Chastity as masturbation control.

that's a lot of wanking.

It's good that you gave up your key to a good hand. I would let her know that bits underneath should be kept monitored closely for the first few weeks, but yeah, I guess she is doing good enough job.

Lastly, make sure either you don't get burnt out on chastity. It's really fun at first, but some couples lose interest once it pass through that initial rush thing.

Cheers.

 

I'm not allowed to wear a cage or to masturbate

 

Seriously, how does anybody have time for this? Between work, family, and social obligations, I used to be lucky to have one opportunity a week.

 

Control of my masturbation habit is one of the primary purposes of my being locked. Masturbation is selfish and disrespectful, and distracts from my attention and submission to my wife. I believe, unfortunately for you, that masturbation is an addiction like alcoholism and that one is never "cured" but only in recovery, so may need to spend years being locked before she will be safe from your habit. I'm not there yet.

 

Absolutely! My wife takes off her panties and sleeps in just her nightshirt every night. I had been unlocked for several weeks, and this morning I confessed to my wife that for the past few nights I had been finding the panties she'd removed for sleep and holding them to my face while I masturbate. I told her it helped me feel closer to her and to experience the wonderful smell of her pussy, which has otherwise been off limits to me. She seemed quite amused hearing that, and she said "If only you didn't have such a tiny worthless dick you might be able to actually experience my pussy instead of beating off to my used panties," and she laughed at my expense.

Anyway, as I told her this I thought I was on a roll and took some liberty playing with my tiny dick and exposing myself to her, and I also confessed that I had masturbated 6 times in the last 36 hours or so. She got pretty stern at that point and raised her voice a bit to say, "LOCK IT UP RIGHT NOW!!" I hemmed and hawed a bit and expressed my frustration about at least wanting to finish wanking the extremely hard (but small) erection I had at that point, and she again said "RIGHT NOW!"

So, here I am, locked again. Punished for my uncontrollable masturbating, wishing I could be doing it again right now, and happily in love with the most amazing woman I know.

 

Prior to chastity I would masturbate 2 - 4 times a week and we would have sex 1 - 3 times a week. So at the very most an orgasm a day, but usually every other day. Most of my masturbation was too porn. Most of my friction from our marriage had to do with her lack of interest in sex after having children. I blamed her for "making me" masturbate so much due to her low sex drive. Also I didn't realize it, but I began to resent her unwillingness to do what women in porn do. When we had sex it was in bed and followed a pretty predictable script.

We never saw chastity as a solution to this. When we started dabbling in chastity it was more of a sex game. I get locked, she riles me up all day, she unlocks me and we have sex. Lock-ups begin getting longer and I began that renewed courtship of the woman I loved and married, but came to take for granted. It was then that I had the epiphany. Porn and masturbation are destructive towards relationships. So not a direct cause and effect, but yes chastity does stop me from wanking. I feel so british when I use that term

 

Is there a reason for chastity other than preventing masturbation or cheating?

 

While I didn't start chastity to control masturbation, it was a lovely side effect. I used to do it like, 3x a day and always felt pretty terrible about it. Now though? Feeling much better

 

Absolutely! For us it is about control. The control i give up and that she takes. Presumably if it were just about preventing those two things, everything else would be the same. I'd be having sex as much as I used to. Originally the control started there and grew elsewhere. The lack of masturbation is probably the smallest difference for me.

 

Yes. To hand over control of your manhood. For me its more an emotional/mental statement than a physical one

 

Yes, it is one of the reasons. I would wank at least once a day, maybe twice, if I wasn't locked. When in hangover, maybe thrice

It is about overall control though, not only prevent wanking, but to prevent pleasure and exalt it to a whole new level, where it is no longer taken as granted.

 

And I also like to think chastity belt as a symbol of commitment and submission.

 

The main reason I'm in chastity is because my Wife likes the control aspect and the behavioural change. She also likes to make me suffer through sexual frustration.

 

It's both for me. When we started our FLR I wasn't locked and still masturbated continuously, to the edge (since I wasn't allowed to cum) two or three times a day. I just wasn't reaching the level of submission and loss of control I needed with my erection rampant and in my hand all the time, so I introduced the cage. Losing the erection, giving her control, took me out of my alpha headspace really fast, made me feel and understand and accept my submission.

 

Masterbation is one of the reasons I am wearing a cage . She didn't like me playing with her toy. I have not touched myself in over a year now and probably never be able to touch myself again

 

As I've said earlier, my wife definitely does do it to control masturbation, and my current lockup resulted from my telling her how much I'd been masturbating.

That said, she absolutely loves the control and my sexual frustration as well. For weeks or months I've been begging her to just please touch my dick a little bit. Stroke it, play with it, smack it... anything. Even if it's just a few seconds. I know I'm not allowed to have PIV sex with her anymore, but I still thought I could get a handjob or something here or there. Anyway, she denied me even the slightest touch all that time, saying "Sorry, your little wee wee just isn't worthy." I wasn't in chastity all that time.

However, now that I'm locked again she can't keep her hands off it. Seriously, I've had to beg her to stop teasing me.

 

Yes Control, I find that my submisiveness increases when owned and caged, and I try to please my Mistress more so I can get a release maybe, Also as punishment, the device can be kept on longer without release if behaviour and attitude aren't to your Mistresses desires but chastity certainly takes care of masturbation and cheating

 

Why? I absolutely LOVE it when she teases me when I am locked. If it wasn't topping from the bottom I would beg her TO tease me!

 

Oh, don't get me wrong. I love being teased too, and I'm grateful to her that she does it and that my little penis is getting the attention. I only meant that on some occasions her teasing can get me so worked up that I'm begging her to stop... but I still probably want her to continue.

For example, she often teases me and plays with it through my pants, or reaches into my pants and grabs it, when there are people around, and even though it feels great and I don't want her to stop I do get concerned that I could cum in my pants or drip enough pre-cum that it would soak through my pants and show.

 

It was my idea but this is exactly the reason I am in chastity.

 

Unlucky: Male chastity is about preventing masturbation or cheating.
Billy the forum pedant: My wife locks me up to assert her control!
Unlucky: And that control manifests how?
Billy the forum pedant: By preventing me from masturbating!
Unlucky: ...
Billy the forum pedant: She also gets to say when we have sex!
Unlucky: Were you raping her previously?
Billy the forum pedant: What!? No!!!! Why would you ask something like that?
Unlucky: Then she already had that control and it is completely unrelated to you being in chastity.

 

I wanked and watched porn every day. I liked the idea that I focus only on my wife and that is what I told her.