Can I make myself invisible?

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    Hi,

    I am currently seriously thinking of removing myself from this website...
    I am currently in a kind of pause with my sub - which makes me not being very active here. But I regularly get private messages from men who ask me if they could be my sub, or if I have a female friend who is looking.

    So my question is: Can I make myself invisible? It is really annoying to get ask those questions, especially if you are currently living out of that lifestyle...

    Many thanks
     
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    It is not possible to make yourself invisible, but you can "Ignore" a profile, which means they won't be able to send you any more messages.

    You could put a message on your profile saying something like "I am not interested in keyholding for anyone else, if you message me about it I will block you", that should stop them.

    I have noticed a lot of men think that if a woman is on a fetish site they must be looking for someone, like a dating site.
     
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    Thanks for the idea, I will write something up, that is a very good idea :)
     
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    I’m sorry you’ve been bombarded. My wife used to visit regularly but after awhile she said she had to go through and clear a bunch of responses as soon as she logged on. Not that big a deal, but she said it was time consuming and a bit creepy.
     
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    Yes that's exactly how I feel. I would not call it being bombarded but it feels weitd to me to get asked all the time, especuespe as I am from a vanilla background and just started it for my partner. So ido not really think about even the possibility of doing it for others.

    And so the contacts make me a bit nervous to be honest...

    But I wrote something in my status now so hopefully that helps
     
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    Please don't remove yourself. For every guy that bothers you in the way you describe, there are many others that respect you and value your input.

    I hope Lucy's suggestion works and things improve for you.
     
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    I've added a new paragraph to the "Please read first" post in the introductions section. New members also get an email copy of this when they join, but I'm not sure how many read it as quite a few try to upload a penis avatar straight away.

    https://www.chastitymansion.com/for...lcome-to-the-mansion-please-read-first.31609/

    Searching for a keyholder / Mistress?
    The place to look is the Personals section. Please do not message every female member asking them to hold your keys, this will annoy people and could result in being banned from the site. If someone is looking for a sub/slave/partner they will make it known in the Personals section or on their profile. Post an ad stating what you have to offer a keyholder, and then wait for replies.
     
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    I've tried to get my wife to visit the forum but I don't think I will try anymore. I don't think she would react well to this sort of harassment. Will users get banned for this? It's really unacceptable.
     
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    It's not that big of a problem. Occasionally an over eager male joins and messages all the female profiles he can see, they usually get bored after 5 or so.
     
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    if there is a way the forum can allow users the option to disable messaging, chat even, that would be fantastic
    im male and i even get some odd people messaging me asking about my relationship with my KH. im flattered that some men envy the relationship i have, but a bit disturbed they ask for more and more details as masturbation fodder. ironic as its a chastity site.

    for female profiles it would be nice to have the ability to block private messages from those not on their white list, as well as having profiles locked down where people cant pester them by posting on their wall or chat messages to them. a woman who is interested enough in chastity to brows the forums is a rarity as it is, no sense having some of the good ones driven away by men who have no manners
     
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    Both of those options already exist:
    -To disable chat, hit the button on the top right and deselect "available to chat".
    -To turn off messaging, go to privacy and either uncheck "Start conversations with you:" or set it to people you follow.
     
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    I found that when I turned fifty I became invisible by default...
     
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    I

    Great I did that, hopefully the messages stop now. I did try the profile page but then I got another message. So with that privacy setting it should now work that I don't get bothered anymore.

    Many many thanks for your help
     
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