My unexpected life

Hey everyone just wanted to stop in and say hello. First off to answer the question from Mistress Watchful, I obviously know a split or break up is not what we need or want. I meant I wanted some time apart to sort out my head, but not time apart in the traditional sense.

Needless to say a lot has happened since my last post. We did have a pretty amazing night of love making about a week or so ago. As always when it was all said and done my wife could not figure out why we did not do that more often. I wanted to strangle her. The good thing was the some what mischievous side of me kicked in. We still had the old wrist cuffs attached below the head board and I managed to do a little turn about mid way through the event. I am sure I will pay for that at sometime but oh well. Added to the already enjoyed love making it was a nice twist.

This did get me thinking a little however. She seemed much more relaxed even in the submissive role and I have to wonder if perhaps she really is just not cut out for the control aspect of chastity play. I think for her it is more about the game but not as much as assuming the role.

Regardless the device sits in a drawer right now after it's one try on session. Probably for the better as the fit was rather secure and just a little scary. LOL

Anyways still taking one day at a time and adjusting to the new home office. Once I get some more to talk about I will let you know. I just wanted to let everyone here know that I meant when I said for better or for worse, so despite my little rampage early on I am not going anywhere. I love this woman too much! later

 

So the mind gets even more confused. LOL Last night was another night of some very fun and somewhat hot sex. She even kind of played around with the idea of her in the wrist cuffs so I said what the heck and there we were for the second time around. Very odd as that is usually not her thing. I have to wonder if maybe that is/was our problem. Not sure as there is little feedback to go on right now but you know what they say about rocking the boat.

The internal sturggle is mild but still there in a way. The device sits in a drawer right now and there were some very fun times with it. But if it is going to cause problems or she really has no interest then I can't see the point. Anyway work is killing me this week so it is off to get some rest. Later.

 

Well hello journal, hello everyone, and hello to the mansion. OK on a serious note I wish I had something outstanding to report. Truth is I don't. Things are just kind of at a normal married life pace right now. Nothing to complain about, but nothing to brag about either. The kids are really taking a toll on us and I can see the days coming with the holiday season quickly approaching that we are going to have less and less time for each other, especially with the plethora of activities she wants to get involved in.

At any rate the desires of chastity play come and go. In one moment I open the drawer to see the device there and wonder what it might be like, then the next reality moment hits and I know that it will most likely lead to disaster and I just get bummed out about the whole thing. Well as I said not much to say right now so I am going to browse around to see how everyone else is doing. Take care all.

 

Hello everyone. Long time no chat. LOL Truth be told I have not even been on the site in a while so I am stopping in tonight to get caught up, well as much as possible.

tj, by the way, thanks for suggestions but truth be told the sex is really pretty good right now. Now I obviously would be lying if I said the curiosity is killing me in regards to the Lori device that is collecting dust in the drawer. But of course I have learned both parties have to be 100% involved or it is such a waste of time, effort, and relationship.

The irony of the whole thing is that our sex life has improved a lot over the last few weeks. Of course the kids are still driving us both crazy but I guess that is what you get with a 5 year old and a 2 year old, of which the 2 year old is perfecting his terrible twos to near perfection. Well that si about it for now as I have little to add. Going to go see what I have been missing.

 

LOL way too funny ashby. I totally missed that one.

What I also seemed to miss the common sense this week as well. My wife and I were getting ready to lay down and take a nap on Sunday and were having one of those fun crazy moments. She said I love you and I siad I love you more. She asked how I figured that. As we have been making light of all the sexual tension lately I jokingly said "honey any guy who volunteered to be in a chastity device and then was made to wear pantyhose had to love you more" She said well you can prove that later. Going along with the play the next morning I secured myself in the Lori device still in a joking way and handed her the keys. Looks like the joke is all on me as she has taken great liberty to make sure I am still in lockup almost two days later.

While the whole thing caught us both off guard it seems there is little pressure this time around as it is totally in fun, for her anyway. LOL Now me on the other hand, well lets just say I am going crazy already as I was not quite prepared.

As this is the first time I have been in the device since it came back from Miss Lori I will say this. Fit is everything. The old one had a little extra length so as to give me room to grow on those occasions when I needed the room. However this one is the correct length and ironically is more comfortable. Even the nocturnal erections last night were bearable. Before I can "grow" the initial swelling of my member is halted and thus the whole erection process is almost stopped all together. While I am not sure how long she plans on carrying this out, I do know I will be much more careful next time. LOL It remains to be seen where she is taking this but I just thought I would stop in and let everyone know how things have been going. The crazy thing is our sex life was really picking up and while I still had my self indulgence tendencies it looks like that is on hold now. As the days go by here for the next few days I will get back on here and let you know how the adjustments to the device are working out.

 

Maybe you two are talking without our knowledge? LOL Truth be told I doubt it has anything with "getting your act together" and more that the time you spend as a couple seems to allow the play time you can spend as D/s. Who knows. All I know is I have a long list of tasks to finish up in my studio and as Goddess says that is the new rule of when she will let me out, I need to get back to work. LOL. You know if I knew I was not to get a release and went through this for every project I had to do, damn I might be the most productive photographer around. LOL

 

Good evening everyone. Well it looks as though I cam up a little short in the task list today. The damn phone rang of the hook and it was no new business at all. Instead it was my ex wife, pain in the you know what. On top of that I had other drama calls with employees to deal with and the list just went on. Somehow I managed to get a wedding edited tonight but still have an album revision to do and a high school senior session to edit. This "new" goal list could keep me ultra productive or it could just send me over the edge. The real kicker will be if She is in the mood and decides that if I am still locked up she still gets off. As I assume that is the way it should be it will certainly have my on my toes to keep caught up.

Ok in regards to the device. We finally have it back on of course which means we did get it back from Ms. Lori. We had the penis cage shortened a full inch and a quarter. I had had it ordered intentionally longer to give me some wiggle room. Problem was this caused some minor pain during the erection attempt phases. As I am a grower I grow first in girth then in length. All the extra cage area did was allow my extra foreskin a place to get bunched up and pinched at. with the short cage not only is some of the excess weight off the device the cage portion constricts the girth-growth right a way thus eliminating the attempt at an erection. Now with that said to correct my previous statement last night the old nocturnal erections still tries to happen but it is not nearly as bad as before. It is enough to wake me up but not enough that it causes so much pain that I can not get back to sleep, pretty easy. Overall the removal of some of the excess metal has been very beneficial. On Monday I wore it to my part time job where I was lifting very heavy stage platforms and moving tables etc. I completely expected some problems to come as a result but the fit was darn near perfect that I hardly realized it was there. Today while working at my desk I did not even know I was wearing it. That of course changes quickly when my mind wonders to areas it should not. I guess the whole moral of this post is that had I measured this thing from the beginning the way it should have been I might have had less problems. However with so little information to go on when ordering these things I still say the whole process is a crap shoot at best.

Well not much else to add all I can do tonight is hope when Goddess gets home that the wedding I finished and the other items I accomplished at home will be enough for a reprieve. LOL Although as it seems she has oddly found her groove again I am not to hopeful right now. The real problem is now she knows what happens with idle hands and I think that in and of itself is enough for her to continue to exert control.

 

The Recent Turn of Events

OK well first let me say I am terribly sorry it has been such a long time since I posted. With that being said I am also here to tell you all about a strange turn of events and perhaps start a little debate, discussion, or who knows what else.

As you all know a while back things really took a dive with my wife and I and the chastity play and the sex was pretty much just gone. During this same time I took a new part time job. Ironically this job was at my church. This alone with my wife and I getting back involved at our church kind of made us both feel like the whole chastity thing just needed to go away. It just felt odd maybe even wrong. The whole process of getting back involved in our faith I think was the best thing as we each found one another again. Now the really odd part is this and this is where I would like to open things up for some discussion. I know there is really no right or wrong answers but it would be interesting to see where some of your thoughts come in here. We recently signed up for a Love and respect conference. Long story but lets just say it is a workshop for couples. 1st Corinthians 7:4 says "It is not the wife who has the rights to her own body, but the husband. In the same way, it is not the husband who has the rights to his own body, but the wife"

Now this lead the start to our conversation where we could, for the first time, see that the lifestyle itself when truly between husband and wife could not only be acceptable to the non-Christian but perhaps even to a Christian family when viewed this way. So please share your thoughts, I would love to hear them.

 

Good morning gang. Thank you for all your responses. First and foremost I sincerely appreciate all the "non Bible bashing" comments. I should have put more emphasis on the actual verse than the Bible it self. It is funny though we just heard a message the other day about how some people will try to put the meaning on scripture that makes what they want ok. Now with that said contrary to some of the comments I am lucky to belong to a church/faith where sexuality in a marriage is not only accepted, it is encouraged. JS11756 brings up some great points in that the Bible does say if you marry expect problems. This is what this whole conference is about we are attending. However the modern day twist on that passage is that marriage takes work so don't expect to have everything magically fall into place just because you get married. I firmly believe there is plenty of truth to the Bible's laws on sexual impurity OUTSIDE of marriage. Of course that is my views, based on my faith, based on my experiences. I think of all he mistakes I have had o deal with in regards to relationships that had I not just jumped in the sack right away I would have seen what the girl was all about up front. LOL Now on the flip side I have ALWAYS belived that what ever is shared between husband and wife that is mutually accepted and shared and that does not involve anyone else is sacred in the terms of the marriage. After all the Bible does say the two shall become one flesh. This describes the act of love making and sex.

I guess in short I really was not looking for acceptance in this passage I just thought the passage itself was kind of unique to the whole situation at hand. And yes, newsub4a, it does say the wife's body belongs to me. To which my wife replied, "you can have all my body anytime. But you will most likely refrain more if your are locked up" and of course with that the giggle. LOL

I don't believe for a second that God ever intended for us not to enter into marriage. I think this series of passages is more of a warning to lt us all know that marriage will have ups and downs and it should not be entered into carelessly. After all for those who follow all the scriptures we know God created woman from man so that the two would be together.

Now as Mistress Watchful pointed out, as well as others, the Bible was written many years before most of modern day events. Ironically this past weekend we discussed this very fact. There are far to many people who live their life trying to live out the crazy 619 rules of the Bible. There is even a guy who wrote a book in the very fact of his attempt to live his life for one year under such pretenses. He realized it is near impossible. I think the Bible/Religion is more to be read, thought/prayed upon, then used to help your current situation, not fit it. With this said I have met plenty of crazy Bible belt people who unfortunately have tainted the religious views for many. for those effected in some way please know I am sorry for you and that is NO WAY a representation of what the Bible or God's ways are about. You have heard the phrase about people living in glass houses. Well let's just say one day there will be tons of glass shard to clean up. Well sorry fot he long post but I just wanted to say thanks again and to clarify that I was just looking for opinions on this, not trying to convert anyone. LOL

In the spirit of the post God bless and have a great day!