Mood swings of Sub

Being locked back up right away after an orgasm really helps me mentally, and almost overcomes the physical drop experienced post orgasm.

 

I know this mood swing, too. But not that extrem, because im not an agressive person at all. But i definatly swing to "egoism mode". It doest matter how long i have been chaste. 1 week or 1 year. Seconds after orgasm, my emotions and mind change a lot.

 

Lyriseitia
Might I suggest a little reading. It explained so much to me even after years of doing TTTWD
enlightened might be a better word than explained

https://www.reuniting.info/node/4865

you may want to read this before deciding whether or not you want him to

Which also goes for anyone else
you should be aware that knowing the secrets of magic may ruin all future illusions.

 

As others have said, the uncooperative mood straight after orgasm is very common, and probably primarily hormonal.
Some was to deal with this include:
Toleration - Just putting up with it, until he gets back 'in the mood'.
Scheduling - Maybe arranging his release just before a business trip, family gathering or a 'weekend with the boys' (if such things are permitted).
Overwhelming - Reinforcing dominance and chastity vigorously immediately after release. Good techniques include: fast lock-up, cum eating, hard labour, sexual service.
Refraction - Giving him an hour or so before returning to 'overwhelming' with submission / chastity.

Finally, I think there is a relationship/training aspect. While he may swagger after orgasm, after a while he will look back and probably not like that aspect of his behaviour, so there is an opportunity to train him to apologise for and reject that role, but also for him to actually ask for longer periods of chastity to avoid this shameful 'relapse'. In the end, he may be trained to never want release, as the 'bad mood' is not worth the brief pleasure.

 

My Wife(KH) has me trained now to say "no" to a orgasm. I want to cum so bad some times, it drives me crazy. She hates the mood swing that I have and now wants me in the "horny" state all the time. I really don't like the mood crash either...So my Wife might let me cum every 30-40 days or when she feels like I need it. I never, ever thought that I wouldn't be able to have a orgasm when I wanted to and sometimes beg not to...

 

This is definitely a consideration when considering forcing an orgasm.

 

Hi

Mood swings can and should be accepted as part and parcel of Chastity. Sorry but what did you expect. This is real
Life emotional people have to let out emotion. Some hold it in ... some let it out everyone is different.

 

You are most welcome, gladit was of interestand hopefully if even not helpful it provided some insight.

I found it beneficial and I'd suggest returning to it from time to time for a re-read.

Having read it I find mysel much better prepared for (and to accept it) If or more likely when my Lady makes my denial permanent.

 

yes, it's normal, that is why I only get ruined orgasms. even that is too much for me. she knows that she must keep me horny and submissive all the time so I will keep up my household duties without complaint.

 

We had PIV two nights ago after 5 weeks denied during which there were moments I felt like I was on a cloud I didn't want to get off. I have not gone as far that before or felt like that. I have absolutely no idea how as the last PIV was a total disaster but I had the performance and orgasm of my life, somehow I managed to control myself to the point that my wife actually said FFS will you hurry up and cum. But now 2 days later I am still experiencing this very low mood and a general feeling of can't be bothered.

 

This amazing support is why I imagine most of us come here, it's certainly my biggest reason

 

Strange, after a long period of tease and denial ending in PIV I am on a high that lasts for days, I let my KH know how thankful I am for sharing her body with me. Ill rub her back for ages just after cumming and feel really close to her. However supervised masturbation is a bit different... I feel relief but not the same affection but still grateful of the attention. Ruined orgasms , well I would rather stay locked up. Its better though if mistress tells me its going to be ruined first than it being a surprised because then i can feel pissed off and not very submissive at all. So my answer is it does vary in the way in which release comes. The longer I am denied though the more I want to be around Mistress, and can become a bit needy sometimes that is something I hate about myself. I know mistress doesn't like that also so I just try hard to focus on other things. I know she rather her cock to be locked than not.

 

I just had an orgasm the day before yesterday, my first in almost two months. My mood is really crappy, but I am keeping up my service duties. She can tell though that I'm in a funk and is angry about it. I've told her I'm not doing anything intentional and that I'm trying to get back to where I was. I can't change how I feel though. I'm not acting up, just depressed.

 

Further to what I wrote above I now feel ashamed of my post orgasm behaviour. I was also a little emotional. I self locked back up and feel so much better now. I have read and am wondering if I should report to my wife that it may be beneficial to have me lock straight back up immediately after PIV. I've also read eating your own cum can help overcome this feeling.

 

Yes, you should tell your wife orgasms make you feel down and that you want to have fewer of them, and that it would be beneficial to be immediately relocked following those occasions when she decides you should one anyway.

 

It's my Birthday this Sunday. My Wife(KH) has told me that she will let me have a ruined orgasm. She has planned a day of teasing, then she will let me cum. I really need and want to have a orgasm. But the closer we get to the weekend, the less I want one. I don't want the "Mood Swing" feeling. I don't want to disappoint my Wife either...I can't believe that I'm thinking of passing on this chance...

 

Happy Birthday, ...in advance.
I can certainly relate to having mixed feelings about Orgasms these days.

 

It will be my birthday soon-can't believe i am at the stage that my dearest wish atm is to avoid an 'o' up to that point and then not actually have one when the time comes-i hate the drop!

 

Wait, how many of us have November Birthdays? Mine will be at the end of next week.

 

Mine is in December

 

I totally understand the confusion you're feeling.

 

By the way, litigous means prone to sue others in court.

 

The “drop” has caused the most discussion of all FLR/chastity issues in our relationship. I hate the drop. It’s like having the flu for a week. She likes to finish together when making love. The primitive portion of my brain can’t believe we are even discussing this.

She understands the problem.

I have finally accepted that it is her decision. I will gracefully deal with my mood change and not encumber her with it. I will not let my service suffer. I am thankful and will be cheerful.

It is one of those submissive challenges. I am so lucky to have her. I will make this work.