Does release help or hurt?

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    Question for all. A sub/slaves ultimate goal is to keep his mistress/owner happy. That being said, does an occasional release help keep him more focused? Or does it hurt and make him forget her needs more? Which is the way to go?
     
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    Honestly I very rarely give releases. Very rarely. As a result my lockees in past have usually gotten with the program.
     
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    it depends on the dynamic of the relationship. Some of the relationships I read on here I don't think would function without release, because that seems so important to the locked one.

    But others, it's about the exchange of power, and for that any release would seem like a diminution of power, if only briefly. For them, permanent chastity is the answer
     
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    My Guess it depends on the Sub. I for one am now around 30 days since my last O (so I think I don't track anymore) and I hope not to have one for a while longer. I like our dynamic a lot more when I am less irritable and more submissive. An Orgasm usually changes that slightly. However I know that some Subs get incredible motivated by having a chance to cum so my guess is it may vary.
     
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    Hi new to this and I have a device
     
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    i dont know really but what i do think is that its a lot better not to know when you migt have one cos if you does then you keep looking at the time and date all the time and its better not to do that.
     
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    Absolutly try, sometimes better to don't know
     
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    I think it depends on the man's typical reaction to orgasm. I've seen many here talk about men who get depressed, grumpy, or uncooperative after an orgasm. For those, orgasm probably has a negative effect on the D/s or chastity relationship.

    I have not witnessed that kind of "drop" in my partner. In fact, he is always ready to get up and fetch me water, tea, toast, pancakes, pizza, or whatever I want immediately after, and he does not show a change in affection or attentiveness.
     
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    I do tend to lose interest after orgasm. I prefer the build up. It keeps me more affectionate when I remain horny.
     
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    I agree with the previous post, once I've cum I tend to loose interest. The feeling of frustration after Mrs Chaste has had her orgasm and has finished with me is much better.
     
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    Absolutely! Your service is your reward, you don't need to be released to gain enjoyment.
     
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    Definitely much better when we both just enjoy her orgasm.
     
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    I'm both happy and frustrated to get a release. I love them because, well, everyone likes the big O and they are spectacular after not having one in a while. I also dislike them because I have a chemical crash and it takes me a solid 2-4 days to get back in submode. I *like* submode, and I'm happier there.
     
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    For newer Subs who have not been fully trained, I would say no release is better. They have their orgasms, then it goes back to being about their needs as opposed to their KHs needs.

    For men who have been conditioned by their keyholders, the occasional release would be OK. Most well trained men probably don't want release though :+1:
     
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    Interesting question, from my own point of view I am looking forward to having an orgasm......but I would really like a long spell of build up before the O....but it's not up to me! My Mistress has full control and it is about what makes her happy.....I really don't care about me....I am happy if she is happy!
     
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    I do love being denied and teased and would be happy to not cum for a long time.
    My goddess enjoys seeing me cum after a long tease session and usually stops all stimulation when I start so it’s not to pleasureful. I still twitch and get soft after so not a tire ruined orgasm. My last 2 orgasms were that way but the time before I got to cum inside her and it was amazing.
    I would be fine if she made me wait months to unload, my longest so far has been 4 weeks and it wasn’t bothering me at all. Pleasing her gives me all the pleasure I need regularly. She just had me cum yesterday so I’m hoping I don’t get to again till the last day of our trip. We leave for Cuba on the 6th.
     
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    Very good question. And as you can see a very good discussion. Speaking from my own experience I've gotten to the point in our relationship that I would rather be locked and stay locked. To have your cage removed and and get stimulated to the point of almost having an orgasm and than to be locked back up again makes it more difficult emotionally. That being said. Releasing your sub occasionally to let him feel what having an erection is like an even an Orgasm gives him something to work towards. That ultimate feeling. As a sub we all need something to motivate us and keep us motivated to serve our Mistresses and that's were things get interesting because that motivation can be very different from one person to another.

    To cum or not to cum that is the question?
     
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    Nothing wrong with being unlocked and played with and having the idea you are going to cum! So much more delicious when she stops and says "I've changed my mind" or "only joking" and locks you back up! We wanted chastity so its only right that we stay chaste!
     
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    I think whether or not an orgasm is helpful is dependent on the couple. Personally, I don’t feel any sort of drop or grumpiness following an orgasm and being locked hasn’t impacted the level of service I lavish on Princess. I believe that it’s a gentleman’s duty to protect and serve those he holds most dear and have always tried to fulfill that obligation. My releases are not scheduled and being unlocked does not necessarily mean that I will have an orgasm. I find the uncertainty to be much more exciting than knowing what will happen. If we have PIV sex, I’m expected to ask permission to cum. So far, permission has never been denied and I wonder how I will react if she ever says no. That said, I do become quite grumpy if I feel I’ve been ignored. Teasing verbal or physical, locked or unlocked is more important to me than actually having an orgasm.
     
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    the prospect of never having another orgasm is frightening.

    But contra that, I know that when I did it would be accompanied by a sense of failure.

    So would I want it? Aye, there's the rub (or perhaps not, in this case)
     
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    I can understand that and feel kind of the same way, although I have no reason to think that will be the case.

    On the other hand, when we started our FLR and I saw the frequency of PIV dropping, the prospect of never having intercourse again frightened me. I think it's been about two years now. I'm not frightened anymore.
     
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    Interesting perspectives. I have been locked for a about 2 weeks straight now and I don't know if this sounds weird but I actually enjoy peeing much more now simply because it feels nice to even have anything pass through. I don't know If anyone else experiences this but I certainly do and I find it almost acts as my new way of release.
     
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    I know exactly what you mean. It's such nice feeling, and there's always a film of semen on the surface and a drip or 2 as well.
     
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    Yes exactly! Its a mix though because as nice as it feels its embarrassing to pee the way I have to.
     
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    Oh I don't know, personally I like having to sit down, although I can pee standing at a urinal as long as there's no one close by that is (just in case they get a glimpse). Also like having to wear a panty liner as I can never get that last drop out! Mrs Chaste enjoys my predicament very much and asks me if I need anymore pads when she shops online (we use different brands). Or if not she buys them for me when we are out, giving me a little smile and sometimes a wink!
     
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