Is the word "fucking" demeaning to women?

I believe you are spot on with the context. I can’t really imagine saying “fucking my wife”, I may say intimate with, fooling around, in bed, in a session, etc, no part of my narrative would include “fucking my wife” mostly because it’s not imaginative or paint an erotic picture for sharing with others.

I could however see myself saying it in reply to quote someone else. Like after they asked a question as in: I was fucking my wife and want to know if it’s normal cumming in 10 seconds? I might reply...well do you usually fuck your wife longer than that?

Basically it’s not how I would ever chat, even with my buddies. I am a grown up though, and certainly have been crude at times, even told the occasional filthy joke.

 

My wife probably wouldn't like reading this, but when I'm speaking to her sometimes the abrasive language is erotic. Other women may think that any other phrases are pansy bullshit. I don't think one can make a blanket statement that all women would find the phrase offensive in a given context.

 

I think it's an improper expression, Ma'am. I wouldn't talk in such terms. I'd prefer to say "having sex" or "making love". And I agree with you it doesn't fit in with this site's spirit.

 

Women I just like men, they may not use the word frequently if or at all. There needs occasionally also are that they just need to get f*****. When the Mitch needs scratched it doesn't matter how you get there.

 

Sometimes we make love, with all the foreplay and build up etc...

...and sometimes we just fuck.

 

In my humble opinion it is disrespectful. Women may grant a male permission to make love but even then I no longer even dream of putting my penis inside someone...…..that's what my mouth and lips and fingers are for. Fucking is something my first Mistress did to me with a strap-on.

 

Hmmm... that's a tough one, but I could definitely see where it would be discomforting for the Female to feel sunjectified - especially reading it on here publicly. Mistress Lucy makes an exceptional point in regards to this by stating, this is a submissive site, where men are to be subservient to the Superior Female gender.

 

Ooops. That word was meant to be "subjectified." My mistake

 

There should be no comparison between the actual act and how you do it, and the vocabulary of “I was fucking my wife”.

Yes there are different levels of erotic behavior, sometimes it’s not making love, sometimes it is just two animals going at it, if so I would use a better description than that. Saying it casually like that makes it sound routine and crude, like you were posting a letter or chewing food.

I don’t always wax poetic but probably wouldn’t use that phrase. Lack of imagination, and vocabulary, in a place where words are your medium is odd.

 

As a verb, probably not. As an adjective, however, almost certainly...

 

But it's a phrase women use as well: "I fucked this guy last night"; "I let him fuck me", and so on. In broad general terms it usually refers to coitus without emotion, but not always. If a woman experiences "making love" with her S.O. and then hears him refer to it as "fucking", she might be upset. But is it that much worse than "screwing" or "boinking" or "doing it" or "having sex"? None of those terms convey much emotional attachment either. Yet, if you tell your partner they're a "great lay" it could imply a genuine fondness, both of the person and the act. Did you and your wife "dine" last night or "chow down"? Did you "perform cunnilingus" or "eat pussy"? "Masturbate" or "jerk off"?

As @L-u-c-y says, context is everything. Some people go nuts over using the wrong fork. If "fucking" causes offense, then try not to use it. If not, then who cares? I would think the t-shirt rule applies best: if you wouldn't wear it in public on a shirt, then don't say it in public. Privately it will always depend on the company you keep. Otherwise it's a solution in search of a problem, and a tempest in a teapot.

 

No. I don’t think so at all. There’s nothing wrong with a good fuck.

Now it’s been 3 months and 21 days since I got to fuck her, doggie style... and I nearly cried then. It was so overwhelmingly good. Just like it felt in April. So it’s rare.

But she occasionally likes being fuckable.

Now her riding me slowly or her letting me enter her as we kiss in missionary style is different. That’s your “encounter”.

But a good hard fucking is never demeaning. Especially not when it is her choice.

 

appreciate both your sensibilities and your honesty

 

My wife hates the word "fuck" in any form, in general conversation. Unless we are making love she does not use the word. Then she will say "fuck me" along with any other instructions.
I can't imagine her having a conversation where she said that i had just "fucked" her, or "we had a fucking good time".
In general she finds the term obscene.
Unfortunately, the term seem to have become part of our younger generations vocabulary. I have a nephew who is college educated and he and his wife use the term in conversations all the time, even in front of their children.
If I walked up to my wife and said, "let's go fuck", there would be no sex for me!

 

To me it seems like a coarse word to use to describe lovemaking to someone special, its not a word i could ever see myself using to describe a shared moment of immense pleasure with my wife but each to their own.

 

Partly, this is a function of the grammatical construction - subject, verb, object - I fucked her.

This sounds aggressive. It is something that is being done TO someone else. The use of anglo-saxon rather than Latinate wording - "fuck" - also adds to the context.

Other constructs and wordings sound softer. "I made love to my wife" is better. "My wife and I made love" is even better. "We caressed" better still.

 

Sometimes we make love and sometimes we fuck! So if we made love, I made love to my wife. And if we fucked, well, I fucked my wife. Goes both ways too, she fucks me as well.

This is not a bad thing I think. My kh likes that once and awhile. On several instances I have said lets fuck, and then we do. Granted saying that was before we started chastity. Can't remember if I have said it to her since we started? We have fucked since starting chastity.

Guess the next time I am free, and the mood for that seems right I should say that and see what's happens? See if she will allow it if the words are spoken?

 

i'm being very cheeky when I say:
lovers fuck our wives and girlfriends.
we worship them.

 

Pretty much exactly what I was going to say.

 

Whatever the language chosen I can not recall ever having told anyone what and when any of my partners past or present and I had been doing. I can't imagine me starting to do so either. Why anyone would want to do that is beyond me.

I have in the past explained that my phone was turned off (or will be) as being because sometimes when we are home we just want a quiet evening to ourselves.

They can then I suppose draw their own conclusions which may or may not be wrong.

Thats as near as I have ever got, and no doubt as close as I ever will.


In response to Lucy's OP.
No I would not use fuck or fucking in that context not even with my partner. I think it would be disrespectful of our relationship.

But some people I suppose don't have the same regard for such things.

 

To me it is and act of love. To be so intimately connected the word just doesn't fit. If you use it
as "I just fucked that up" I can't see how you could use it for something we would share with
such a special person. Never liked the word, I feel it is demeaning to a woman.

 

If I read/ hear someone say they "fucked their wife" I think that sounds like you're talking about a piece of property. If you say "we fucked" or "had a good fuck" that makes me think of hot dirty sex and not in a deameaning sense. So I agree, if you say you fucked your wife, it sounds totally demeaning.

 

She fucks me if she wants to. I make love to her once in a while; I only fuck her if she asks me to.