So, we have been reading each other's posts to create a dialogue of chastity. The many and varied reasons, from the bizarre to the sublime or the noble, that a person realizes that chastity, specifically, locking up in a chastity device, is the solution, is what makes CM so helpful. We all have our story, and you can tell it here. There are a number of us who are self locked, either with or without approval or help from a mate. How many of us are there on CM? I imagine we are the minority, however, if you are self locked, post something. Then we have a better perspective when we read posts because we are looking through your eyes and we know what the conditions are for you. I am self locked, permanently. Its great. If you can do it, you will be amazed at how wonderful it is. So chime in all you self lock people. 4
So to follow up, calling all self lockers. I know you are out there. Your story is important. For those that are living their fantasy, we get it. For those who willingly lock themselves up with purpose, what is your driving force? What compels your heart to say, I need to be chaste, so I choose to lock myself, nobody is telling me to do it, but I want to? I have my reasons for locking. They are not a fantasy, they are just straightforward thoughtful reasons that led me to the conclusion that this was the best thing for me. In this world of fantasy, for some, reality also has it's own unique story to tell. What's yours?
Newbie here myself, joined yesterday while searching for support and information in this endeavor. Partner does not know, been caged part time (most of day morning to night till shower). First time I slept in the cage was last night, she did not even know or realize. It was surprisingly(?) very comfortable (2nd cage I purchased, 1st was way too small). Wow, when I tell her how long I have been caged when we next "connect" after she finally sees it, it should be interesting. I will most likely present her with the key that night too. As for my driving force? She hit the menopause wall, I have been having to rely on myself (alone) to take care of things, then that increased in frequency, then one day did not want to show up for work. Funny part, he stood at attention when trying to get the damn thing on, lol. That lazy prick (literally).
Self locker here. I lock on and off just depends on the situation. Initially my motivations were to curb daily masturbation and to drive weight loss. It’s definitely helped with the self pleasure but not so much with the weight. I’m still in search of the perfect cage. I’ve got a couple that are close. A new incentive for the weight loss is the promise of a nice custom steel cage.
I think a lot of us have done it at some time. The motivation for doing so is I think as individual as the number that did/do it. Some although they had a partner at the time still managed to keep it from them.. again for their motivations for doing so ..you'd best ask them. No doubt some wanted to get caught ... people .. some of us ...well ..we're just a bit wierd sometimes