I’ve learnt my lesson !

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    #1 MrsAnne, Oct 20, 2019
    Hi! Everybody,


    I’m new here, but not to this lifestyle.


    My husband and I have been using a chastity device on and off for the last 15 years. I have recently decided to make the lifestyle more permanent.


    The reason being I’m tired of having a selfish and negligent husband. I’m also fed up with his macho, chauvinistic attitude when he’s free. He thinks he’s Gods gift to women after he’s had an orgasm. This has been a big turn off for me.


    For the last two years, I enforced orgasm denial during intercourse. Accidents were not tolerated. However as soon as my back was turned I knew he was jerking off. This was easy to figure out, because his macho attitude returned.


    For the last few months, he’s been permanently locked up and things are much better. So much so, that I told him that he has to accept this new life or else.


    All that being said, not long ago I decided to give him a break. I was just not in the mood, a little depressed, stressed with work etc, etc.


    The break lasted 2 weeks and OMG, things went south really fast. He quickly reverted back to his old self. Lesson learned I won’t make that mistake again. Now he’s right back where he belongs.


    I’m looking forward to meet other people in the lifestyle, exchanging ideas and experiences.

    MrsAnne
     
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    #2 sissybitch, Oct 20, 2019
    Hi welcome to the mansion ,
     
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    #3 Alceste, Oct 20, 2019
    MrsAnne,

    He will get used to it, and come to appreciate his chaste situation. I know I do.
     
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    #4 L-u-c-y, Oct 20, 2019
    Welcome to the site : )
     
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    #5 Lockedboy101, Oct 20, 2019
    Welcome to the site, I hope you enjoy yourself here.
    You have certainly done the right thing as it sounds like chastity makes him a better person and partner. Hopefully he has also learned a lesson, being macho and selfish has cost him his freedom, permanently!
     
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    #6 Sissy-CJ, Oct 20, 2019
    Welcome to CM, enjoy.
     
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    #7 LesterBallard, Oct 20, 2019
    Welcome
     
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    #8 Chaste J., Oct 20, 2019
    What a foolish man thinking he's god's gift! That's my role in the world! :). Then I look in the mirror and think nah! Your definitely doing the right thing keeping him locked up. Sounds like he needs a fair bit of training!
     
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    #9 MistressS, Oct 20, 2019
    Welcome to CM. It is just their nature to masturbate and much more. I had problems a bit more severe, but similar. Love to chat with you sometime.
     
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    #10 krystalasbaby, Oct 20, 2019
    I think all women find males who have cum to be less attentive. The longer we are locked the more attentive to the lady's wants and needs. May i suggest milking him while still locked up it will relive some pressure but also keep him horny and willing to do what you desire hoping for a time out.
    The other thing is tie him to the bed remove the cage and let him cum in your pussy. While he is forced to clean you out you are locking him back in chastity. That way no matter what he should soon realize his new position is perm and no change is coming
     
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    #11 Bocaj_Samoht, Oct 20, 2019
    What a read!

    Welcome
     
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    #12 Rectrix, Oct 20, 2019
    Welcome, it's wonderful to have another "woke" wife here. You're going to need to be strict. Husbands who masturbate are selfish and disrespectful, and it districts him from his attentiveness and affection for you -- masturbating reinforces a penile narcissism that's deadly to intimacy. But we've been doing it all our lives and it's a hard habit to break. I liken it to being an alcoholic -- you may be in recovery but it's always there, so you need to stay out of saloons or, in the case of a masturbator, not be left alone with a free erection. You go @MrsAnne.
     
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    #13 dereknor, Oct 20, 2019
    @MrsAnne this is so true! I experianced a lot of chastity in my öife and i learned very fast how chastity (specially long term) creates a unique kind of submission. And a single cumshot (even without pleasure) is ruining many month of chastity submission build-up. I once wasnt allowed to cum for 16 month. Then i was allowed a ruined orgasm. As soon as the sperm left my balls, i felt my submission vanish and a more macho like side come back. Even after 16 month, a ruined dribble was enough to destroy everything!
    All my experiances lead me to my opinion, that no orgasm at all is my goal and the true gift of chastity. The bad thing is, the moment i cum i feel the lost, i feel like loosing myself. But just for 2 seconds. After the first orgasmic wave hits me, the "macho" is triggered and i dont even feel bad for cumming anymore and dont want chastity anymore.
     
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    #14 MrsAnne, Oct 20, 2019
    Wow, thank you all for the warm welcome:)

    I really enjoyed reading the support messages and it motivates me even more.

    I didn’t know what to expect because it’s the first time I go »public » with this subject.

    As I mentioned in my introduction, I have never gave him an orgasm in the last 2 years. The only exception was an orgasm for a Christmas present. His only Christmas present. I did some periodic milking to maintain prostate health. I see no other health benefits in giving him full orgasm. I do not want the return of the selfish, macho man attitude.

    I do enforce clean up duty as punishment for any accidents. Then a quick return back in his chastity device.

    Another punishment we use is whipping. My husband hates physical pain and is huge wimp when I use my whip. He has no pain tolerance whatsoever. If he had a safe word, he would use it after the first stroke. But that is a short term punishment and also used to remind him whose’s the keyholder. I’d like to find another long term punishment to keep reminding him of his mistakes.

    Thank you all for your comments, I really enjoy reading them :)
    MrsAnne
     
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    #15 MrsAnne, Oct 20, 2019
    Hi, is it safe to go for that long without a release ? Did you have any prostate pain ?


    My husband does leak precum after 7-10 days in chastity but I always wonder if it was enough ?

    MrsAnne
     
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    #16 MrsAnne, Oct 20, 2019
    I love your saloon example :)
     
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    #17 MrsAnne, Oct 20, 2019
    Hi MistressS, i’d love that :)

    MrsAnne
     
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    #18 dereknor, Oct 20, 2019
    I only leaked precum and i edged daily. No cum ever, no ruined orgasms, no milking. Only leaking precum made my submission so much stronger. I never believed in that health myth that males need to release cum. I had no kind of release in 16 month and no health issues at all. I really think that precum is enough. Because i was teased so much and dripped precum, i also had no wet dream ever.
    And the funny thing is: after 1 year, i was kind of proud that no single drop of cum left my body :) i was proud of the submission and all the built up chastity.
     
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    #19 madams-sissysub, Oct 20, 2019
    Hi there and welcome to the mansion!
     
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    #20 kneeees, Oct 20, 2019
    Congratulations Mrs Anne, if there ever was any doubt you are the ruler in your household and your sub will relish serving you,
     
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    #21 MrsAnne, Oct 20, 2019
    Very interesting, thank you :)
     
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    #22 Rectrix, Oct 20, 2019
    It takes a lot of discipline to do that. I tend to think that erections themselves need to be strictly controlled; doing so also greatly enhances submissiveness and reduces macho behavior.
     
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    #23 sissydavenport, Oct 20, 2019
    W/we started slowly with chastity as well (with a pink CB-2000 to bring up nostalgia) and slowly moved more and more into it. W/we took the leap into 23/7 chastity about a year and a half ago. It does take a bit to make the adjustment to actually being a Femdom couple with an active sex life and a ton of communication.

    W/we're definitely not a "lock it and forget it" couple either. One of the things that helped me, was at the end of a teasing and denial (after Mistress was satisfied) was some positive reinforcement that I was a good sub, this is what She wanted, and some snugs afterwards. After a little while, it got me in the mindset where it was just one in an endless string of wonderful teasings (where there was more pleasure in that moment than any unauthorized orgasms). Additionally, knowing the duration of my orgasm denial really helps because I just know and accept Her decision. Throughout all of this, W/we've got closer because it was what She wanted, and as a sub, that's what I want.
     
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    #24 Rectrix, Oct 21, 2019
    That's delightful, that affirmation from her that this what she wants too, that she likes you better chaste.
     
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    #25 krystalasbaby, Oct 21, 2019
    Did you think of him wearing panties as a form of long term punishment. If you don't have any others at home have him strip his male clothing and only serve you in panties. Laugh and watch the odd wet spot form on his panties..giggles
     
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