and ask questions, brainstorm and get my thoughts out. However there are several posts made by me that might make her raise an eyebrow. Nothing I’m ashamed of and I’ve been open and honest with her so it’s not like I’ve hidden anything but I’ve gone more into depth on topics like cuckolding and sissification in some of my posts. She would absolutely not be upset about the posts by any means but definitely be curious and I might have to answer some hard questions lol. Ultimately I want to be as open as possible with her and want her to always know the truth. This forum has helped me better communicate with my goddess and be more open with her about difficult to talk about topics. I don’t know everything you’ve discussed on here @slave stroppy but maybe it’s time to come clean with her and let her know you’re a member and give her your member name. Let her read through your posts and thoughts, maybe she’ll read through all of it or maybe not because there’s so much content. At any rate you’ll feel better about not hiding anything from her and she’ll know your fantasies and desires. Sounds like she’s taking this lifestyle seriously so it might be a big step forward for the two of you. Also this site is totally anonymous, yes your details are here but it’s not like anyone actually knows who either of you are. I think you’re better off being truthful with her because if she’s willing to take things to the level Like she said she wanted to I doubt she would give it up so easily.

 

My goddess looks at chastity as “just between us” also, perhaps that’s why she’s never wanted to join and meet others. She did tell her best friend about us which could potentially open Wonder Woman up to discussing our lifestyle with others. Ultimately I just wanted her to meet other women who also enjoy the lifestyle, I’ve learned so much from the friends I’ve made here.

 

Seems it has come full circle my friend. I can understand the amount of time waiting for her to get on board was very frustrating. I have been here long enough to see the progress you have made. I agree that honesty is the best. We all have different interactions with our partners. I joined just after she went ' full domme'.

I would always side with truth, but in your case you need to do what is right for you. Your truth has been in process for quite some time. I'm with you all the way . In our recent conversation I am sending you my email address just I case. You can have your posted name changed I believe, but I do agree she won't be looking for what you wrote. Later mate.

 

Only you know your woman and how she will respond to you sharing this very intimate part of your life, I respect your decision. My husband has been communicating on this site for some time and I know he has found it very helpful. He has been trying to convince me for a long while now to join. I have now been here for a couple of months and find I enjoy it very much. I am normally very private but the anonymity has allowed me to speak openly which I am thankful for. Yes reading some of his posts have led to some interesting conversation and certainly some raised eyebrows but ultimately it has brought us closer. Participating here has caused me to be more engaged in chastity in general.

 

Just took a screen shot of this post to send to my goddess. I want here to understand how freeing it can feel to discuss such things in the open with complete anonymity.

 

I hope it works out for you, I certainly have enjoyed. Best wishes

 

My wife will look over at me tapping away on my phone, and say “are you CMing?” And I’ll say yes, and if it’s interesting I’ll share what I was discussing.

She has mentioned a few times that she sometimes gets nervous that I am finding someone new. Basically another domme. I explained that was the furthest away from how things work online...even if I was looking, it’s a hard sell, by about 500 to 1. But I can see it being worrisome, finding someone that connects emotionally and almost cheating on an emotional level.

As far as my activity here, she has an account and could check on what I post, so I have never bothered putting something on here I wouldn’t mind her finding out. I don’t know if she has logged in as a guest and kinda creeped, but her account says she hasn’t been here in awhile.

As far as the pickle of her figuring it out and getting upset...I would suggest deleting your pics...you have a fairly unique belt and would not be hard to pick her husband out of the masses. I don’t like the idea of fibbing by omission...or just outright fibbing, if she does ask you I wouldn’t compound it by doing more of it. I would explain that it was an anonymous forum, so you could share, vent, and talk with likeminded people about the good, bad, and ugly of living in a cage. A safe place that you could not be alone in your interest, and share your lifestyle and hobby like others without being judged or torn down. Really one of the only places you can do so that isn’t porn related.

Good luck