My Life in Chastity

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    I've decided to start an on-going journal documenting my chastity experience with my loving Wife. (She has now insisted that I do it!) I'm doing it to remember, and for her to be able to see my thoughts and feelings about the ongoing journey.

    I'm currently 32, and married to a wonderful woman who is also my keyholder. We have been growing into a chastity relationship over the last few years, but she has recently started to get into it in a much more serious way. I've noticed that for many couples, there is a point at which the keyholder starts to acknowledge the power and understand the benefits of chastity. Once that switch is flipped, the keyholder begins to take the reins and then you see why everyone warns you to "be careful what you wish for!".

    A little background:
    Our first step into chastity occurred after I was gone on a trip for almost two weeks. I had been horny and looking at online sex shops. (I had always been very kinky, she was somewhat kinky and was typically a submissive to me. But she was easily pushed too far and overall didn't have the same masochistic tendencies that I have). While perusing the selection I saw a steel cock cage. Now I have been into bondage since puberty (maybe even a little before then but without understanding it) and I had never seen a cock cage before. I was instantly turned on by it and decided to order it for use when I got back from the trip. When I came home we met at a hotel near the airport (we live over an hour from the closets airport) and had some awesome kinky sex. I wore the cage for a little bit while teasing and spanking her and we both had a great time.

    After that, I was hooked. I became obsessed with finding a device that was inescapable yet comfortable enough to wear without interruption. I tried all sorts of contraptions including a CB6K, Holy Trainer and some various Chinese metal devices that worked pretty well, but I soon realized that without a piercing, there is no real way to prevent pull out. I am a big time grower, and if the base ring was tight enough to make escape difficult, my balls would ache all the time. Making the base ring bigger kept my balls from hurting constantly, but then I would practically slip out the back of the cage without any assistance. I had inserts for the CB series, but they ended up causing abrasions and cuts on my member and could't be worn for long.

    I finally went and got a frenum piercing and begin to experiment with ways to secure it to the inside of a cage. I ended up going with Red Chili chastity and had a custom metal cage made which can trap my frenum and make pullout impossible. (You can read more about my cage here https://www.chastitymansion.com/for...frenum-piercing-for-grower.22572/#post-209006)

    In hindsight, I think I probably should have gotten a prince albert piercing, since it is by far the most popular option and there are many cages designed to work with PAs. Also, I find the frenum piercing to be delicate and easily angered by too much tugging. However, I'm reasonably happy with what I have and can still use a urinal if I make sure things are lined up properly.

    So now I had a cage that I really could not escape from. Sure I have bolt cutters and the lock is an obvious weak point, but short of destroying the padlock, there was no way to free my penis without her knowledge.

    And yet, she hadn't gotten to the point of understanding why this all mattered. Once I became comfortable wearing the cage, she would take the keys and we'd play for a few days. She'd end up letting me out and we'd both cum and that would be it for some time. I usually had to lock myself back up when I got horny and make her take the keys. She wasn't careful with the keys and would leave them on the nightstand or the kitchen counter. I was disappointed since the major turn on for me is lack of control. I only like bondage if it's inescapable. Same for having my dick locked up. If I can get out, then what's the point!

    But over time she became a better keyholder. In the beginning, she was really doing it all to please me, to make me happy and fulfill my fantasy. As we talked more about it, she begin to take some interest in it. She started to lock me back up after playing or would make a deal like I can get out and come, but tomorrow I have to go back in. Things like that which drove me wild. Then we started a game to keep track with points. I'd have to get 3,000 points to be released. But every time I got 1,000 points I'd get a teasing session. Chores and romantic outings earned points and I had to work for my release.

    The point system worked fairly well, but it still felt like she was doing it all for me. Sure, more housework got done and I was checking things off the honey-do list, but it started to feel a little cheap like I was paying for her services with tasks. And If I earned enough points for a tease, but she wasn't in the mood or the timing was bad, and I didn't get my tease right away, I felt cheated and got pissy. Still, we were making progress and the game taught her to be more strict with me and not allow me release or orgasm unless I had earned it.

    But it still wasn't quite working. After one of our games ended, and I was released, we didn't do any chastity for two months or three months. I started jerking off daily, or more. The distance between us grew and our sex life was almost nonexistent. (We have been together for 8 years, and had opposite schedules. Since I was taking care of my needs, I wasn't in the mood when she wanted it.) We were also having some issues about having kids and other realtionshipy things that almost ended our marriage. We ended up working out our other issues and started to talk about chastity again.

    Next post: A new beginning.
     
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    Looking foward to the next instalment :)
     
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    A new beginning:
    That's what has brought us to this new chapter. I had mentioned to her now that we were in a better place, maybe we should try chastity again. She was excited about it but we weren't sure how to proceed. I looked up some articles about teasing, denial, and longer term chastity and I would read them to her during our free time. Then one night, I was telling her about the Behind Barz belt. (I really want one!). She looks it over and says, "Yeah, it's looks very nice, but if you want to get something like that I need to know that you are serious. 30 days in chastity with no relief and I'll let you buy that belt."

    I almost fell out of bed! I was instantly turned on and felt butterflies. I have worn my current cage for several weeks at a time, but there was always some time out and at least a few orgasms, but now she was telling me I'd spend a month locked up without any chance of cumming. Releases would only be for her to have sex with me (while I'm not allowed to cum). Or for hygine (which with my cage is only necessary every 10 days or so). I was a little apprehensive, but also completely excited and agreed without much fuss.

    This time there would be no points. She decided to keep a little journal documenting my behavior and any teasing would be entirely up to her. I convinced her to start using spankings to punish bad behavior and she has also added 3 days since we started for other infractions.

    I can't tell you how great it all is!!!

    I think having a release date that's so far ahead takes a lot of pressure off of her. She doesn't have to feel guilty for denying me as it is a test and I get a big reward at the end (a more secure belt which should pin my erections down and increase my frustrations!).

    Knowing I won't get to cum has also helped me to stay in without complaint. Sure I'd love to be teased, but I know I won't be allowed to cum and so it will only frustrate me more and make my cage feel smaller than it already is!

    I have also been a much better boy for her. Before, I would look at the points sheet and decide what I could do that was the least effort for the most points. The goal was to best the system and get to my release. But now, my goal is to keep her happy. I told her the other day I'm trying to make her happy so she keeps me locked up, not so she'll release me.

    The way to get her to want to hold your keys is by going above and beyond and trying to please her when she locks you. Not by begging to be locked and tormented. You must first improve your behavior without her having to ask. Over time, she will see the cause and effect. Lock him up, he becomes obedient, loving and helpful. You must be the one to change your behavior, make sure she benefits directly from locking you up. Then it becomes an easy choice for her!

    I had only been locked a few days, but I decided to go to the store and buy all the things needed to give her a pedicure. I soaked her feet, massaged them, and carefully went about clipping, trimming and painting her toes. She loved it! And it turned me on too. Pleasing her is where I get pleasure now. Not through my cock. It took me time to understand that she gets more pleasure from being pampered, taken to dinner, etc. than from physical touching. So rather than grabbing her waist and rubbing my caged dick against her, I have to find out what will really make her happy and then she rewards me with punishments, teasing and more.

    I made her promise to add time if I ask to be let out, and she has stuck to it! In a heated moment I begged her to get out and she added a day with a warning that next time I complain it will be more than 1 day added. (Who is this woman!)

    Now she is very careful with the keys and keeps them in a combo lock box at all times.

    A little over a week ago, I had tied myself bent over a sawhorse. I decided to "confess" to her the things I thought I should be punished for. I ogled some girls at the store while we were shopping together, I stared at some tits at the beach and some other thing that I have forgotten. She gave me 5 hard spanks (the first real spanking I've ever had!) and even though she is still a bit apprehensive about punishing me, she seems to be coming around!

    Several days ago, she decided that I was looking at too much porn and forbade me to look at porn without her being present. I had never asked her to do that, and frankly I didn't want it! Up until now, I was always topping from the bottom, but she is realizing that she is truly in charge and can make the rules.

    Recently she had me tie myself spread-eagle to the bed and asked me how many minutes of porn I had watched and I answered truthfully that is was probably about 3-4 minutes (which is way way down from before I was forbidden to watch). She loosened my arms enough for me to roll onto my stomach and then she wacked me 4 hard times with a paint stick (one used for 5-gallon buckets so it is noticeably thicker and longer than your normal paint stick. It also has a few layers of dried paint on it which adds some mass. It's honestly a favorite spanking implement).

    Now:
    I started my 1-month lock-up on June 20th. It's been 16 days, and since I had a few days added for being bad, I have 17 days left to go. It's been fantastic and it's the longest time I've gone without an orgasm since I first realized I could rub my cock with my hand to have one.

    I am going on a quick plane ride for a cousins wedding (which she can't attend due to scheduling conflicts) and she mentioned to me that I should ware a plastic device while I'm gone. (So hot!)

    I've been out twice. Once when she climbed on top of me and had several orgasms, she even said it turns her on a lot when I'm not allowed to cum while she rides my cock (YUM!). And once for her to masturbate me to the edge twice. She the followed me to the shower and watched while I carefully cleaned my penis and locked myself back up. I love not having any chance to do something bad!

    Well, that's it for now. I'm so thrilled at my situation! My wife started chastity at my request, but now she sees the benefits for herself and I really don't know if she will let me out when my 1-month is up or not. And that's the most exciting part!

    Good luck everyone! It can happen! Be patient! Talk a lot! Don't give up!
     
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    I forgot to add two other things that have happened since my lock-up.

    While i was tied over the sawhorse, she took the purple strap-on that I bought to use on her while i was locked and she made me suck it! Deep-throat it and then she lubed it up and stuck it in my ass! I was helpless to stop her, not that I would have anyway. I had expressed some interest in forced bi, but she really did it all on her own without me asking at all. I was so pleased and proud! It was the first time she put something in me.

    We tried using that dildo once before for her pleasure, but she didn't love it. But now that I'm supposed to be locked all the time, she had me penetrate her with the dildo (after thorough cleaning and with a condom on) while I was wearing my cage. She got some decent orgasms and she's starting to find ways to get off without letting me out. EVIL AND WONDERFUL!
     
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    Good luck in your quest i recognised so many incidents you mentioned in your post and have like you found that most partners just want to be made to feel special. I wish you all the luck in the world and when you succeed and hopefully get the reward you mentioned things will really become intense. The belt will certainly make you aware that what you have cherished most for so much of your life can so easily be completely out of your hands. One piece of advice if you do join us fellow full belt wearers just take it slow at first, hopefully this will be the strat of a wonderful new controlled life for you both. I love my belt and feel lost when i am not locked inside it.
     
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    Thanks for reading Stroppy! I’ll make sure to take it slow with the belt. I just hope she lets me out long enough to try it!
     
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    Fantastic,
     
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    good luck @2tall you are starting an amazing journey
     
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    Last teasing session was great!
    She had me tie myself strappado to the ceiling hooks in the bedroom, with a spreader bar for my legs. She told me to put in my electric buttplug and I put some bipolar electric cock rings around the base of my cock. (Love these new bipolar cloth rings as I can slip them over my cage without removing it and she can tease/punish me with our erostek box.)

    She would turn it up and down and pushed me to the edge of orgasm. Then stopped and let me down. I had to lick the dribbles up off the floor before we went to bed.

    Lovely tease before my short trip out of town.

    13 days to go.
     
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    Been gone a few days for a wedding out of town. Wife/kh couldn’t attend so I locked on an old CB clone. I broke it on the plane ride away from home and was unlocked for 2 days without Her! I was mostly well behaved, but I did touch myself a few times. No orgasm, of course. But I’m still wondering what she has in store for me as punishment...
     
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    Last night she had me tie myself spread eagle to the bed, face down, and gave me a nice back massage. Work has been busy so it was a nice reward after many long days.
    After a great massage, she had me flip over, re-secured my limbs, unlocked my cage and stroked me for a bit. I was writhing all over the place since it’s been 23 days since my last orgasm. She kept teasing me and kept stopping when I got close. She threatened me with starting my 30 days over if I came and then she upped it to a month and a half more time if I wanted to come. I was desperate, but I’ve almost made it a month and I have enough willpower to make it (I think).

    She had a blast doing it and she old me it made her wet to have me so horny.

    She then untied me and told me to get my cage back on right away. She watched to make sure it was secure before getting ready for bed.

    She keeps telling me that I’m so screwed and that she’s never letting me out. She having way to much fun with it.

    I’d be worried if I wasn’t have so much fun myself!
     
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    Had a nice embarrassing moment today!
    I bought an anal hook a few weeks ago, and finally took it for a test drive today while my Wife was at work.

    I tied it to a collar and had some fun squirming around and letting it prod me. The I went downstairs and cleaned it at the kitchen sink and set it aside to dry. Then I left to put in a few hours at work, forgetting to put my toy away.

    Well, little did I know, my Wife and her sister went over to the house and what did they see? A giant chrome anal hook sitting a bag on the kitchen counter. Whoops!

    I got a text asking if I was playing around without permission or if I’d bought a very odd towel hook.

    I was so embarrassed. They both knew I had to be playing with it myself. Now my sister in law knows I like anal. So that’s fun /s.
     
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    So after my embarrassing moment today, my Wife and I are sitting watching TV and we start talking about the incident.

    She recently made a rule that all sex toy purchases must be approved by her and she was concerned that I had violated that rule. I had ordered the hook before the new rule, and had the email to prove it, so I thought I’d get off scott-free. But then she says that I shouldn’t be pleasuring myself without permission, wether it’s through my cock or ass and that I would be punished for it.

    So she made me put the hook in my ass again and told me I was going to spend 30 minutes in the dog cage. Naked of course.

    I didn’t argue and set up the cage, inserted the hook attached to a collar, and climbed in the cage and locked two padlocks on.

    She came up to check my work and told me my 30 minutes would start as soon as the episode she was watching ended. Luckily it was just a 1/2 hour show! So I ended up spending more like and hour in the dog cage, which is just slightly too small to ever be comfortable in.

    She came to mess with me when I had about 20 minutes left in the cage. She touched me through the bars, and used her riding crop to prod and gently slap me.

    Then she asked me about my masturbation while I was on vacation after I broke my plastic travel cage. I had hoped she had forgotten, but now I knew I was in trouble.

    She commanded me to push my ass cheeks against the bars of the cage and she gave me 45 hard smacks for the approximate number of strokes I’d done while my cock was free. I think I got off lucky, since some of the smacks were absorbed by the dog cage rather than my ass. It was a good warning. 45 direct, hard smacks would have been very unpleasant.

    After my punishment, I cleaned up and showered her with affection. All my kissing got her going and after grinding my cage against her, we used the magic wand to get her two nice orgasms before the fell quickly asleep.

    I’m the luckiest slave there is!
     
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    I had slipped in adhearing to the “no porn” rule and had probably spent two or three hours looking at porn over the last few days. We’d both been busy so not much fun was being had, but it finally came up last night and I confessed to looking at porn without permission.

    She first sentenced me to 21 days locked after my current time ends. (I’ve got 2 days left of my 33 days). And decided I’d be getting a spank for every minute I’d watched. So rounding up, I was gonna get 180 spanks.

    I was ordered to tie myself face down, spread eagle on the bed. And she made me put some porn on the tv. She then doled out my 180 spanks with various tools we have for such purposes. My ass was stinging!

    She was a little upset at the end because I was writhing around and crying out with each smack and she was guilty about hurting me. But I comforted her and thanked her for caring enough to enforce the rules and was grateful for being punished since I had been very bad and directly disobeyed her. I think she will become more comfortable with it over time and I will try to be better behaved.
     
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    I must say, I would like properly enforce consequences like that. I feel like a naughty boy pushing the boundaries at times to see if anything happens! But I do do this subconsciousley when I think back...
    I'd rather be told off and corpral punishment used than my wife just getting pee'ed off with me!
     
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    Well, we had a little break there. Between having family in town and work we didn't really practice chastity in the beginning of August. Once things calmed down a bit, we decided to start again. This time I had showed her an article about it taking 21 days to enforce a habit, or much longer, (months to even years) to form a complex habit. So she decided we would go for a 21 day lockup. Not complete denial for 30 days as with last time, but 3 weeks cage time, even with a release here and there is still a long time in my book.

    Of course, I had to be a horny idiot and I kept pestering her to be meaner. "Don't be afraid to lock me longer" and "I hope that you will be a little meaner to me" and threw around words like "months." And boy, did I get what I asked for! At first she decided to take me up on my offer and extended my sentence to 2 months, but before I knew it we (She) had somehow decided that since New Years is such an easy to remember day, I could just stay under her complete control until 2019. An even 4 months starting September 1.

    Funny thing is, if I had just surpassed my crazy, horn-ball thoughts, I would have been out today. I started my original lockup on August 16th, 21 days ago. But since we started a new 4 month term on September 1, I'm now looking at 116 days till I am guaranteed out of my cage. And I absolutely didn't get a break before starting the new countdown.

    She also read an article I pulled up for her from Lion, that mentioned going at a minimum of 1 week between orgasms and that ruined orgasms and milking are equal to full orgasms as far as motivation and sex drive is concerned.


    I was a lucky slave, and we had sex while out of town for a wedding. Although she delayed my orgasm, I was eventually allowed to cum while inside her. That was August 23rd. She teased me a bit and a week later on the 30th, she wanted to try milking me.

    I put an eye-bolt in the floor and cuffed my hands, while a ratchet rope was attached to a head harness and run to the ceiling above. I put on a spreader bar and was on my hands and knees while she was behind me. I got let out of the cage and played wirh before she started lubing up her fingers. I've had dildos and plugs in my butt before, but never another persons fingers. She massaged my prostate and although it felt very nice (and like I was about to pee myself) we never got more than a few drops of pre-cum out. She kept edging me by stroking me and I was about to give in and ask to be put back into my cage, but she finally just tipped me over the edge and I got a ruined orgasm. I got a few contractions out of the orgasm, so it felt very good, and I drizzled a huge load of cum all over the floor. As I was coming down, she suggested I get ready to lick it up.

    Obviously, at this point, I was not in the mood to lick up the enormous amount of cum that had oozed out of me and was now mixed with lube and getting cold. I begged with her and used my puppy dog eyes and I managed to get out of having to do it. It's something I've thought about since, and while I do wish she'd forced me to do it, I'm really glad I didn't have to that time. So much cum, and mixed with silicone lube was not appetizing right after an orgasm. I've been warned that I definitely will have to lick up any drips during teasing and if I ever cum without permission during teasing I will be licking that up to. Licking up cum is just one of those things that sounds so hot, until your there looking at a big, sad load of semen.

    So today is a week since the milking/RO i got last Thursday. Again due to my insatiable horniness, I suggested she get some dirty pictures of me to have another tool in her arsenal to persuade me to obey. I kinda like when she adds time to my sentence and delaying my orgasm day isn't quite as immediate as the threat of leaving a lewd photo somewhere in our small town.

    I was ordered to wear my heels, a fishnet body stocking, and a kali's teeth bracelet behind my basering. We went into the backyard at night and she snapped some pictures. Luckily I got to wear a spandex mask with eye and mouth holes, so it really isn't identifiable as me. As afraid as I am of doing it, I still wanted her to get some of me with my face showing, but she told me to wait. She would take lots more pictures in various outfits and poses over the coming weeks.

    So there it is. I managed to talk my way out of a simple 21 day lockup into a 4 month chastity sentence, with her deciding if and when I get out of my cage and if and when I cum. And now she has blackmail photos to use against me if I refuse any order or argue about cage time. And I am really excited.
     
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