I find myself feeling much more submissive to my girlfriend who keeps me chaste based on the honor system, than I did to my previous keyholder. I don't know if it is because I love her, where my previous keyholder was just a friend. Or if it is because I am kept chaste by will alone. Has anyone who has tried both methods noticed anything similar?
Yes! When i'm with Mistress, She controls O/our sexuality and it is an honor system now. i really don't like devices. W/we do use them on occasion - if i am away during the day (other than work) a lock will go on but not very often. i never sleep with one on so to get real sleep. She chuckles when She feels any hardness in the morning - probably because She knows it won't be used. She ordered and allowed me to cum twice this summer and what a joy. This is how far reaching Her domination is - think this is the real power. She does not want to see anything happening when i give Her the hour long foot rubs She requires when She is reading or writing something. i need to be focusing on Her. :butterfly:
hmmm, W/we have tried both. i was definitely hornier when i was locked up. i can see your point though. i think being chaste while locked is easier than the honor system. while locked i physically can't come. it would be so easy for me right now while Mistress is sleeping to slip into the bathroom and "rub one out", but i would never do that without confessing to Mistress. in that sense i am more submissive unlocked than locked.
My Lady was very insistent on my wearing a chastity device a year ago, but I had such a difficult time with it because of pinching and pain! I had to show her that I would never cum without pemission, even in my sleep, before she allowed me to be on the honour system. I am so afraid of being forced back into the Curve that I will do whatever she asks now. Cindy
Right Cindy, And the thought of wearing one again is more than enough to trust the honor system - plus the fact that we know that we would suffer many more consequences than just the wearing again. Our Mistreses know us enough - so we are advocating respect and honor of Your Mistress - unless you are helplessly, hopelessy, touch happy. :butterfly:
One bad thing about being chaste with out a device is she has discovered that she likes to make me edge. She's never watched me do it, but she sends me a text message telling me to edge. She's done it twice in two days. At least today she did it when I could take care of it right away and did not have to anticipate it. We share a best friend who enjoys slapping me in the nuts. T_ has enjoyed doing that for a little over a year now. My girlfriend like to tell her to do it, and is developing a taste for doing it herself. I do enjoy the pain, but when my balls are full it hurts a lot worse. We are going on 23 days since the last cum, and that was a ruined orgasmm, so they are really full right now.