I am sure that many of you have read posts from guys in chastity or cuckolds, using sexual adequacy as the reason they are locked in chastity or are cuckolds. Personally I was able to do all the sexual acrobatics that you see in cuckolding and other porn. Before I got old and fat, my penis was close to 7" and wide enough to put a lot of pressure on the girls' clitorises to help them to orgasm. Many men do not know that most women do not actually orgasm from intercourse but more from the pressure and rubbing against their clitoris. That is why I always started and ended with oral sex. So throughout the many fetishes we played where I was sexually submissive, the only reason we did it was because I asked to do it. We did not start chastity until I was 61 years old and circumstances and medical issues made it a logical choice to deal with our new life after leaving our girlfriend of 30 years. Chastity would not have even been considered just 7 years ago. I only was interested in orgasm seeking behavior by as many different means as possible. I often read about and see guys with large pensies claiming that they cannto sexually satisfy their wives as justification for being a cuckold or locked in chastity. I often wonder how true many posts are by younger men in their prime who use their sexual performance or penis size as the reason. Are you into chastity, cuckolding, sissy play or anything else due to sexual performance or your penis. I read so many posts all over the internet and unless I am naive, cannot imagine so many guys not knowing how to sexually please a woman. You do not need a very large penis to do so either. How about you? Small penis? Inept in bed? Oversexed wife/girlfriend?
I'm not huge but not small either. I'm told I do many things well and I especially love giving oral. So yes some of us aren't bad lovers.
Getting started in a FLR and chastity lifestyle had nothing to do with sexual inadequacy for me. It had much more to do with my over indulgent behaviors, attitude, my desires to be submissive, a need to better serve my partner/family, and a desire to be happier with my life and all I have. At the time, I also thought it might be a way to help me better cope with the time I am forced to be away from my wife. While my wife never complained about my penis size and sexual skills, she recently has started to tease me about the fact that I don't necessarily have a large one, and she is very aware of cuckolding and chastity play. She just likes teasing me about it and knocking me down a few pegs.
Its been my experience that most women are sexually inadequate. Most have been unimmaginative, boring, or blame the man because he can't doesn't get them off. If they don't give us input, given the complexity of their sexual response, how are you to know what sets of their hot buttons. Also most women look at guys and think they are over sexed perverts because we like sex. Heck, just this weekend we had the house alone and wife thought best use of the time was house cleaning. Made sitting in 100 degree heat getting shot at seem better.
I am small, but can still make her orgasm during piv sex. In fact before chastity I could last a very long time and was my ace in the hole that usually compensated for my ack of endowment. Now that we are into this and my lock up time has progressed I do not last very long so foreplay is a long process that gets her very close so I can last long enough to get her there. That being said not all orgasms are created equal. We have toys now, and once you see someone take a huge dildo, and using all of it, moan and orgasm like a cat in heat, you realize there is something to the size thing. It's not that I am unable to pleasure her, but that kind of reaction will never happen with just me. I think it's wonderful to know and we can be honest and focus on reality instead of worrying about ego or hurt feelings. It is not however not the reason we started. Although I can see it maybe a reason the lockups tend to get longer and longer. Once ego and worrying about hurting feelings is gone, her need for it has lessened, and since it only gets used when she wants, more and more often she prefers the big cock(Johnson) and a wand. So extends lockups a bit. But I am certainly not locked because I can't find a way to get her off, or because I don't "deserve" to be free. Fantasy and teasing are fun tools, I'm not sure why anyone believes they are worthless.
I'm about 7.5" in length and 1.75" in width. My girl was very unexperienced with anything sexually when we met, can't really get wet properly and was pretty "compact" down there, so you can about imagine our sex life back then. It was horrid, especially for her. By now (4.5 years into the relationship) she does love my cock. I don't consider myself a brilliant lover or anything but the hardware definetely gets the job done. May not even be down to size, we just don't have any other references at all. But the sex life got a lot better with time and training. However, as you can imagine by the fact that I'm posting this on this site, I'm rather submissive. I'm in pretty strict chastity training at the moment and I always thought it would be easier to follow through with this for me personally if I had a small cock. Would add a humiliation that would maybe make me more sub for longer. Maybe also due to the fact that we didn't find a proper replacement for my cock yet. Sure you can vibe her clit and eventually she'll come, but that's really not the same experience. So we're trying penis sleeves/sheaths and condoms now to keep me from cumming and hopefully get the best of both worlds.
Even though my wife does the laundry on weekends (does not matter since I only work 3 days from home), she lubricates a lot, or used to, and can still reach an orgasm in under 3 minutes. Sometimes under a minute. We used to joke that she could orgasm just by me staring at her vagina. I have been with women who are bad at sex and women who are very good at it. My wife was a virgin when we met so I was working with a blank and willing slate. I got to teach her all she knows. Some women do tell you what they like and even take control. I have always asked them, which has led to good sex. No guessing or wasting time. Just as the woman can tell, the guy can ask. I tell them about the weird fetishes I was in, and offer to live out any fantasy they may have. I hit them with the extreme stuff so that their kink seems tame by comparison. I have the ability to put a woman at ease and get her to open up about her sexual desires. Most will respond if you approach it in a way that you sense will work. I liked to ask a girl to maturbate so that I could see how she does it. Does she like penetration or direct clioral stimulation. How hard does she press. How fast does she go and what is the rhythm she uses at the beginning and end up to her orgasm. You can learn a lot by observing how someone masturbates. I understood that most girls are shy about talking about sexual tastes so I asked in an environment that they felt safe in. I got a lot of girls to try a lot of fetishes that way. I believe in taking the orgasm from the girl rather than make her work for it by thinking of other stuff to make herself orgasm. Their orgasm should be something they cannot stop and did not have to think about. I also love oral sex and actually prefer it. The girl can just lay back and I get to smell, taste and feel their arousal. To me, sex is an art. I should be able to make a good painting no matter what the canvas is.