Hello everyone, I just joined today and thought I would follow the instructions and post an introduction. I bought a chastity device about 2 months ago and it took me until today to suggest to my wife to try out the device this weekend. I sent her an email with a variety of role play scenarios with one being chastity play....not sure how she will react but she is definitely more conservative than I am but by no means a prude. I'm very excited that I finally got up the nerve to suggest some role play with her but nervous about how she will react - I will keep you posted.
Me too!!! Thank you Goddess Jen! I can't wait to see/hear her reaction, as well. She is more reserved than I, so I'm hoping I don't scare her... I will keep you posted.
:welcome: to the site grant. I hope your gamble pays off! We see these things either go wonderfully well, or terrifyingly wrong!!! The good news is, you're here, and whatever happens SOMEONE here will have been through it. Keep us informed. We love holding people's hands through the process.
Thank You Thank you Mistress Watchful for the welcome. I hope the gamble pays off, as well. No word as of yet from her. Normally, she reads her home email early in the morning so I was excited to wake up this morning to see if there was any response.....but nothing yet. So she is either waiting to respond or did not check her mail this morning.....I'm definitely anxious to hear a response. However I don't want to push her either.....waiting is hard !!!
I never knew that 2 days could be so long ! I sent her the email on Monday and still no response.... however she does not check her home email daily so I'm probably just being paranoid. I did send her a note this morning stating that email is awaiting her at home so hopefully tonight after the kids go to bed or, at least, by tomorrow, she will have at least viewed the email.... I will keep you posted.
remember that some things sent by email end up in Spam/Junk mail folder by the automated systems that are designed to weed out these things.
Well, as you can probably tell by my absence....things did not go as planned. Wife stated she was not excited by "those harder core porn toys"....now what do I do? Obviously I have scared her off from chastity play...how do I pique her interest?
Hi Grant, Nice to meet you. Sorry to hear that your wife was a little shocked, but these things take time. I think my suggestion would be to let her know that it isn't a Hardcore Porn toy and it's no different to a pair of handcuffs. It just happens to go on your cock. My wife and I have had a fantastic but very vanilla sex life for many, many years. After 9 years of marriage it was only 3-4 months ago when we started talking about my interest in being a little submissive and her interest in enjoying being a little more dominant. I in no way want to experience humiliation or being cuckold. However, I think I was a little too hasty and in December I bought her/me my CB6000. This was before talking about my kink. When I showed it to her she was very upset, but after a number of difficult but frank conversations she understood that I wasn't trying to push her down a route of whips and chains and slave/dom relationship, but wanting to experience something that could be enjoyed by both of us. I looks as though we're going to have some really fun times ahead, but I can appreciate the complexity and frustration of your situation. I really do hope she comes around, and with care and conversation I'm sure things will turn out for the best. Hugs and good luck X
its funny isn,t it no matter how tactful and thoughtful we try to be and think we are we still stomp around . Take a little time to allow your wife to absorb what has happened and hopefully after the initial shock has faded slightly she may bring up the subject again. Everything thing comes to he who waits
Well if it makes anyone feel any better (or worse - sorry!) I wasn't happy at all with the idea of chastity and I was "Born Kinky". Mind you I was about 6 months pregnant at the time and used to being the submissive! I remember exactly where I was stood when he asked me... and I remember being totally pissed off about it. Then I researched, I bought the device and presented the items in reverse order on Valentines day (stockings, cotton buds, lubricant - he was really confused - and finally the CB!) You could always try a HUGE bouquet of red roses and a "sorry I was insensitive" card... things like that make me cry and open me up to speaking about something, especially if pet crys at the same time LOL!
No new updates but still hoping she will come around and be willing to try putting me in the CB6000...will keep you posted!
Well, two years have passed with no progress. To be fair some of this time was consumed by family medical issues so life was on hold. However, all is well & ready to ramp back up on the chastity camoaign....wish me luck. any suggestions are welcome Thanks!
Hi, I don't have much advice other than my experience. My Girlfriend was not interested in chastity, I finally persuaded her to play along with me, and then made sure that those 2 days I was the best boyfriend in the world!! And when it came off, I made sure I gave her the best sex she'd ever had... She has slowly begun to realise that by locking me up and being in control she can use that to her advantage and get what she wants when she wants it! I'm still very much in the early stages of introducing chastity, but it is going in the right direction, it just takes a lot of time and patience. Good luck! RubberBound