Hi, I am new and looking for some help I have become totally addicted to porn and masturbating. I probably average 3 hours a day and I want to stop I have looked into 'Ways to stop....', but none of them are going to work for me I therefore want to be locked up in a chastity device At present my wife knows nothing of this although she knows that I look at porn - not how much and not how I masturbate. She would be upset and disgusted if she knew I am looking for advice on chastity devices - I want one that is inescapable and hopefully some ideas on how to approach my wife I look forward to being a member - hopefully for a long time
You certainly came to the right place! Step one is definitely going to be presenting the chastity concept to your wife (and hopefully future Key Holder) in such a way as it won't alarm or upset her. Beyond that, you might want to look around the forums for advice. People are awesome here.
Maybe let her catch you masturbating and segway that into needing to have it locked away. That is kind of how mine started, Madam felt I played with myself to much and wanted it stopped. I am to impulsive so somehow the idea of locking it up came up and now my journey is on.
I agree with madamsboy, it needs to be brought into a current conversation. So if you are talking about how porn is becoming a problem in your relationship you can say "I wonder if there is anything that could prevent me from masturbating, like a chastity device, let's try Google!" As for an inescapable device... we're allllll looking for that! At entry level you probably want to look at Birdlocked or CB6000 and CB6000S. If you look at the Chastity Device Reviews forum here, it will give you an idea of the differences between them. Let us know how it goes. :character0180:
Welcome to the madhouse! As has been said, you have certainly come to the right place. Communication between you and your Wife is absolutely the key here. If you can broach the subject openly and honestly, then do. If you feel you might need a little help, then a book that I (and I think everyone else) would recommend is an absolutely superb book called "Male Chastity: A Guide for Keyholders" http://www.amazon.co.uk/Male-Chastity-Keyholders-Lucy-Fairbourne/dp/digital-features/1905605145 http://www.amazon.com/Male-Chastity-Keyholders-Lucy-Fairbourne/dp/1905605145 Good luck and let us know if there's anything we can help with. :character0180:
communication and reasons is what has helped me and my boy with the journey we are on pm me if you need how we did it:character0071::butterfly: