Should every couple practice male chastity?

not to mention marital rape...…...but your point is an excellent one that I think we males here at CM need to be very mindful of - thank you as always Mistress Lucy.

 

I am not Southern Baptist, I've never read any of their materials, and it's inappropriate to argue theology on this site.

 

I think, if introduced to the idea, numerous women would discover how much it benefits them and love it. I also think there are plenty of men who have never thought of being locked that would embrace the idea if it was introduced to them properly.

As we became really good friends with this couple we learned the husband would find men for his wife to have sex with. My wife showed me the blog iplayhewaits. She had me read a few of the articles and said I think that guy is a cuckold. I had never heard the word before. I jokingly asked if she wanted me to be a cuckold and I was shocked when she said, "What woman wouldn't want that!" I had a dream that night about sharing her. Maybe I shouldn't have told her about it and that I woke up hard.

Little did I know she was about to begin a year and a half long journey of leading me to being a locked cuckold. Over time she would show me stories or articles and note my reaction. When she would first introduce a new concept she would say I don't think I would ever do that to you. Then she would mention it several times over the next few weeks and then she would just out of nowhere do it.

In conclusion I think there are a lot of men like me. I never thought about being locked and when I first heard that some couples do that it did not occur to me that I would one day be locked nor did I ever think I would enjoy it.

 

Then quit bringing theology into the discussion. WTF is up with all you people who bring up religious dogma as a justification/rationale for X, Y, or Z, and then when someone challenges you on it, you come back with, "This is not the place for religious discussion/debate!"?

If you don't or can't discuss or defend your positions on religion, don't bring it up. Hypocrites.

 

Lucy, you make a great point. It's society that would benefit.

In my opinion, we'd do well to "desexualize" male chastity. Rather, if we as a society were to introduce male chastity very early in a male's life more along the lines of learning good table manners, proper hygiene, courtship, etc. than as "orgasm denial" things might be much better off.

Just as parents teach youngsters to open doors for ladies and to let them order first at restaurants, they can teach youngsters that "penile pleasure" is the purview of the woman.

I am NOT talking about forcing anything--especially onto children. But just as a mother may teach her daughter about how to use feminine hygiene products to help manage her monthly cycle, a father could guide his son on the proper and appropriate wearing of a chastity tube. Imagine how much better a child would be if he learned at an early age that careless masturbation and selfish behavior doesn't do him any good.

By the time a young man entered into the dating world, hopefully his parents had already taught him and led him on the appropriate use of male chastity. Him walking around without a chastity tube applied would be akin to him walking around without wearing any underwear.

 

Gaia,

I believe you are absolutely correct. The improvement to society and mankind is incalculable. IN A NONSEXUAL way, it should be the parents that introduce a young male into chastity. Just as a good father teaches his son how to shave, tie a necktie, polish his shoes, change the oil in the car........a father should teach his son how to put on a chastity tube. (I can't emphasize enough how I mean in a NON sexual way.) You mention AT puberty, it may even be more effect prior to puberty.

 

Haha!

You guys are crazy with your puberty lock up ideas

Do you really think you can teach a 13y old boy to put on a cage in a non-sexual way??! And to kill all his instincts and biology with the click of a lock? You think you can rewrite 200k years of evolution?

A boy who goes through puberty gets all his sexual hormones, discovers libido, masturbation, sexuality, the entire functioning of a big part of who he is.... You can’t lock that up!

I know this thread is all fun and fantasy, but what you guys say sounds like Victorian age barbaric fights against masturbation.

Boys are not evil. I’m a boy, and I’m not evil. When I’m not locked up, I’m not a sick dog running around, and needing treatments. There are plenty of problems with manhood, and toxic way of manifesting it that are passed from generations to generations. That’s true.

But honestly, there are many toxic behaviors in both genders, that needs to be corrected. Childrens need high level moral, political and philosophical education.
Not Chastity.

Chastity is a kink, and awesome one in my opinion that they can choose to experience as adults if they feel like it.
Or not.

 

Finally some common sense around here. Maybe some of you aught to re read what you’ve written.

It saddens me that we have assumed all men are controlling rapists and abusive of others. The truth is far from that.

I don’t know if anyone would seriously expect a chastity device to stop this behaviour even from that tiny minority of abusive men? The inasablable chastity device hasn’t been invented yet.

 

Thanks for the support

This said I won’t stand by the tiny minority.
I know it’s just word for a subjective quantification, but it really matters nowadays.

Maybe abusive men are a tiny minority among educated and refined people (I’m not actually sure that’s even true) but when considering the entire male population, abusive men are way more than a tiny minority

This said, it doesn’t change the fact that forced Chastity is a completely fucked up idea.
That male toxicity is a real problem, and the solution is teaching young men to control and positively harvest their sexual energy, and never to use any women (or any other living creature actually) as an outlet to their sexual or non-sexual frustrations.

Otherwise, it’s like saying: “criminality is a real problem among the poor classes of this country. So let’s put anyone who makes less than 10$/h in prison”

 

So... I see one obvious route for male chastity to become mainstream, but it's not the one people seem to be thinking of.

Even nowadays, it's common for young women to control the pace of intimacy by making him keep his jockstrap on, or even wear speedos in bed. For the young man, it's the vanilla version of the kinky "frustration buys intimacy" bargain. From there it's a simple step to non-locking vanilla-looking devices such as the Oxballs chastity cage. It's not hard to imagine a plausible future where this is as least as unremarkable as pegging, or even using a vibrator. So buying one of these devices could become a right of passage similar to buying condoms.

To get from there to ubiquitous keyholding - that can't happen until we have a practical escape-evident device not relying on piercings.

 

To Metalman and Maid Sera,

Looking through the lens of "today", you both are correct. But I believe the original poster was pondering a "what if". If we could look through a different lens, then I stand by what I said earlier. Young people will conform to consistent expectations.

We subject children to painful orthodontic devices (somewhat akin to chastity tubes) yet no one cries foul. It's all a matter of what you are used to.

My parents taught me to never go outdoors without wearing shoes. Advice I still agree with today. Had I been taught early on that I wore a "shoe" on my penis, I am not sure it'd have been that big of deal.

 

We have two main instincts, that drives huge parts of our lives:
Self-preservation & Reproduction.

Puting shoes on is completely incomparable with getting your penis locked up, and giving control of an essential and defining force of your life to others, without a choice.

Men have tried to limit and control the sexuality of each other’s throughout the centuries, and I personally think it is always a terrible mistake, that only creates traumas, frustrations, and generations of nevrotics.

 

Maybe this thread should of been about how we let people know about Male chastity? How we can introduce others to it.

I had this conversation a few years ago now with a guy from Sweden. When we had that chat every chastity device was £70+ Chinese devices haven't really started to be manufactured. What we agreed is that chastity devices needed to be cheaper so you could afford to buy one as a novelty. Cheaper being less than a vibrator. Then you need to get the online Sex shops on board to offer these cheaper devices. A good time to see one is when people are already shopping for Sex toys.

We came up with Male Chastity Day that’s on Feb 15th every year. We got a few Sex shops to offer special offers on chastity devices and giveaways on the day. Chinese devices are now costing Les than £20 for something that can be worn for medium term. We promote this mainly on twitter, but we also have some Sex bloggers posting about it.

We need to let people know about Male chastity not by making it a rule for everyone but by promoting the idea.

 

No way! Not all couples can communicate effectively enough to work through some of the issues that come up with male chastity. It’s a fantasy to be teased and denied but it’s totally different once it becomes your reality.

 

Global domination takes time you know...

 

And who would carry the key?

 

Mother of course.

 

Had cages been available in my youth I'm sure that my mother would have locked me to stop my compulsive masturbating and would have kept the key.

 

It's a good question of who holds the key. I made a typo.....I meant when the boy was very young the MOTHER should perform the keyholding duties. Just as the mother tended to be the diaper changer and bath giver, etc. The young boy's chastity would be her area of expertise......until puberty, then the father would take over. Keep in mind, the father was chaste as well.

 

That sounds great but don’t you think we would have just a bunch of sexually frustrated boys with no outlet?

 

Hi Diego,

I think the part that for all of us seems impossible to imagine is that these boys/men/husbands NEVER were introduced to normal sex. They have no idea that a penis can go inside a vagina. Perhaps their "needs" are easily handled by the wet dream. If society never told them. They never saw porn. Maybe they'd be OK with wet dreams only.

I admit, it's fantasy. But we can never underestimate the power of the mind.

 

If we all set a good examples of the locked lifestyle the benefits should be self evident...….already there is a thriving business supplying devices. We just need a media event to bring it out of the shadows of kink into the mainstream of "choice".

 

Have you forgotten "nocturnal emissions"? All we need is a panty liner type product to market for inside their pajamas. Marketing will "normalize" the practice......action figures perhaps?

 

And what about gay men in such a society? Who will be their key holder and how will they go about it?

 

Headed towards 40, still get wet dreams.

My idea for cleaner nocturnal emissions, without ruining your pj's or bedsheets is a small sock (baby or toddler sized socks) over the cage.