Kink Shaming....

Safe, Sane Consensual
What goes on with consenting adults is fine by me.
I don't think anyone has the right to judge what kinks are acceptable.
What I have found on here is hipocrisy and mock horror about something they found acceptable before.
Live and let live

 

I do agree with you about being rude. It's quite unnecessary, and regrettable in a place like this in particular, where all of us are out in a niche and should be able to project rather more tolerance than most.

However, I do worry about this "xxx-shaming" thing that's going on. When it is downright rude, as you have suggested here, then it's wrong, no question. But we are reaching a point, especially on Twitter and other social media, where it's becoming impossible to offer an alternative view on anything without being accused of "something-shaming". Tolerance is a two way street.

 

Example(s)?

 

Pretty much nails it for me.
We each make our own choices. I can feel ashamed, but nobody else can "shame" me. They just feel differently about something than I do. Different strokes...

 

Of course fear is a reality, i dont want anyone to knows that i look certain type of porn or that i has x fantasy, in fact i will wait a few years with her until i told but that is how life works, all has our own secrets and has to keep it private, shame is not the word i would use, maybe prejudices and because it is like throwing a boomerang, it will always come back and hit you

But the forum is not real life so i dont think that applies here, i could have on the profile my Linkedin account or my profesional blog but i dont, i dont because if i do i wouldnt be able to tell that one of my fantasy is to be tied to the bed and left to sleep, yeah, nothing extreme but if someone can be able to join this account with my real life i would never tell here, thats the streng of an anonymous forum and why i think that shame/fear doesnt happen here or they shouldnt if they happen

 

if its something i dont like very much i dont read it. but i dont say nasty things bout it.

 

Exactly

 

I wouldn’t call it shaming, but I have thrown out a few warnings. To each their own sure, but their is a question of responsibility, and since this is the Internet I feel it’s negligence to not warn someone of a particular activity if it can be harmful.

Example: someone once started a thread on recipes for injection into their bladder. Coffee, whipped cream etc. This is inherently dangerous, and someone felt the need to warn them. I’ve seen the same thing with hormone advice, messing with the endocrine system is dangerous and telling someone to take unperscribed medications on a site such as this is dangerous.

Yes most people know better than to put food in their bladder, take medication without being informed, or cutting off your balls yourself...but some do not have the common sense that separates most. It’s a big wide web and I would hate to help someone that was intellectually slow hurt themselves.

As long as it isn’t dangerous or illegal, shaming is just rude, warnings about danger is I would hope a welcome.

 

I personally don't agree with being passive when something can be debunked, information corrected from an argumentative point of view. I can't know what the posts in question were about and how they were formulated, but there is indeed an increasing tendency of being offended when it's not the case while other times strong arguments about a subject are dismissed as being shaming
Not being ideologically affiliated and fighting for transsexual people rights brought me so many contradictory tags that i almost felt being a character in the bible.
So yeah, there is shaming, but without an actual example it's hard to debate. I saw the link to watersports as being a potential one. Really now...watersports is a much bigger fetish than chastity which is the scope of this website.
Oh well...going back to rubbing my fur to someone's legs if i find any ^_^

 

Shaming is shameful.

 

I don't know what specific posts are being referenced (and I don't really care!) but there must be a line drawn between shaming and humiliation, which, for me, is an important part of my experience. If I were not experiencing humiliation and some embarrassment for my unconventional status as a caged sissy, this life would be far less interesting and fun.

 

So for those members who enjoy humiliation its ok but for those who enjoy shaming its not?

 

So ultimately the person with the shaming fetish loses out due to an inability to express themselves?

 

@Mascara^Snake so it’s okay to push your shaming fetish onto an unsuspecting forum post because you enjoy it. Rather than creating a shaming thread for people who enjoy that to discuss and be shamed.

 

Brings to mind a 'rule' I learned as a kid ... the 'Golden Rule':
"Treat others the way you would like to be treated."

Well, that sounds all well and fine - but i know my wife would not like to experience tease & denial even a fraction of the time I'd like to be.

Perhaps "Treat others the way they want to be treated" is a more accurate rule.

But then ...
What if I wanted to be bound tight and caned & she didnt want to do that? Would it be fair for me to ask that of her?

So then ...
How about forget rules.
How about an ongoing communication for determining the dynamics of ones own relationship that is based on mutual consent and respect.
How about acceptance, tolerance and encouragement for the choices another makes for their relationship.
How about not belittling another for whatever the reason.

And of course for me, in the event an accord can not be reached in that moment, the tie goes to the lady.

 

But but but I has a belittling fetish and if theres no belittling then its unfairs on me.
*barf*