I think that one of the main reasons some vanilla wives are reluctant to try chastity is the feeling that it's a cheat. Becoming the center of their hubbies attention during chastity is seen as *not* being about our feelings for them, but more about our fixation on a kink. Perhaps they think maybe that we would give any woman who held the key our devotion. I don't think this is true, though I recognize that I'm not in a position where it's easy to stay objective. Even with a PA piercing, cages aren't secure. Locks are generally pretty easy to pick. If someone I hated held my key, it would annoy me, but I think I would find a way out of the cage rather than falling into an infatuation with the hated keyholder. So.. Do you think it's like using cheat codes? Have you encountered this argument against chastity? It hasn't been said to me, but I get a feeling that this is part of my keyholders reluctance to really give chastity tease and denial a try rather than just holding a key. Thoughts?
I think my wife was skeptical at first about the standard "this will be great for you because I'll be more romantic and pay more attention to you" line. "If you love me why aren't you that way all the time? Why does being locked make you a better husband? Is it just so that you can get me to give you something (release)?" I'm one of the "patience" mantra folks -- take things slow, be patient, let her experience the benefits, don't push things. I thinks as she sees the change in my behavior without my asking for anything in return(indeed, encouraging her to leave me locked and deny my orgasms longer, if she wishes), she is starting to believe it's not just a trick or a cheat code.
It’s a tool. Not everyone uses tools, some do. If a kh felt that the tool no longer useful, and in fact directed affection and focus away from her, I would imagine she’d quit using that tool. A cage is bondage equipment. Plain and simple. It restricts movement and controls behavior. Some might fetishise the cage itself, but in my opinion it is the one who controls the equipment that most really think about. Not the cage.
It's relationship dependent. My wife loves my penis inside her. She likes locking me up because it ensures not only that it'll be ready next time she wants it, but that every moment until that time she will be the thing I desire most. She loves that control that the cage gives. It's not a cheat.
I'm not sure that "cheat code" is necessarily the best way to describe chastity, I tend to think of it as more of a carrot and stick. Everyone involved in chastity does it for their own reasons and the end of the day, if everyone involved is enjoying the experience, then who cares about the whys.
well maybe im agree like you said, my masturbation has to much for her that makes me not good at bed, which is she is angry that i cant erect(cause i dont interested in sex or im actually have no stamina after masturbation) this chastity is a tool to prevent that(masturbation)
I wouldn't say a chastity device is a "cheat code", at least for a majority of cases. That being said, I do understand why such an idea might come up, as there are many situations where the consequences of using a device or the logic behind using one can seem similar to "cheating". Let me mention a few examples. Take a woman who is used to her man being so eager to pleasure her he can spend an hour giving her all the orgasms she can take and then letting her go sleep, because pleasuring her makes him happy enough and he doesn't need to orgasm himself every time they make love. Such a woman has little reason to worry about her man only being eager to please her thanks to a toy around his privates, because she knows that's not the case. But if woman can see her partner's behavior change for the better only when he's locked up, well, it's not surprising she's unhappy or angry. And the chastity toy is a reasonable focus of those emotions. Some women might feel a man shouldn't need a toy to abstain from pleasuring himself, making locking him up a sort of perceived failure. Again, the device is a symbol of that failure. It is easy to misunderstand the reasons why a man might wish to be in chastity. If his reasons are emotional and psychological, e.g. the device is a reminder of his devotion, but the woman mostly feels it is just his fetish and doesn't give her any joy, she might easily see the device as a cheat that helps the man fulfill his own desire at the expense of her own fun. And one could go on and on, so I'm not surprised some might see a chastity device as *some* form of "cheating".