Is Male Chastity the new "See a beautiful wonan etc..."

Not an expression I've heard before I must admit. There's probably an element of truth in it though! Marriage/long term relationships are complicated things and sex is often an issue within them. How many times does the expression "my wife doesn't understand me" crop up? I think that a lot of the time life and routine just get in the way, especially kids. For those of us with children they do quite rightly take a lot of time and effort. And then they grow up and your not so young anymore! Some couples (like us) rediscover themselves others are just to worn out or bored or maybe they are just different people, who knows. For us chastity has changed the dynamics completely and wonderfully. A lot of couples we know are still very close but also some are not and a fair few have split up. For us chastity more than just works. In the end some couples do just grow apart but as is so often said, communication is the key, if you talk then you stand a much better chance. And Mrs Chaste is a woman I'm not "tired of fucking", she just doesn't let me and we have the best sex we have ever had!

 

No, I've never heard that expression, and it doesn't make much sense really.

 

I've heard the expression before, but said somewhat differently. Imagine any sex symbol, porn star or model and someone has broken up with them. I don't think this applies to me or most men that find there way into chastity. I loved having sex with my wife. In fact my second biggest complaint about my marriage prior to chastity was a lack of sex. Especially once we had kids. I think that chastity has awoken a new form of intimacy for me and many others. We have discovered a level of intimacy with our KH's that we lost somewhere along the way. I think this intimacy is more appealing to most women than the sense that every intimate moment ends with sex. So both partners grow in there appreciation of it.

 

Never heard the expression, but the sentiment can ring true. I think every man (and woman for that matter) can get bored. Especially if their partner is less adventurous. Monogamy isn’t necessarily natural. It’s rare in the animal world, and if statistics are any indication, this is another area in which we are more like other animals than we care to admit. Monogamy took hold in human civilization at a time when life expectancy was in the area of 30-35 years. Humanity’s efforts to encourage monogamy and all the many advantages that come with it, are butting up against both our more basic nature, and lifespans that result in two people spending what was once two or more full adult lifetimes together.

Sexual exploration, open mindedness, and adventurousness do WONDERS for staving off general sexual boredom - and sexual boredom is probably a precursor to many other relationship problems. If Chastity ticks both your tickle-boxes and livens things up to help stave off staleness and keep romance alive, then full steam ahead, I say.

If you’re not having fun with eachother, something’s wrong. If you’re having fun, no matter how you’re having it, it’s a good thing.

 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_objectification

 

In the brain of men are very old instincts, for some more for some less. So they tend to react on optical signals. The woman can see herself as victim and cry about being sexual objectified or she can accept the existence and use it for herself. I mean for example for a chaste sub it's fun to tease him by a sexy outfit. Sexual harassment by touching women and suggestive sayings are unacceptable certainly

 

Well you don't have the quote quite.......but I shan't provide the correct version as I feel it inappropriate after Ms. Amandas comment. I'm also frustrated hearing about "men using male chastity"......when will this ever become a womans prerogative? sigh

 

I have never heard this expression, but I suppose it is true for some. For us, it was more like the beautiful woman was tired of being fucked. My wife doesn’t want my cock to be anything but her play toy, and for her playing doesn’t involve having it in her vagina or having squirt messy stuff all over. She just wants it there when she wants to touch it and play with it, then put it away.

 

This is the most important part of being a chaste husband to me, this opportunity to achieve intimacy without everything being about my erection and spurting. And my wife loves it, it's what she always wanted most.

 

I've heard it as "No matter how hot a girl is, there some guy that's tired of her shit."

 

Yup, that’s it. Beauty can attract a man but an ugly soul will destroy her beauty in his eyes after a while.

 

I think the OP wants to have a discussion about cuckoldry, and it would be best if he just did it upfront, rather than skirting round the issue.

OP, are you attracted to cuckoldry? If so, why? What attracts you to it, or repels you? How do you feel about it?

 

That's how my Dad first said it to me, basically. He was trying to boost my confidence about being afraid to ask out girls that were out of my league.

His exact words were, "Remember son: no matter how hot she is, someone somewhere is sick of her shit,".

My wife hadn't heard it before I told her, and remarked it worked just as well with hot men.

 

I think the problem with this idea is that it seems like most men (especially myself) were interested in chastity before ever being in a relationship or regardless of whether or not they're in a relationship. For me at least it is a desire to be submissive, denied, and to maintain a heightened sense of sexuality. It is more a personal thing than it has to do with the relationship I have with my wife.

 

the expression is a bit mild than the original, it only means that short of a woman fresh from nunnery--every woman, no matter how lovely was probably in a relationship, where she was rejected at some leverl

 

I have gently suggested to my wife she find a man or woman to meet her needs. She used to say no but now says it's none of my business. It'll happen but I believe it's when the right person in the right place comes along. I never get released and she loves sex way too much to be denied her needs.

 

Sounds like cuckoldry is inevitable. Sounds like you'll be happy wearing horns.

 

I don't agree that chastity may lead to cuckolding. After all, if your key holder wants sex, all she has to do is unlock you and have whatever she wants, so why would she need to look elsewhere?

On the other hand, if you have cuckold fantasies, I do see how that could lead to chastity for you. So I think that @LesterBallard has a very good point and maybe the OP really wanted to talk about being cuckolded.

Nor do I think it true that men are using chastity to retain an interest in their wives/partners, although I guess some may do. I would prefer to think of it as something a woman may use to ensure she remains the focus of her man's attention. But I guess that's just the way I see it.

 

Always like your great information you present.

 

Totally agree with you and what @Mascara^Snake said ... No one is entitled to sex, and if one is not having sex with their partner either their body is having serious issues or they aren't entitled to it with the partner.

 

I have heard the saying or something similar, not sure what it has to do with chastity, cuckolding, or anything really even sexual.

When I first heard that, it was in reference to not picking a partner based on looks, because sex is fleeting, and you may not like being with someone ugly on the inside. The language was obviously toned towards the masculine and roughed up in an attempt to provide a male to male high five so it could be said in jest.

As far as getting bored with having sex with a partner, I suppose that happens if no effort is put in.

There is a terrible joke I heard, it starts out making fun of him a lot, but ends with her being the problem. Sentiment like this usually happens when someone takes their partner for granted, and feels inclined to show the world their indifference. I’ve noticed they are funny when you are in a similar situation, but appalling to think of saying it around someone you care about.

 

I never even heard of a male chastity device until I'd been with my wife for almost 20 years. So no I wasn't interested in chastity first. I definitely agree with your second sentence though, especially about it being a personal thing.

 

So just to throw a little gas on the sexual objectification fire did any of the guys on here have sayings or terms in their youth that objectified women? My high school friends and I had the following analogy for women; the holes always the same, only the doughnut is different. Man if my wife caught me saying that today it would be 100 strokes and deep blue on the balls. Not that I want to say it anymore, but figured I'd stir the pot.