Why?

She’s my Wife. And I’ve submitted to serve her. What else needs to be said.

 

Why? Just because, that's why. Let's not over think things here! I know some relationships have deep and meaningful reasons why and develop a "plan" if you like. But others just evolve! It's just like life in general really. Makes for an interesting world.

 

Your right their is a lot in between. That was the short version. Ha. Simply put after being together for many years it was her turn to receive most of the pleasures and not mine. If you check out my blog the Long explanations are their.

 

Previous experience indicating that? It starts with one thing, then it builds and builds like most things.

 

In return for consenting to being my KH I gave her full control until she bores of it. So it will go where she lets it at her pace for as long as she wants it to.... and anything might change this afternoon.

Its her game her rules.

 

Why? Trust. When I have been in charge of my sexual activity, when things weren’t going well, I would take things in my own hands. Maybe not a lot, but enough where I didn’t feel a “need” to go that extra mile. Silent instead of sharing, obstinate instead of accommodating, probably not putting in as much effort as I should have and keeping everything bottled up.

Since I wasn’t very good at controlling my orgasms enough to keep me being a good partner, I thought I would try letting someone else. First things first, I had to trust her to take care of me and our relationship. Trust that whatever she decided was for the greater good.

So why? I trust her more than myself.

 

Well said.

 

Exactly.

 

My wife and I had been married for a good long time before choosing the FLR route. We had seen each other through financial crisis, professional crisis, family crisis. The one thing that never changed was the bedrock trust we have in each other. Well, that and the sterling qualities she possesses of tolerance, empathy, intelligence, strength, determination. I could go on!

So when I decided to talk to her about my submissive nature, I *knew* it would turn out well. Even if she had been unwilling to enter an FLR, it would have been an occasion to deepen our understanding of each other. As it happened, she was open to it and has taken charge admirably.

So in a few words, why? Because I trust her to understand my most intimate feelings and put our relationship first. She proved it long before the FLR point.

 

We had a couple of weeks of lifestyle femdom "just for fun". It turned out that with her in charge, we argued less, and life worked better.

 

The question really comes down to which partner makes the best decisions with the highest accuracy and also takes into accounts the relationship as a whole. As a hyper majority of men barely can manage feeding, clothing, housing and maintaining their sexuality, one would presume they have minimal to little experience in maintaining a relationship and the decisions involved for two.

So one could state that women by being aware of themselves along with others naturally make the best decisions to lead.

 

Incompetence is more often a point of view than a reality. Your ability to adapt and let go of control is what is asked in any relationship where one submits to the other. You have only submitted when you no longer have expectations for the outcomes of the decisions.

For us, we each lead where we have interests and have inserted ultimate veto power for her. Which out of respect for our talents and interests is rarely used.

 

My own observation of human beings suggests this is correct. There are exceptions, of course, but for the great majority of couples, the men just ought to submit. Everyone would be better off.

 

Very well said and indicates to me that your FLR has a grounding in reality and thus most likely to be long-lived.