Fantasists!

I'm with you there. Mind you, it's not unknown for someone to write a fantasy and then find it becomes real afterwards. As an example, take a look at Mistress Anne blogspot. You will need to read it all to see how it was done, but broadly subby hubby wrote a fantasy maybe 3-4 years ago only to find that on 1st Sep 2009 it suddenly became real. Anne found a way of fixing it and the way she arranged it was that there'll be no wriggling out!!

As this site says: "Be careful what you wish for"!!!

 

For many years, I was among those who would fantasize about the lifestyle, wanting to 'get off' with the help of chastity websites. One thing I did not do during that period, though, was to post my fantasies in the guise of 'experiences'. [Actually, being the slothful procrastinator that I am, I didn't even post them as fiction.]
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I certainly hope nobody really believs this can be a 24/7 lifestyle. For example, riki has been very ill with the flu, and now a secondary infection. COuld I really expect hom to serve me with that kind of illness.? And when I am not well, can he "expect' me to be at the top of my form?
What about when the kids are around? The boss, etc. Mistress Watchful, we had a very good discussion about this during our Mistress pretalk, and we all agreed, in person that the dynamic can always be there, but sometimes a little less noticeable than other times.
On the other hand, when we set apart time, like we did a few weeks ago, the stories can hardly be believable to some!
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I do not find it odd.
Before you were unsure and wrote in the hopes of gaining others approval. Now you don't feel that need for others approval so your need to write has diminished.
Hope that made sense. It did in my head at least (reason why I don't write much)

 

I have to agree

Having read many threads and posts on this site I have to agree that there is a lot of fantasy here which is portrayed as truth.

I also agree that for someone wanting to learn it can be quite confusing.

Personally I find it fairly easy to separate fantasy from fiction.
First and foremost I'm interested in understanding male fantasies so it's not so important for me as to whether or not it's the truth.

I prefer to chat to people mostly and most of the people I chat to seem to be fairly down to earth souls and have nothing to brag about.


Amanda.

 

The Lifestyle is a progression - but not always in one direction. If it were, it would get boring. Fortunately, there are endless aspects to explore.

 

In My experience, at least, much of this lifestyle has its roots in fantasy. It is then up to the participants to decide to either leave it there or explore it further. What bothers Me most, though, is when someone posts an outlandish story that is so obviously fiction but will defend it to the death as the truth.
There are so many out there that want so desperately to have this lifestyle but have no one to share it with at the moment. I shudder to think they are reading these posts wondering what is wrong with them. Why can't their life be perfect the way other's lives are? Or, If it can happen to them, why not me?

ML

 

M.W. I think its good to remember that the largest sex organ we have (men or women) is the brain. What we end up thinking is "hot" has a lot to do with what we are exposed to and that our friends and partners think is sexy. The internet and the freedom its brought is probably at best a mixed bag. In my parents generation oral sex was thought of as being just about the wildest most taboo thing anyone could imagine. Now its really not that wild to have lube on the night stand and a large toybox with vibrators, strapon dildos etc. And its only just a tad on the fringe when the women straps it on and fucks the hell out of her man with it.

I think that Chastity (Male) is such a new thing that what you guys who are doing it decide is good? Well... it sets the standard for what its about. If its about denying the man and fucking a bull? Ok, if its about "training" a man to learn how to please a women better in bed? Why not? If its about changing roles 180 and having men be like 1940's housewives and the women randy sex maniacs? Well guys get ready to :anim_37:

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The problem (one anyway) is that the Internet is truly filled with mountains of crap. Having the ability to understand whats "real" versus whats BS is indeed a task. Some of the written porn is pretty scary stuff. Body mods being one area that scares me. I had an internet friend who was really into this and did his own self castration (He was a medical student of all things!) due to a variety of reasons and ended up locked up in the rubber room and when they tried to clean up his botched surgery he died on the table. How sad is this? One reason maybe that I'm seen suggesting that those pondering serious feminization (With hormones, surgery etc) do so only under the supervision of a doctor. And of course really look into their motives for doing so. I'm not totally vanilla sexually but I think "kink" that can kill or hurt people is just insane. And the people writing up porn that glorifies it are really poor excuses for human beings.

Posers and self appointed experts seem to be a growth industry on the web. I think its good to load up the BS filter and try not to take most of what you read as serious. I've read your posts with great interest and your adventures are pretty wild stuff! I think your questioning if your following or leading and what I hope you do is decide to go forward doing "your" thing and not worry that your lifestyle is not the standard "Format" because if I've learned anything from reading the posts there is no standard. And considering its dealing with what we do behind bedroom doors (which is private between the people involved) Well?? I don't think you should have to worry about what others are doing or (inventing in some Internet BS)

- Jimi123

 

As a relative newbie to this web site and chastity devices, I agree with Ms Linda that "this lifestyle has its roots in fantasy" and think that it tends to remain a fantasy for most people. I love reading the fiction that is on the Internet but prefer to read real life experiences.

To actually purchase a device and wear one even for a day or two will quickly shatter peoples perceptions that male chastity devices are a comfortable device and can just be put on and forgotten. It takes a lot of trial and error to settle on a good combination of ring, spacers, best lubrication etc. It took me about 2 weeks of trial and error to feel comfortable in a CB6000, but less time to get comfortable in a CB6000S.

Whilst I don't contribute much to this site at present I did join here the day I got my device as I felt this site offered more advice, guidance and understanding than others. I felt comfortable being here so much so that despite being too shy to reveal my face, I am happy to reveal my caged member. :happy0030:

Thanks for this great site. It is a great resource for new people on the chastity scene. :anim_37:

Bound4Fun

 

being a member here was bound to be a good thing for you :anim_39:

 

I love reading this site and have discovered many interesting things about chastity, role playing, lifestyle and sissification plus many others I cannot list.

Many of my fantasies do turn into realities so I have to always think of new ones. My wife is a natural dom but I don't want to force her into that role as that would be topping from the bottom which is a no no.

Thanks to the owners, administrators and others who look after this site. :anim_37:

 

i agree with bound4Fun, i also joined this site when i place my unit on me, and glad to have found the site. Have had some very helpful suggestions, to ease the comfy level of wearing the cage.
Also like to thank the wonderful people who have made this site available to the new people

 

Fantasy masquerading as fact is usually discernible as the former. However good fiction serves a purpose. I was struck by the analogy to the present day internet in the recent Bruce Willis film 'Surrogates'. I use my common sense filter, language gender, photos etc all point to a site/poster's falsity or authenticity. Much like reading body language offline. I love finding the glaring stupid error. However some fantasists have porn value that cannot be denied. This is an amazing site, it does what it says on the tin! Makes me proud to be English (ruled by Scotland, cowed by Europe, in America's Debt, owned by France!)

 

Mistress Watchful: Im happy you brought this subject up because it is interesting. I do not use fake profiles, but usually I prefer to be anonomous. I have two remarks Id like to add:

First: Living out a fantasy in a virtual world can be a test to see whether it really "rocks your boat". A final step -a mental experiment- before actually realizing the fantasy.

Second: If a man feels like a woman; thinks like a woman... Is he a fake, then, when he socializes on the web as a woman? I mean.. He is authentic and his feelings are real. If what happends inside our heads is real, the the man behind the screen acting as a woman must be as real as anything.

This is what I think in theory but I find it hard to relate to the real world. I once made a female avatar on Second Life based on that argument but as soon as I started to actually talk to people in there about personal matters, I felt like I was betraying them. Therefore I stopped socializing as a female avatar. The way we act on the internet contributes to the formation of our identity and me having a female avatar is an geniune expression of my personality but I cant totally disconnect from my body and while we -as a specie- differ between only two sexes defined by our reproductive organs I cant help not being influenced by that. Even though I actually believe that there are so many more genders than just the two.

Well.. I ramble on as Tom Waits would have said The internet as reality is on of my big interests.. My point is that I believe that the definition of our gender is highly (if not solemnly) performative and that fake profiles can be very real, but (and this is my double standard) I personally prefer to know the biological truth about the person Im talking to.

 

I guess for some people fantasy is all they have. I am grateful in this season of thanksgiving for my wife/Mistress who has readily taken to real life and prefers me to be in chasity and to being her slave. I recognize I am lucky but she will also say it has spiced up our life and made life fun.