Are you obsessed with chastity?

It's not as healthy as a jog around the park but I can think of far more things that are more unhealthy. So keep posting. it doesn't really harm you.

 

It's prevented me from going blind!

 

I also wouldn’t say I’m obsessed, but I did try to give myself a break from the Mansion some time ago, and wasn’t able to stay away. Chastity has changed my life and the Mansion has been an integral part in ensuring the change has been positive and successful. I would say that the attitude and approach to my chastity from my Wife was the single most important factor in that success, followed by my own determination to do this properly. The Mansion was the support network that made it all possible, the information I received here was invaluable.

I think I was obsessed with chastity in the early months. I thought about it constantly, talked about it constantly, until Elle put her foot down and instigated the Saturday rule, limiting when and how much I could talk about chastity and it’s associated issues.

I couldn't just give up chastity, it’s become a huge part of who I am. If that means I’m obsessed, then so be it.

 

Footnote. I realise that my reply seems fragmented and wanders around a bit, but Elle let me go out with a friend for some beers as a special treat, so I’m more than a bit squiffy.

I wonder what German for squiffy is?

 

LOL-don't you think you have to be somewhat obsessive to be willing to put your cock and balls into what amounts to a vice for long periods of time? I think its safe to say that all of us who lock up are at least a little obsession with sexuality, and it's variations.

And it's certainly not unhealthy, in and of itself. If it facilitates an intimate, loving relationship with a partner, then it can be considered very healthy. Example: My wife and I have been married for 36 years. The last few years saw us drift apart emotionally and sexually. We were rarely intimate, and the few times we were, it was quick, vanilla, and unsatisfying for either of us.

We stumbled on male chastity while looking around online a few months ago, and were both intrigued. We decided we had to do something if we ever wanted to make our relationship strong and happy again, so we gave it a try. I've been locked up now for most of the last 4 months, and it's great-we both love it. She enjoys the whole power and dominance fantasy more than either of us anticipated. She frequently comments on how much fun it is. I enjoy the idea that I have to beg for it, while having a constant, gentle tug on my genitals. I've become closer and more submissive to her (which she loves) and I like it. If I'm unlocked for more than a few hours, I start to miss it-i actually WANT to get back in my cage. And I love the tension desiring but not having orgasms. She still loves PIV with me (I'm really quite large when erect) so when we do that, my performance and stamina are much better than before. We are much more intimate now than we were before I went into chastity. I pleasure her with my mouth or hands almost every night, and we have PIV every 5-7 nights. I've been locked up currently for 16 days, which is a new record for us. She asked (told) me to drop my pants this morning so she could "inspect her property." After seeing and feeling them, she remarked, "Looks like they are doing ok. I don't think we'll need to let them out this weekend." I was frustrated and turned on at the same time.

 

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Now you can see why learning this blasted language is so hard.

 

Yes I'm obsessed with it. It's hard not to be but I don't bring it up very often if at all with my Wife. I did when we were much younger, in fact I wouldn't shut up about it when we started. She reads the signs and tends to know where I'm at and I know that despite my desperate state a lot of the time she's not interested in me going on about it. Healthy? I don't know. I think it can be great for a relationship with all the benefits that brings, but sometimes it's all I can think about.

 

Yes, i'm obsessed... i think my situation is a bit different to that of most others here, since i'm not wearing a cage, but have been hypnotically conditioned by my Owner to stay chaste. Is it unhealthy? i don't think there is any bodily harm and i notice the positive effects to my behavior. i feel more submissive when i'm chaste and i have more energy to spend on useful things.

 

I can't say that I post here everyday, but I do visit at least a few times a week, sometimes more. I am not sure that is a good measure of being obsessed with the main subject of the website.

But, I am locked up all the time, does that make me obsessed with chastity?

 

well i just like being allow to come on here and meet folks and chat.

 

I wouldn't say obcessed but I do like it.the reason I am not locked up all time is I don't have a keyholder.

 

I am in complete accord. Well, perhaps I mean that I agree with the phrasing. Chastity is a form of control over me and, since it is consentually enforced at all times, adhering to the arrangement amounts to a fulltime commitment. This is a commitment that I not only embrace, but I have gone to innumerable lengths to achieve.

Commitment. Obsesion. The former is s better connotation I think. "You say potato..."

 

beschwipst

 

"Obsessed" is a tough word, but in the end: maybe! As Madame once quoted: "Chastity is the difference between cumming for a few seconds or being endlessly horny"

 

LOL - ok!
First of all I think, that it's a topic one wouldn't handle with making an announcement while riding the subway like: "Ladies and Gentlemen I am sure you all need to know that I am wearing a chastitybelt!"
So I guess one needs a place or a "valve" to tell the world.

 

I visit the Mansion most days but I don’t spend hours here. A few minutes here, a few minutes there, that’s all. The longest I spend is when I’m writing one of my long rambling journal messages.

 

It's on my mind - or at least bubbling just beneath the surface - not only in my free time but during most of my working hours as well. I think it's the nature of long-term semen retention or devotional chastity, it forces the male to confront his weaknesses in body, mind and spirit, deal with them in a committed fashion so that I can better accept female leadership, guidance, wisdom and intuition. Since that is my natural inclination I always want to become better at it, become a better servant to the Feminine Divine. The strong feelings associated with chastity help me retain clarity of thought which, in turn, gives me increased awareness as to what is expected of me. At least that's been my experience to date.

Throughout the day my feelings, though ever present, go to different levels, take different shapes, take my mind to both comfortable places and into dark rooms that force me to confront my demons. Early in the morning I experience a deep meditative state that can last an hour or so. During the day, at work, it helps me concentrate on my tasks. At night it can either give me sublime peace or make me work hard to overcome my natural male weaknesses. Chastity enables me to never become complacent. Or get too comfortable. There is always another level to try and get to.

It may be obsessive but, like oxygen, it's necessary. Goddess Worship is the reward.

 

Yes, Yes and Yes.......if it makes me happy (strange that eh?) and I am harming no one, but myself, then I think it's ok. Or maybe not.....oh jeez I am getting so confused now all these questions.....Mistress.....how should I answer?

 

Now I think you need to define "free time". Psychologists tend to view activities as problems if they interfere with significant life functions. As long as your "free time" does not intrude on these other things, I would have to say no.

Then again, perhaps you should not be spending all of your "free time" doing just one thing to the exclusion of other leisure interests.

 

For many reasons both my wife and I could not see out lifestyle changing so I guess you could say we are obsessed but it an awesome obsession to have

 

I would not say obsessed in my case because I am semi retired and work 3 days a week and most of those days I have nothing to do but kill time. Since I work with a network and computers I post here and on several other forums. I like to write and since I work alone at home, this becomes my main link to the outside world. I mostly post to relationship, marriage and a site for spouses of bisexuals. After that I post in ham radio, firearms, knives, and a few other forums as I have a lot of interests other than sex. When you are retired you have a lot of time on your hands, even more so when you are an insomniac. It is 4am and I am posting. Better than laying in bed trying to sleep.

There are others who are not obsessed, but merely living their sex lives online. They tend to be the majority in sex forums. There is a third reason and that would apply to those locked up and denied for long periods of time. Posting prevents you from feeling that you are locked up and forgotten about. That you are alone in this. That was one of my reasons since this is the first time in 47 years that did not know anyone in real life into my fetish. I am sure that if I lived in or near a big city as I used to, I would find others like us and not have to post, but I am surrounded by farms and ranches, along with black bear, panthers, wild hogs and gators. Even our local LGBT club has a bi person in it or has anything to offer my wife. To them, she is married to a guy so she has no need for any help or support. Nice people and nothing has changed much since the days when the LG community said there is no such thing as bisexuals and lesbians would not date bi girls because they felt they would always cheat on them with guys. Penis envy I guess. Sure their are exceptions and we met some here but as an organization, not too supportive of bi people.

So for me it is a lot of time on my hands and trying to interject reality into what is mostly fantasy. However, as my wife informs me, people to not want the facts and truth, they want to be believed and believe what fits their needs. My wife hates when I bring facts and reality into a discussion. So do many other people. I am sure others have reasons that would not fit the definition of an obsession. Maybe in Cambridge it does. You Brits butcher the English language all the time.