Cages, showers and kids

To be honest, it might be better for you to follow the honor method and not use a cage. I'm in a similar situation and a cage is just not suitable for my lifestyle.

 

My parents used to lock the door when showering etc. I think it's entirely reasonable to demand a pester free 10 minutes to get through the bathroom. However, if the device gets in the way of your family commitments - makes you behave other than you would - then perhaps you should stick to wearing it at night only?

 

Just cover it up with your hands. Never had an issue and have 3 kids. Started wearing a chastity device when the youngest was born. She’s 10 now

 

Having been in a similar situation, keeping a towel in reach of the shower is invaluable. That way you can pull it in to the shower and cover up before you step out. Depending on their age, you can also start to discuss the concept of privacy, that they need to knock on the door and not barge in, etc.

 

Having to be more private around my little ones is the thing I like least about the cage. However, being mindful, drying off with my back to the bathroom door and using other techniques to cover up make it work for us.

 

Ok I may not understand, but when exactly would they ever see you naked? Yes if they barge in on you they might, but cage or no cage that would be something to avoid in the extreme...I can’t imagine walking in and seeing my dad naked.

Lock the door. Regardless if you have a cage on or not, it’s our responsibility to keep that part separate from them. Maybe I grew up in a prudish environment, but me seeing my parents naked wasn’t something that would “just happen”. Steps would be taken to ensure that privacy is enforced, locking the door, not changing around them, and keeping my barn door closed.

Just a smidge of prevention, ensures your privacy.

 

shower curtain? opaque doors on the shower? Kids should not be barging into a place where people are nude. It's common decency and should be taught from a young age.

 

I am in complete agreement with those telling you to lock the door. We have brought our kids up to know that our bedroom and bathroom are an adult space and they cannot just barge in. We knock on their door before entering the room and we demand the same respect from them.

 

Some families are more private than others. If you are a family that is more open than you either have to become more private or only be locked up when the kids wont be around.

I’ve had a few close calls myself.

 

you could always put a lock on the bathroom door since it doesnt have one. I dont think thats unreasonable. I always lock the bathroom door when showering.

I think privacy or nudity in the home is a precedent set by the parents and usually learned from their parents. When growing up locked bathroom doors was very common and no-one walked around naked in our house. So it was strange when a female friend of mine told me she grew up where nudity was quite common in their house. She felt no need to cover up when walking to her room from the shower even in her teens when growing up. Seems very strange to me. Personally I get uneasy seeing my 9 year old daughter running around in nothing but underwear, but thats just me. I guess there is no right or wrong. But I do think chastity might be something you would want to keep hidden from children only for the simple fact that when they get old enough to understand that could open up a can of worms. lol

 

Hook and latch set costs less than a buck and takes 2 minutes to hang....unless you are a complete f@$/g idiot lol.

 

I personally have had more close calls with spare cages that I had tried on but didn’t work out and were left in the bathroom.

 

It's completely appropriate and possible to teach even young children that there are times and places that they cannot go. And they shouldn't be seeing enough to know whether you are caged or not. Start with that, and don't worry about the cage. And I am a father of four, all of whom are grown now, but they definitely knew and abided by the rules that we set down regarding that.

 

As a European, I find this idea that children should not see their parents naked exceedingly strange.

 

I've heard that from other Europeans. America's Puritan heritage, I suppose. I do happen to agree with it, though. If a child is too young to understand the function of the human genital tract, there is no reason to expose them to it. And once they are old enough, exposing oneself to your child borders on sexual abuse.

 

European, who lives in America and raised my only kid here in the US - my American wife and I frequently have differences of opinion on topics like this - I don't close doors, wander around the house naked even with the kid present, as a result, he see's nothing wrong with also wandering around in various states of undress, wandering in and out of bathrooms and such. He's also quite comfortable in his own skin.

As some have said, I've adjusted my lifestyle a bit - I won't always wear the cage when home alone with him, or be prepared with a hand towel. Some days, when I wear something a bit more elaborate under my day clothes I'll wait until he's dropped off, or doing something else before running back upstairs to change.

 

I’d never believe I would be the prude, but I believe I must be.

It goes to show how different cultures and customs are in various locales. To me it was a no brainer ...install 50 cent latch, don’t allow kids to see you naked, up next...try not to curse too much in front of them. I see a clear bewilderment of it being inappropriate, so it must be thought of as normal there. They are probably just as confused about being private with nudity around family.

I do realize there are other privacy things that are prevalent there but almost unheard of here. Hostels, community bathrooms, family style public dining...all stuff that we in the West just do not have exposure to, let alone understand.

Didn’t mean to judge. I guess oddity is relative.

 

I have two young boys and have experienced the same problem. My nine year old caught a glimpse of my cage and asked what’s that? I got away with saying a band/aid!! But a close call! I now keep a towel and robe right by the shower door.

 

Having an American wife, this conversation was a constant thing in our early life together She'd walk in the bedroom and I'd be doing my thing in the ensuite, or she would be in the bathroom and have both the bathroom *and* bedroom doors closed, and I'd just wander in. She's clearly quite used to it now, and rarely bothers locking doors herself these days.

The kid didn't change much - I want him to grow up quite comfortable around nudity as I am, and comfortable in his own body - but I do obviously try and shield him from the more ... adult ... topics.

 

insight for the Americans, locks on internal doors in Australia is only a newish idea. Many houses don't have locks inside. Thats the way it is... you don't have to understand it or like it etc...

Pbare, I reckon you're on the right track with setting some rules about knocking before entering etc.. and the towel idea should work ok. maybe a suction cup towel rail from Bunnings? certainly a good back up plan for when they forget to wait

 

We purposely have periods of time without a cage so I can join in the nudity of our house. I try very hard not to expose my children to sexual things. Nudity is not sexual, though. A healthy view of the human body and seeing people without “model” bodies that are comfortable in their own skin is something we have tried to always promote. I guess we’re not normal Americans!