Getting intense

So take your mind off of t, get busy and get things done around the house that you have been putting off. Thats exactly where I am heading next.

 

Welcome to the land of be careful what you ask for. It's good for you and will help you grow as a submissive husband.

 

Beg her for something you can do... I'm certain she would love a good licking <3

 

One of the odd parts of giving someone control is the realization your penis may not be unlocked quite as often as you had envisioned. I myself am ok with whatever floats her boat, but it isn’t always a walk in the park.

Some of the ways I handle it myself is to embrace those feelings instead of trying to tune them out. If I am feeling sexually frustrated I jump deeper into the pool, look at erotic images and captions, hang out here where it is discussed, write about my dreams or fantasies, text her some of my dirty thoughts hoping for a response that will get me going even more. If I can’t end my frustration, I embrace it. I am on a sexual high that I try to keep afloat. Instead of trying not to think about it...which doesn’t really work for me, and in my opinion makes wearing the device more of a chore, I relish in what I may do later and live in the euphoria of the now.

It may not be for everyone, but if I am going to be without, I try to make it into fore play.

 

You can get hard? Might need a smaller cage!

 

Been locked since xmas, hoping for release either my bday or vday. Vday will be a record. Almost 50ish days.

Get used to it. Chastity i think amplifirs my love for my kh. Never wanna go back. Today i was allowed to shave her penis in the shower with her watching. God was i thick...

 

you get good days and you get bad days. On the bad days, just try to occupy yourself with something else.

 

Day 21 here, not cum in 2019!
Nor will I cum in January or February,
Careful what you wish for..
Personally I wish to regret introducing chastity to my wife and I guess I might get that wish granted as things seem to ramp up every few months. 7 days, 14 days, 21 days, that was her sweet spot but now it's jumped to 60 days.. ..only been at this for three years too.

 

I right there with you. I've been locked for 17 days now and it's been tough. I constantly try to devert my thoughts to other things beside my frustration with not much luck so far. I've still got another 30 days before my girlfriend will discuss with me what happens at that point. I was told Begging or complaining will add time locked. As intended i see the device eventually wearing me down and modifying my thoughts and actions.I did willing enter into this so i face the consequences. Best of luck to you!

 

Gentleman, I can assure you that the first 3 months is always tough, no matter how long you have been at your key holders mercy. After 3 months your body and mind settle into a kind of normal and you then start to regret the decision to be unlocked that caused the frustration. This is how chastity works, and as your key holder becomes more comfortable with the relationship the time you are locked is longer and longer until you get to the point where you cannot remember the last time you were unlocked or had an orgasm. This is the happy place and it takes a long time to arrive. Interestingly D now uses a threat of being unlocked and made to orgasm when she is unhappy with my performance or attitude. It's like the world turned upside down.

 

Thank you much for the encouragement and words of wisdom. I hope to be in that happy place sooner than later.

 

You'll develop discipline over time. Whether it's distracting yourself with something productive (exercise is my go-to) or expressing your sexual frustration to your KH or others, it will get better. Stay strong brother.

 

Thank you!

 

On my side I distract on doing chore and cleaning, cooking and laundry. curiously I am not aroused by and I feel the need to do it when caged and frustrated. It drives away the sex desire for a moment;

I have also read about the hormonal release of man, as long as you are in chastity the hormones are no longer evacuated as you where used to when wanking.

After 3 days you have renew all the semen that the body can produce and you should feel "full".

After a week you are feeling female pre menstrual feelings.
Your body is absorbing useless hormons that are needed to create the semen as it is already full.
You are at the top in Ocytocyn, the hormon of attachement and desire that makes you a good lovers and a very kind person.

After 2 week it goes on with up and down dues to the hormonal changes.

After that period you get used to, the only hormon is stil the ocytocys and you are blocked in a desire to serve and please, also the sex desire should be lower.
After one month you are completely reprogrammed by the hormons as a servile person.
of course it can change from one person to another.

When you ejaculate you have Prolactine that shut down any desire or sex arousal.

My wife will try to have me chaste one week and have a partial ejaculation to keep me permanently in a arousal and kind state, also it will match her periods.

So no worries, in two weeks more things will be better for you.

 

I have a feeling I will have the exact same problem!! My new cage goes on this evening!! After a long time out... and having been WAY to addicted to Hand Solo, the start of my new life of being less selfish and more considerate to my wife starts today. She is looking forward to it!!

 

I personally prefer the word ‘considerate’ to ‘submissive’ - although I guess the fact that we want/need to be caged automatically classes us as submissive - even unknowingly?

 

Considerate (and thoughtful and intimate and deferential) is good too.

 

I'm so impressed and turned on by D's control and her understanding of her chaste man. It's a goal to aspire to -- I certainly understand the pain and disappointment of Day 1.

 

We have been exploring chastity for about 10 years now and since finding a device(s) that are comfortable and practical for every day life, it has been more than 6 years that D has kept me locked and permanently denied. Yes to some, this extent of time would appear to be cruel and very scary, but most things are when you rush into them and not allow your mind and body to adjust to " the new normal".
I am now at the stage where I don't want to experience the chemical affect of the after orgasm low and the extreme frustration of the build up to the happy plateau. I prefer being permanently denied and always with a device locked on that cannot be removed. When we need to remove our Lori's device and swap for the security scanner friendly plastic Evotion, D cuffs my hands behind my back and blindfolds me so I never have the opportunity to touch or even see her penis in an unlocked state. This is an aspect that has been introduced in the last 2 years as D understands more of the power she holds and affect it has on me.
It's been a journey that has brought us far closer together as a couple than a vanilla relationship ever could.

 

Thanks for sharing that info.It's good to know how my body may respond to this. Being fairly new to this i still have much to learn.

 

No worries, I found it on this site : https://evolvingyourman.wordpress.com/2018/11/18/managing-your-mans-release/ and I double check with my knowledge in biology. maybe simplified at extreme but it seems to be exact.
it explain many things to us, we are not so different than girls in facts.