I hope she likes it...

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    New here
    I’ve had an interest for a few years but never acted on it. My wife of 28 years knows about my kinky side but is a bit vanilla herself
    She does indulge me with bondage and toys often enough to satisfy me but I have not shared my interest in chastity and t&d
    I just ordered two cages (she doesn’t know) one metal and one plastic, they’re supposed to arrive Saturday in the mail
    I’m thinking about putting one on and then taking her out for some drinks and fun and while we’re out giving her the keys and telling her about it, then seeing what happens
    Looking forward to it but the combination of excitement and mild fear are powerful

    It feels strange to me that I want to be locked up but I do, I really hope she will like and have fun with it.

    If anyone here has a good story about how they handled this situation I’d be curious to know
     
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    Sounds like fun, but I think you should introduce the idea before presenting her with the reality. It might be a big enough shock to her that this is what you want to do. Give her something to read, and let her process it for a few days then ask her if she would like to see a cage. Baby steps. You have time. No need to push her too hard.
     
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    I had some luck by sending my vanilla wife this link:

    https://goo.gl/GC7Cqi

    She read the entire book in the same day. Even though she is receptive, it has been slow going to start.

    Good luck!
     
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    That's a good sign.

    Like previously mentioned, I think it's better to introduce the idea at first.

    I'm not married but have had two girlfriends/kh. Both times, very bluntly, I asked them what they thought about having a key to my dick.

    One of them said it was a great idea at first then She realized I was serious after actually seeing it. She didn't understand why I'd want that. Had to explain why I would wear it all the time, if it hurt, her role, etc... it took time for her to get comfortable with it.

    I agree with tecolote. Give her the option first. Explain everything, answer questions, get her take on it. What are both of you trying to achieve?

    Once all that is cleared up, bust it out!
     
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    You're mad.

    Put yourself in her position. Something like that, out of the blue. She's not going to be able to take it in. Remember you've been thinking about this for a long time. She hasn't.

    You simply have to sit down and talk it through with her, quietly, at home. Explain the advantages. What you get out of it. What she gets out of it. Talk it through.

    Good luck.
     
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    Thank you all for the advice
    I think I will discuss it with her first and see what she thinks.
    I have a goal in mind but I don’t want her to feel any pressure at all and in reflection my original thoughts about how to show her definitely would have pressured her.
     
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    I agree with the others. You should talk to her first. It might help if she has had a few drinks.
    I sprung it on my vanilla wife and she didn't react quite as I imagined she would. She kept it on me for one night to teach me a lesson, then it went out with the garbage. Your wife is not near as vanilla as mine. We have a sort of FLR marriage now, but it took six months to get where we are now.
    If your wife has done some kinky things with you in the past, she will be fine. Make sure you express the benefits that she will see with you locked up.
     
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    It doesn’t have to be too serious either. Granted, some of us here are pretty serious about it, but that doesn’t mean that’s how you have to introduce it to her.

    You can flirt in texts about the subject, taking it further and further. Maybe even suggest buying a gadget that would keep you under control. I have found that texting little things, and being sexual is through that is easier to instigate conversations and feedback.

    Our conversation started when my (girlfriend at the time) wife texted me that she ordered a sex swing after we were flirting back and forth for a bit. I texted back that I too had ordered something but it was for me to wear. Intrigued she asked what, I said something that would keep me frustrated and constantly aching for her, it wouldn’t allow me to even have an erection and she would have to unlock or I would stay that way. She asked about it more and told her it was a chastity cage.

    She was game to try, and I didn’t say anything about long term, fetish’s, or anything weird, just said she would have total control of my sex life until she took it off.

    Good luck and don’t freak out, worry too much, this can be fun.
     
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    on Friday evening my wife and I went out for a few drinks and some casino time which she likes
    When we got home she sat in a chair in the living room and I went over and stood next to her and she blew me
    Not to completion but enough to get me excited
    While she was doing that I told her I wanted to talk about something that I’d like to try
    She said
    OK.....
    The conversation then went somewhat like this
    Me - have you ever heard of Chastity or male chastity
    Her -no, what is it
    Me - it’s a way for you to have control of my cock, I would wear a device that locks me up
    Her-can you show me what you’re talking about
    Me- I actually bought one and it came in the mail today, would like to see it?
    Her -yes

    I’ll try to post more later. Off to work
     
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    Good luck!!
     
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    Thanks for the link
    I’m planning to copy some of this and show it to her
    I think if I gave it all at once it might freak her out a little
    But there is a lot of it that resonates with me and I hope it might with her too
     
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    That is awsome. i wish my wife was that understanding. You played it perfectly.
    Good luck!
     
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    After she said yes I went and got it and placed it in her hand
    She first said how heavy is this?
    I replied I don’t really know
    Her - and you wear this thing
    Me - would you like to see it on ?
    Her - yes, put it on right now
    Me - right here
    her -yes
    I told her I wanted to go put it on in the bathroom. I really didn’t want her to see the tugging on the bits and pieces it took to get them in the cage, in hindsight this was a mistake, when she said “yes put it on right now” while it was not a command , it was a direct statement and I should have just taken it as an instruction from her to do it right then and there.
    When I came out of the bathroom I was wearing my boxer briefs and the device
    First she just touched it through the boxers
    And when she did I handed her the keys
    She took them and immediately placed them in her bra.
    I forgot to mention all this talk happened in about 15 the minutes immediately following our placing an order for Chinese food from the restaurant we live directly above
    So now it was time to walk downstairs and pick up the food so I quickly put my clothes back on and went down and picked it up
    I could hear her say
    Okay you’re wearing to pick up the food as I was walking down the hall
    When I got back upstairs she was ready to eat and we did
    While we ate she asked a few questions and I answered as best I could
    And then almost immediately after eating (and due to the amount of drinking we had done earlier) She was “crashing” which is our term for exhausted, she handed me the keys and went to bed
    I spent a few minutes cleaning up then took the cage off and went to bed
    I wanted to wear to bed but I thought until I had worn it several waking hours or a full day I probably shouldn’t go 8 or more hours asleep in it
    And that basically ends the story of how I shared it with her.
    She seemed OK, but I’m not going to get my hopes too high yet
    I fear the Vanilla is Pretty strong in her
    Baby steps...
     
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    It’s a start brother at least You have it out in the open so yes a baby step is down .
    So far so good

    Good luck
     
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