I'm new to the KH title.......actually I haven't officially taken it on yet. After my split from my husband I decided to find a dominant partner & I found (I thought) the perfect one. We started switching and exploring being on the "other side". Then one day he expressed his desire to be locked. I looked into it extensively, spent a lot of time researching devices, time on this site, sample contracts, etc. We've gone through a few devices and a new one is set to arrive today. The last few days have been spent drafting our Agreement. As a typical sub the start of the Agreement was a session for me & one every 30 days thereafter. Last night was the kickoff & it was nothing short of amazing! He informed me at bedtime that he thought it was going to be difficult for him to switch gears. I understand that as being a Domme is a different role for me as well. This morning he told me after dominating me last night he's just not ready to be a sub. I totally respect that but have to admit I feel a bit bummed out, lol. It's not completely off the table but now we have to figure out the "now what" and redefine things. Is this typical? I'm feeling a bit frustrated at the situation but enjoy him either way.
Welcome. Sometimes our plans don't work out like we planned. I would suggest to him to try the new cage when it comes in, maybe just for the day or even a while weekend. You don't have to go full Don/ sub right out if the gate. Perhaps it will take off, perhaps not. Remeember, there is no wrong way to "do" chastity, just do what works best for both I you. Good luck and welcome to the mansion
Welcome to CM. I hope the two of you are able to figure things out. It may take some time. However, I have always known there was a submissive side inherent in me, and I just never knew how I could express it in a appropriate way which could be worth something and make sense to me and my partner. I believe I am a work in progress. I could probably be a switch if it were required, but my Bride has no interest in that and loves being in charge.
a little time of orgasm denial will change is mind most likely. He probably just has cold feet. Giving up control is not easy for most men. Cage or not I think spending some time teasing and denying him and he will most likely want to give it a try.
Does that mean he came? That will often ruin a guy's interest in submission, servitude & chastity for a few days. Though you can figure ways to force them to go back into chastity. Or, it's a really hot fantasy for him at certain times, and then it's less appealing some times. It's that amazing and shocking loss of control that is such a turn on, so catch him in that mood where it sounds super hot, and help him experience it a few days.