I'm interested in opinions on how locked males should be allowed to release...….whether for prostrate health or to restore their mental equilibrium if they are becoming tediously frantic, when they are locked by a remote or virtual keyholder. Techniques that further develop mental submission to their keyholder are of special interest. PLEASE refrain from any suggestions that are disrespectful or that exploit women. (like porn).
Rewarding or alleviating 'frenzy' with masturbation or release seems rather counterproductive as far as My understanding of chastity basics goes... Prostate health is a different matter. Good luck finding answers that suit your situation.
I don't think you're going to find many advocates for any form of masturbation amongst the keyholders here. I'm of the mind that while locked, you're allowed to have whatever pleasure you like, so long as it's not from the penis. Hopefully you can find relief in the back door!
thank you for your wisdom Ms. Breathe......surely I agree there should be no rewards for bad behavior...….I was referring to developmental stages where subs may fail to concentrate on their (non-sexual) service responsibilities because they are overexcited - not sure what remedy would be best but your point is well taken - thank you again
Sure sounds like you're fishing for an excuse to be released. Learning to restore your "mental equilibrium" without release is part of the experience of being chaste. If chastity is truly your goal, then staying locked through the tough times will be beneficial to you in the long run. It's kind of like starting an exercise program or going on a diet, you need to look at the end game. Trust me, being let out now will just make it more difficult.
Being locked and not in control of your release requires you to learn a new set of skills. I have struggled with what to do with my desire since masturbation was eliminated as an option. Focusing my energy on my wife has been my best option but I still struggle until she shows me some mercy for which I am always grateful.
I'm not actually fishing...….I've been given a tentative date and am worried that I not conduct myself in a way that would undermine the progress I've made or disappoint my Mistress.
The heading is " masturbation as therapy" . The answer must be no. I don't see how it could be anything other than no on a site like this
@Breathe I can't understand this thread. Is there something missing ?????? Who has mentioned " frenzy" .
I respect your point immensely....perhaps I've chosen a poor title...….I still need to know how I should behave if given permission for a release. It's been a long time but it's my first with my new Mistress and I don't want to disappoint her with inappropriate behavior.
Perhaps I should re-state my question...…..is there any way to have a male release without undoing his training or adversely affecting his attitude? Ideally some way that would deepen is devotion and acceptance of his place as your sub?
If my Lady wants to reward me, take care of my prostate health or simply feels the time is right to remind me how worthy and beautiful a orgasm is .... then SHE will do what ever there may seem adequate to her. If I deserve one of those rare fully orgasms she mostly forces me to have sex with a really, really cheap rubber doll. But masturbation? NO!
I am "relieved" without orgasm, masturbation or ejaculation through being milked periodically. This keeps me pretty docile, firmly under Her control and focused on Her needs more than mine.
Is an element of humiliation her intent? (with your being so desperate as to be unable to refuse the opportunity?) I assume you are referring to anal stimulation to the point or orgasm? (or perhaps just leaking without any spasms?)
Yes - thank you...…….this would require me to maintain discipline and obedience to her wishes over more selfish feelings.
No, @Steviepie , I was referring to manual prostate massage, by the gloved finger of my Mistress. We could never get anything going by just anal stimulation with a Dildo or even a vibe.
Thanks to all for the suggestions and I'm open to more...…..does anyone think a sub should be allowed visual "stimulation" even if non-pornographic...…...something to reinforce my submission? a "crush" photo perhaps? or is any visual un-acceptable?
thank you DonnaSue …...as I am virtual that would not be an option for me (unless with a toy as you mention)
Yes, humiliation is a big and important part of my Ladys mastery. She likes it very much to see me humping this stupid gazing blow up girl while she sets the pulse with her cane or whip. That means, She knows very well that every beat on my rear, given by her hand, will push me towards a release .... Hence I only have to jerk one time on each beat and otherwise I have to remain stock-still. This way she is in charge if and when my fluid is allowed to run .... or not. Is that humiliating enough to answer your question? Here are some pics to give you an idea (snapshot outtake of a video she made some years ago with a static camera. 1st: she is sitting and watching me preparing all for the release. The red rope across my back is connected to my balls. 2nd: I am allowed to insert my member, moderated by her pulling the red rope. 3rd: remain stock still until she attached the rope to the bed. 4th: beat - jerk - numbness - beat - jerk numbness .........
Thank you for your feedback - I'm not a masochist although I have been beaten frequently by a former Mistress and could probably develop that way if my Mistress was interested. Being virtual something like Icy Hot or clothespins (or both) might put me in a similar situation.