Full time Denial of Intercourse

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  1. chastitycuckold
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    Been about 3 years since Ma'am allowed me any penetration:squigglemouth: Ma'am knows best:tongue:
     
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    Thank you for keeping it on track... now to my answer.. um, what was the original question again?!? :squigglemouth:
    We practice cuckolding and chastity on our relationship but i am still allowed penetration and orgasms pretty frequently, although to be truthful the orgasms are often "ruined". :cry:

    We have discussed full denial and although the fantasy is a huge turn-on for me, we both know that i am not emotionally mature enough to handle it.

    We also agree that it could do long-term harm to our relationship (we have 2 years of dating vanilla and 19 years of vanilla marriage behind us). We are both concerned about losing the intimacy that we have built over the years and fear that complete denial of intercourse would lead to a fissure in our relationship.

    At this point we both know that my penetration of Goddess is not always about sex. i no longer have the stamina to fuck Her properly, so when i am allowed penetration we both know it will be fairly quick. Honestly, it just depends on our needs as a couple as to what the penetration is about.

    Most often it is simply about me trying to give Her a few orgasms before i am told to stop and left without, but occasionally we need to get that "couple" feeling and intimacy that comes with gentle sex and mutual orgasms. These are very special times which we both cherish and we put the D/s on hold while this goes on.

    Hope that helps and wasn't too rambling...
     
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    Thank you sissysophie. :angel:
     
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    For those who are locked up without any hope for penetration or orgasim, what keeps you interested? Seems that after awhile that you would lose interest altogether instead of trying to please Her in hopes of a reward. I find that short term denial drives my interest and desire - but if there were no chance of ever getting a release I think that my submissiveness and desire to please would evaporate. I would be interested in hearing from KH also.

    Thanks
     
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    Thank you both for agreeing with me.

    Thank you newsub4a for your views and thoughts. Both my Mistress and I agree with them. Penetration does not have to be about sex, it is about intimacy.

    For us we also practice chastity, cuckolding and denial. I am a sissy and as such am not permitted to penetrate Mistress. Instead she penetrates me. We have agreed that as long as we are living with reversed roles (short or long term), then this is now it will be. If for some reason we need to take a break then we will, and us that time as a vanilla couple.
     
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    Will make sure my pet behaves.....give him a little leash, and shhheesshhh!!!...
    When his "cb6000" replacement arrives, he's in for a long long ride. He stays much more focused and attentive when in Chastity and denied for days on end.​
     
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    permanent denial of intercourse

    my Wife denies me intercourse entirely. i am locked 24/7 except for edge teasing and denial about 3 times a week. She milks me once a month with an aneros. 3 or 4 times a year She gives me a handjob (my favorite) but stops stroking just before i begin to come. She makes a point of reminding me her hands are the only ones that will ever make me come. this is the lifestyle She chose when i confessed to masturbating every day since puberty.

    i absolutely love it.:angel:

    She has a toybox full of every toy She asks for and i gleefully service Her to about 4 orgasms a day. my pleasure now comes entirely from pleasing Her. i want nothing more. i thank her every day for changing my life for the better.
    She keeps me in vinyl underwear because i leak semen constantly and i am not allowed to wear anything else at home.
     
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    Sounds wonderful! Consider yourself lucky, as there are lots of subs out there who never even come close to what you have.
     
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    Denial of intercourse, can be exciting,
    for Denial creates the ever intensifing urge to Cum...
    When finally getting to cum, it is extreemely erotic,
    unlike anything I have ever experienced...
    Addictive...
    Full time Denial would be extremely hard and
    I for one could not go that rout...
    get out the hacksaw blade)
     
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    Looks like a reply I made was just censored. Maybe not. I'll take it over to the appropriate section of the board. This one can obviously be deleted... it's kind of a test message.
     
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    rules changed to complete denial of sex

    After reading my last post, Mistress has changed my T&D rules.
    1. All my T&D will now occur while i remain locked in Chastity. i will remain locked up 24/7 for 90 day enforced chastity periods.
    2. All sexual contact with my bare penis is now denied until my relief days. i must never mention sex in any way.
    3. i will be milked weekly instead of monthly.
    4. After each washing, Mistress will apply a session of penis pumping to fully stretch my erection before i am returned to Her Chastity lock.
    5. On my relief day i must "win" my release in a game of chance (1 in 3 odds). i also must obtain the approval of Her Girlfriend over the telephone.:kiss: Ejaculation will only occur via mechanical (vibrators, fleshlight, etc.) and/or testicular stimulation.

    Sept. 13 is my next chance!

    Mistress has become much more intent on denying sex entirely. She is becoming more and more obsessed with becoming proficient at milking without orgasm. She now keeps Her aneros tucked in her bra. Mistress tries very hard to barely push me over the edge for relief. i can be punished for releasing too much semen.:squigglemouth:

    She is teasing my locked cock about 3 times a day now instead of 3 times a week. She has started tightly tying down my balls to further frustrate my attempts at erection during T&D. She keeps me locked to the bed on Her Leash. Mistress just sits between my legs, squeezing my balls until i beg Her to stop.:cry:

    Mistress also greatly enjoys having T&D performed on her. I am directed to tease and deny Her Orgasms for as long as possible, but of course i must continue until Mistress comes as many times as She likes...

    i have always wanted to be denied sex but i could never keep from masturbating... my Keyholder makes my dream a reality every day. Wearing Her Chastity lock makes it that much better!:wink:

    Mistress pointed out my last intercourse was 145 days ago. Since i was masturbating to pornography:sex_porn: for the first 13 years of our relationship, Mistress feels She has the right to deny sex any way She likes. Mistress is delighted that i cannot masturbate and feels i should be punished for my failure to control myself on my own.

    chastityforme
     
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    My Wife/Mistress has fallen in love with chastity and denial. She has learned that my focus us much better when being denied. As with others, I am rarely allowed to penetrate her, my cock was never able to satisfy anyway. I pleasure her orally and with her many toys. She does still at times long for the intimacy that penetration provides to two people in love but, never does she allow me a release during this.
     
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    chastityforme,
    Just wondering how things are going... your circumstances are so hot!

    Goddess has denied me intercourse with Her until the 24th when i will be allowed inside Her for 30 seconds for every man She has had sex with since the last time i was allowed inside Her. i am not sure if that rule will continue after the 24th or not. There is of course a lot of T&D in between for me and i know She (we) find it a pretty hot game...
     
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    my Mistress released me from Her Chastity lock and tied me for bare T&D in Her rubber gloves today. While she gently spread the lotion over my erection She reminded me i would not be allowed to come. She teased me until i, as i am required, warned Her i was getting close. i would be relocked into Chastity for Her moments later. She assured me i would be waiting the full 25 days until my next orgasm date.
    Mistress has become interested in the PES electro-stim products and wants to begin using electricity to milk me. She said She wants to find the quickest way to force me to ejaculate without touching my penis. i will get to orgasm and ejaculate fully, but Mistress giggled with delight as she pointed out the electrodes could replace my handjobs... :squigglemouth:

    The control She has taken since i gave Her that little Key keeps increasing.
     
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    I've read a lot about electro ejaculation lately and it sounds like a really amazing way of milking a sub quickly and intensely. From what I've read it sounds like there isn't any pleasure for the sub, just a quick ejaculation.

    Maybe I'm real demented, but this sounds like it might be a new level of frustration and submission. Especially if the sub has to lick up the cum and is left all hot and horny and can't do a thing about it even if he was allow to orgasm .
     
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    milking methods

    I don't have any recollection of where, but I saw a 2-minute clip recently of a man getting milked via e-stim (xtube?). It looked like he wasn't having fun at all -- yelling when the power pulsed on, and a little sobbing through his gag and hood when it went off. The purpose was achieved and a lot of semen did make its way out from about 0:45 to 1:45. No idea what if anything transpired before the start of the clip.

    chastityforme, considering your heavy teasing and long denial periods, the quickest, simplest way to ejaculation is probably the ruined orgasm. Just before the moment of ejaculation, hard squeezing applied to the glans with no friction will destroy >95% of the satisfaction and greatly weaken or stop the spasms. My goddess has developed scary accuracy at this technique. Yesterday on a scale of -5 to +5 she gave me a -3.5 this way and told me she's amused by the cross between a scream, a whimper and a wail she gets out of me. I am apprehensive.

    Also consider setup time and simplicity. Not counting restraint, it probably wouldn't take more than two or three minutes of her time: Gloves on, pour on some lube, stimulate you just past the point of no return, clamp down, gloves off, and that was that. My goddess usually likes to drag the process out a little longer and I appreciate her kindness and attention here.
     
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    you are one lucky sub!
     
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    Hmmm... searched xtube for some estim/electro milking vids... there were a lot! They were pretty hot too. Goddess was interested at first until She realized the guys in the video were really enjoying it and cumming from the pleasure... no ruined orgasms or "dribbling" on any that i found. There was some groaning and even screaming though :tongue:

    i have had the violet wand used on me and to be honest it is a very erotic and exciting experience (but i am also a pain slut) so i am not sure that estim would give me a ruined orgasm or even be an unenjoyable experience :squigglemouth: That's NOT to say i wouldn't want to do it! lol :tongue:
     
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    Only one particular video stuck out in my mind, and it looks like he had a Bailey ejaculator used on him. This is known to be unpleasant, at best (and I'm a painslut too!). As for ruining, who says she can't cut the power (or turn it WAY up) once the orgasm has started?

    There's an electrical play demonstration not far from here tonight. Goddess got stuck going to a vanilla toy party because that's where her friends are, so I get to take notes for her (write her a gigantic wish list).
     
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    "We have read in a lot of books, blogs and internet pages that some partners will deny the chaste penetrative sex or intercourse.

    What is everyones views on this?

    What is the reward for engaging in it and what does the chaste and Mistress/Master get from it?"

    I have been denied intercourse for over a dozen years now and fellatio for almost as long. Speaking for myself, the biggest thrills come from the extremeness of the commitment. That it is a total denial and that it is for life drive the excitement for me. The beauty of this is that the longer it goes on, and thereby the more actualized it becomes rather then just fantasy, the hotter the whole thing gets for me. The stronger your commitment (for both sub and dom) get too, because of the investment you've already made. For my wife and I now, it would just seem like such a failure or waste if we suddenly weakened or abandoned the course. (We neither thought it would really last this long when we started.)

    For the sub, there are subsidiary psychological benefits of having this sacrifice so unavoidably a part of your real life, if you consider (as we do) conditioning yourself to be a sub a benefit. Manhood is so wrapped up in the phallus, that such denial is tantamount to emasculation. My ability to assert, even to myself privately, that being a "sissy" or a "sub" is just a game has become nil. When you only come by your own hand (or even someone else's) there is something innately juvenile about that, a feeling that you are not a fully realized man.

    The removal of the penis as a useful tool for the satisfaction of others also opens up subtle shifts in how you both of you view his cock and his orgasm. In our case this opened up all kinds of opportunities for further emasculation and humiliation through ritualizing and regulating the manner of my orgasms. (It also expands options for decorating the cock through piercing, tattooing and the like, although we haven't gone there.)

    The obvious downside is the loss of the experience of penetration (in my case I am no longer even allowed simulacrums and substitutes like fleshlights or dolls), the loss of the many thrilling BDSM scenarios that might require penetration and the challenge of how you top or enhance the thrill of the rule without violating the rule. (For instance, our ban on blow-jobs was an answer to the "how can I make this even more exciting" conundrum. A couple of years back we expanded to the point where she won't even touch my cock. Now she deliberately cultivates erotic techniques - massaging my balls, sucking my nipples - and gets me really addicted to them just so she can eventually take them away for good.)

    In terms of the benefits for her, I can only tell you second hand what she has told me. My wife is no by nature a dom but rather what you might call a "bedroom sub. Since she cuckolds me, this is not a problem. She never felt I was very good in the screwing department anyway (bad shape, dull technique, etc.) so it wasn't much of a loss to her, but I don't think it is a benefit except as it let her feel that she is fulfilling my need for a dom at low cost in terms of effort.

    I have often wondered about the downside for her (she reassures me on this a lot), and for myself in the dimension of biochemistry. I wonder if we (especially she) are depriving ourselves of hormonal floods that would have positive impacts on happiness, well-being, and pair-bonding by having our orgasms without coitus.

    Anyway, that is my view. I hope it is useful for you.
     
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    Hi @SissyMaid4Life
    I am a little confused as you seem to have been here for some time but the above is your maiden post.

    The first it maybe but I hope you will contribute much more often please.

    So many very interesting points some only just hinted at , be so good to have you expand on much of what you have written.
    I would disagree that your lovely wife is not a natural dominant person xx.

    Xx Wendy
     
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    Vinny Locked up again. Starting year 6.

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    Five years after we were married, I was tested and found to be sterile. After that my wife saw no reason to continue with any type of penetrative sex as she did not like it and felt it was the reason for her vaginal infections plus thought it was very messy. Over the next two years, intercourse became a special occasion thing and then my wife invited her girlfriend into our bed and we just had oral sex from then on for the next 38 years.

    Our girlfriend reserved penetration to her husband and my wife did not like it so life went on with no penetration. That is not exactly true as I was allowed to penetrate our g/f 3 times but not ejaculate as it was a domination type thing. I got used to it as we did a lot of other kinky things moving on to a new one when we got bored. The ladies were always willing to explore new things so I was very happy with our sex life and did not miss penetration.

    When we were no longer with our g/f I started to crave intercourse but ended up with chastity and major surgery for my wife so intercourse will be physically difficult for at least a year, maybe longer, coupled with no desire on her part so I will just end my days on earth without it. Just like any other married couple. :)

    If there is a lot of variety, you can have a happy sex life without intercourse. I will admit that at times I do crave to penetrate my wife but when I tell her that she gives me oral and that is better than anything else.
     
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    I came out the shower (still locked-up) yesterday to find my wife sitting on the bed, in expectation of some service being provided. As it is a year or more since I last penetrated her I asked if she'd like the strap-on dildo or me to be unlocked for that purpose. She gave me a blank look, indicating neither scenario had crossed her mind. She said that my fingers or tongue were what was required for a good orgasm, and that my tongue was much more intimate and was what she wanted. A half hour later she said "very nice" and got up to continue with her day.
     
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    it lovely doing that tho innit.
     
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    I don't mean to confuse! I signed-up a few years ago, but have elected to spend what little off duty time I have in other ways, that's all. (In fact, there was another online community I was active n the last few years, but they recently went in for a new censorship regime that killed the board.)

    I'm flattered that you would be interested in my experiences. I'd be happy to expand and share more about my life, but can you give some idea in what direction or on what point?
     
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