Not listening

STOP..............tell him that you have decided that he does not deserve you taking the time to do this for him and that until YOU decide he can be trusted enough to comply with your wishes fully the game is on STOP. He will either accept this but if it was his wishes to begin with then it will drive him mad. Only restart if and when you think he has learnt his lesson and then only on YOUR terms.

 

I agree with @slave stroppy, just stop. I fear punishment is just giving him what he desires and as such is just being less responsive.

only agree to restart if he agrees to your desires/ demands (wishes), maybe putting a basic outline down on paper and making sure he agrees with it before restarting helps you and him know his place on your terms.

Nothing frustrates a sub, sissy or slave more than total lack of interaction and involvement from their Mistress/ KH, well certainly that’s the case for me lol.

 

This. Nothing hurts more than being ignored. Especially when it comes to brats.

He gets off on punishment, especially FUNshment.

 

Hi @Princess Gee,

I agree with the others and would offer that You put the responsibility on him to convince You that he really wants chastity and for You to be his Keyholder.

As a service sub myself, it is tempting at times to skip my cleaning jobs and even to go ahead and climax. But over time, i've learned that the charge from being of service to my Keyholder Wife and staying chaste is actually greater than the short-term pleasures that come from laziness and even climaxing.

I suspect he is struggling with the jump from fantasy to reality and he has to decide which way he wants it. @Princess Gee , You've been more than accommodating to accept his service. It's time he needs to put up or shut up. Not playing along will help him make this decision.

Good luck sitting this out!

ass

 

Make sure he doesn’t enjoy the punishments and NEVER reward bad behaviors. A spanking shouldn’t be fun and something he wants to avoid at all costs. If he isn’t crying you are going too easy on him. A paddle should leave a red welt for each strike.

 

It does sound like he is topping from the bottom. As others smarter than me have said, stop allowing him the privilege of being your slave. Certainly don't do the various 'punishments' as they seem to make it worse. If possible, perhaps hire someone to clean the house or do chores, he wont while ignoring him. Show him that you can get services elsewhere if he won't do as he should. Good luck and sorry you've got this headache.

 

I agree with others in that it sounds like he enjoys the discipline or bad attention is better than no attention. My first reaction would be restrain him, unleash your sadistic side and deliver some kicks to the balls until you have his full attention. Maybe some candle wax to the balls as a special treat. Each time you catch him pissing around and not doing the assignment, slap his face and make him complete it right then. Each time he misbehaves, you have to punish him. What does he hate? Whatever that is, use that as punishment. The punishment can't be something he enjoys. Did he forget to clean the bathroom? Drag him by the hair into the bathroom after you have thrown dry rice on the floor and make him clean in on his knees. Really think about the things he likes and withhold those. Remove any privileges he has like sleeping in the bed next to you, make him sleep on the floor or sitting on the couch? make him sit at your feet and use him as a footstool. Make his ass work for you and your attention.

 

It's an interesting balance between positive attention and a not fun actual punishment. He has to want to be a good sub. It took me a while to get there. I started wanting to do better when I received attention and vocal recognition for being a good sub (it's why Sunday night is laundry night here!). Also, @LadyPhoenix is right. I know an actual nasty punishment can straighten out some bad behavior, but it needs to be done in just absolute start contrast to the positive reinforcement.

 

So she says to me
Youhave not been listening at all this whole time have you
and I said
Thats a funny way to start a conversation

 

Sounds like he's not sure if he really wants to do this or just keep it as a game. Lucy and other all have good ideas. Maybe it's time for a sit down and find out if this is what he wants. I think he like what he sees but he not sure how far he wants to take it. Difently sounds like you want to take next step. Talk it over.

 

I am so happy to hear that "the chores for sex/kink" model is failing. WE need to operate on a higher plane than that.

 

Are you married to the slave?