Hello. I just want to introduce myself. I am not new to chastity. It is something i tried once and I find myself coming back to again and again. I love the feeling of the constrain on my member and I enjoy the feeling of a week long foreplay that chastity gives me. In the past I have used mostly emlalock as a way to hold my keys but really want my wife to participate. She knows of my liking of chastity and does not mind me locking myself, but she is not interested in playing the role of a KH. My goal is to continue to self lock on emlalock as if she is holding and let my wife see the affects. Maybe she will open up and try.
Good luck. My wife and I have been into all sorts of fetish play with all kinds of fetish toys. The chastity cage was not a problem. Presenting chastity as a FLR was. Once we dropped that and focused on just the teasing and denial, she came onboard but it still took a long time for her to lose all feelings of guilt and take full charge in the bedroom, Outside of the bedroom we are our same old selves except for the cage that I wear. The only acknowledgement to my chastity each day is the goodnight kiss and either fondling my cage of pinching my nippes real hard like she did tonight. We do that because it is easy to start feeling that you are locked up and forgotten about.
@NICCage thats a bummer your wife is not interested. What was her response when you asked, or how did you ask?
Welcome and I hope that you will share the story of your journey in the vault forum. It sounds very similar to my situation.
Howdy! Ya never know where this could lead. For some it's straight back into the nightstand with some of the other toys that went the way of the dinosaurs, for others it slowly starts to become part of a new life and reality. However it turns out for you, welcome and good luck.