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    hey guys so I’m a 21 year old grad student. I’ve been into femdom for probably 7 years or so now and always have wanted chastity. I’ve messed around with online play and all that but I want the real thing now. I’m very alpha looking on the outside but i’m just not that interested in a vanilla sex life anymore. i know the consequences that are involved of this lifestyle and i believe i’ll be mature enough in finding the right person to be my keyholder. I’m pretty much all in on this lifestyle i just wanted to know if my fellow chaste males/keyholders think i’m rushing the process too young? thanks guys!
     
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    I'm 22 so no I don't think your too young, but findinf the right person to enjoy it with will be the challenge.
     
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    You're basically saying "Am I too young to start living life the way I want to?"

    The answer is no. But you're too young to reasonably expect to get it right the first time. ;-)

    Your sex life is no different from other areas: you don't have much experience yet so you have to go through a period of trial and error. The maturity part is how you deal with the inevitable errors. Be patient; be tolerant of yourself and others; be introspective; communicate. You'll get there, even if, at 21, you have plenty of time to change your goals if that's how things develop.
     
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    21 is certainly not too young to learn how to have a fulfilling sex life without your penis being the center of attention. Being locked in chastity doesn't mean forgoing a pleasurable sex life, it just means you have the opportunity to explore possibilities beyond "sex = penile stimulation + orgasm"
     
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    I wish I could have started when I was about 13.
     
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    You only live once , and you may make a mistake or 2, in your search to be living the life that you need.
    Go for it , don't stop until you have reached your goal.. Your life depends on it ..
     
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    don't know much about that "being too young"-thing, but: when you're dead you're too old! ;)
     
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    I knew who I was at 14 but was afraid to live that way. If you know who you are you're not too young.
     
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    Here's the contrary view. Yes, you're probably too young.

    Why do you want this? You don't really explain but I get the feeling you're just excited by the kink. It turns you on to think about being locked up. All of us on here understand that.

    But is it enough? Ask yourself, am I really prepared to devote myself to the service of a woman, to give up control to her, to never be able to orgasm without her consent, to live this in real life, not just fantasy. Be honest. Are you ready for that? If you are, go for it. If not, go out and explore and discover what you really want to do.

    Good luck.
     
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    I introduced bf to it when he was 24. He's almost 28, now. He doesn't like it, but I do. If he doesn't want to get locked up, all he needs to do is learn to control himself. You'd think after all these years, he'd of learned, but he hasn't,
     
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    A kinky lifestyle is a process, not an on/off switch. 21 isn't too young to know you want to play. The lifestyle you live this year will be totally different from the one you're living 20 years from now. It'll evolve. You may slide back to vanilla, or you may end up with a chastity tube welded on, and licking your Goddess's pussy while her bull bangs you from behind, loving every minute of it. You can't know where you'll wind up, but there's no point in just standing at the crossroads. Go for it! :)

    My advice, if Femdom and Chastity are fantasies, is to work on acquiring and practice wearing a device that you can wear 24/7. You can do that on your own. When the right lady comes along, you can negotiate what chastity and femdom mean to the two of you.

    Best of luck!
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    You don't say what sexual experience you've had and if you have had girlfriends or not. If you haven't, then before you start out down the kink road, you need to discover the delights of "normal" sex and see where you go from there. If your expectations of sex and of women in general are based on what you have learned from watching kinky porn, then I am afraid that you're in for a bit of a shock. Women are real people and they don't generally behave like porn stars.

    If, on the other hand, you've done the "normal" sex thing since you were 14 or so, then why not spread your wings into a bit of kink? You are an adult after all !!
     
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    I think you have put your finger on the button. At 20-28 or so the male's sexual urges are usually the strongest, so least likely to be under control unless something is done about it. So unless he is able to exercise self-discipline without control (which some are but in my experience not too many) this is the ideal age for it to be imposed on him. Even 18 is fine by me.
     
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    Sorry, but some of you people are living in a fantasy world. The idea of caging an 18 year old is nonsense.
     
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    Surely it depends on the individual. Most aren't yet at that stage I agree but not none either. And 18 where I am in UK is age of majority,
     
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    I, too, am in the UK, and the age if majority is irrelevant. The number of 18 year olds who will be willing to go into chastity is infintesimally small. You're not being realistic.
     
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    I think it is bordering on arrogance to believe you can dismiss as nonsense the considered opinions of others whose total experience seriously outweighs your own. What might have been more useful to the OP would have been some sensible advice something along the lines that you almost went into onyour own fiusrt post in this thread. Something more like ;


    @rs623582
    In regard to almost anything and everything including TTTWD 18 is young of course it is.
    As for myself I'll offer you this... which you may find a bit drawn out but please bear me out... At your age your time would be better spent looking for people to enjoy life with, if one turns out to be long term partner then great. You would be better seeking a long term partner that if all else is looking promising you might want to consider exploring with her some of the aspects of what you call 'this lifestyle,

    You did not really expand on that very much suggesting that you don't really know which aspects it is that appeals to you, hardly surprising given your lack of experience ( no condescension intended) with a future partner you may potentially be able to explore just which of those aspects it is that appeals to you both. You might get lucky first time ... in all probability not (law of averages) but you may find the right person for you both, the first time, and it may well be that whatever it is from 'this lifestyle' that appeals to you now may change later... Nothing as they say is written in stone.

    In short seek a partner, a soulmate , someone special .. don't confine your search now to just looking for a KH... you are young and should both live and experience life at your age not confine yourself to looking for someone your age that knows she wants to be a KH and that is also someone compatible in all other the other ways that makes you both each others life partners. Because that would be a very tall order.

    Seek happiness and you will find discontentment.
    Seek contentment and you may find happiness.
     
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    Why quote me without comment ... that was rather pointless don't you think?
    If it was to show me that you read it .... really there was no need either you did or didn't I will still put my shoes on one at a time either way.


    Oh! BTW I really don't need my posts bumping but thank you for the thought anyway.
     
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    read it again.
     
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    At your pointless suggestion I re-read post #18 there is nothing in it except your quote of my post.

    Both your posts #18 and #20 were pointless.

    Im a little curious what are you getting out of this? ... only a little curious ..more bored really.
     
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    From post 18:

    Someone whose total experience outweighs mine? I was once an 18 year old boy. I experienced that angst. I understand the testosterone-fuelled impulses. The person to whom I addressed my comments - ie not you - does not share that understanding of male sexuality.

    So I maintain my position. An 18 year old is not ready for chastity. People can encourage him all they want but it's wish fulfillment.
     
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    I stick by what I said and that you misunderstood

    I think it is bordering on arrogance to believe you can dismiss as nonsense the considered opinions of others whose total experience seriously outweighs your own.

    Perhaps I should have written COMBINED total experience to make it easier to understand

    As for wish fulfillment almost the whole of TTTWD is all about that.
     
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    I understand perfectly well, thank you. I simply disagree.

    Sorry to the OP for highjacking this thread. I wish you luck.
     
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    Learn to control himself? Ha!! Almost impossible at that age, he *needs* your cage and key. Many of us never learn that control -- the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.
     
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