Results of Post-Punishment Day.

Congratulations on your achievement. As a switch, you have crossed an important threshold. You have shown him the love and care that a Mistress (or master if you are a guy) provides by showing the retribution for non-compliance. It isn't easy psychologically, since all you want to do is love, but you will find your love will grow as he learns to take more and more of your discpline, or if he mends his ways and acts like a proper mate should.

Thank you for sharing.

 

You know I usually log in to this site once a day for anywhere between 10 minutes and an hour and then go do all the other stuff. I have been waiting and watching for this post like I was monitoring the score on a playoff game. I actually just ran back to the computer to check one last time and was rewarded with this post. So excited for both of you. I took 30 on Thursday so I know what @Thatguyontheinternet is going through. I also have to say that I love that @Thatgirl mixed pleasure with pain and took her time. My 30 was done in a minute which was intense and had the desired effect, but I can only imagine how 45 minutes must have been. You guys rock!

 

This is definitely something I am going to show Elle. Discipline and punishment is something that I know I need but also something Elle really struggles with. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and description of your process and how you felt.

 

I struggle with not laughing. Doesn't matter how hard she does it. I only mention it because thatgirl mentioned she spaced it out over a period. I think I would need very hard, rapid, unrelenting, immobile, continuous until I break kind of paddling to get through it without my laughter defense mechanism kicking in.

 

Why are you associating a punishment with his pleasure?? Isn't it conceptually against punishment?? I mean, if you let him associate pleasure with pain, he'll crave for pain, just because in his mind that's pleasure. If it's punishment, in my opinion (everyone's free to "play by their rules"), you should punish him, then make him worship you ONLY after.

 

Seems to be just what you both need.

Humblers are great, aren't they ( -)

Is it to be a regular weekly routine?

 

I just admit that I did think it would have been better to punish first and reward second, but this is about what @Thatgirl wants, not what we think it should be like.

 

I have to agree. I know we are all different, but I find a hard spanking never makes my cry as it does with some men. I just seem to laugh when the pain gets unbearable. (I had 60 spanks with wooden spoon, followed by 60 spanks with the cane last night and now have a very sore posterior).

 

My Princess has been a little hesitant about the punishment. So I made her a paddle while she was out. She was impressed and took me over her knee for a .....light spank. Early days.

 

I have 20 thwacks coming to me for infractions my mistress tallied up last week. Friday is our day for her to administer the discipline. She was busy this last Friday so I have not received them yet. I look forward to those sessions because she has fun administering and I crave being so tightly under her control, even if there is pain involved.

 

I have NO IDEA how some of you guys can take such beatings so easily. She double gagged me because she knew I'd scream, and boy did I. She didn't start the punishment till after she had me pleasure her to a week's worth of orgasms, anallingus, and her newly discovered love of foot worshiping. The foot thing - That's new. Completely. But once she secured me and began the padding (paddle and riding crop) she only stopped a few times to give me some "pleasure".

She'd let me catch my breath while she tweaked my chest and demanded I call myself all manner of degrading things, declare my proper role and hers from now on, and tell her why I deserved what was happening. That was about it. The bit of ass play she used during those breaks took on a similar flavor. Making me leak, sure, but also all the time overlayed with verbal abuse and lessons she wanted to make sure I was taking in. A few 5 minute "breaks" and back to paddling.

Rest assured at no point following the start of the punishment was that pleasure happening without a great deal of pain. Her laying over me in doggy position to whisper in my ear while tweaking my nips put a good deal of her 100lb frame squarely on top of my stretched balls. Not even sure she realized that. Her use of my sensitive spots to grab my attention back and let me calm down was actually very smart. It stopped me zoning out and just going into sub mode. It also stopped me tapping out (our "safe word" was a few flat pamled taps on the bed) because I honestly think I would have. It just hurts so bad. A few at once is all I can stand.

My flight reaction kicked in several times causing me to straighten out reflexively and yank my balls hard against the Humber. I simply wouldn't have been able to do it without the restraints and without a few pauses to breath deep. She knew that and settled me back down to take more very smartly, and with a whole lot of demands that I scream out my new name during all things play, tell her thank you, and all sorts of things.

So yeah, pleasure was NOT the takeaway for me from last night. Not even close. I was speechless at the end. I had little to say (can you believe it!) and just wanted to curl up next to her and think.

My ass and sides of my thighs are bruised, and my mind is still processing. It was powerful. And how much she loved it - how cathartic it seems to have been for her is also... interesting.

 

When I had found out that she felt empowered and that the inner strength she felt during and after was so strong, it helped me let go and let the greater good happen.

 

When you has a paddling it does mean that your Mistress is think of you and making you better at things. its a pity that it hurts but if it dint then you migt forget what its for hadn't you.

 

Thank you for that description of what you endured @Thatguyontheinternet. Many of us have discussed endlessly how the Mansion attracts fantasists who write all sorts of porn fed nonsense. There is no way any of them have ever described a situation in such honest detail as what you just did. I can say this was absolutely the most incredible description of a punishment I have ever read.

I also want to repeat how important it is to the Mansion that you both described what happened to you during this event. To get both sides is so rare. I loved reading about how @Thatgirl still felt calm hours later. It seems to have been an almost zen like experience.

One other thing I picked up from this. How incredible is it that chastity can help us find new things to bring us as couples even closer to each other. Before chastity Elle was uncomfortable with me kissing her toes. Now she absolutely loves it. She has relaxed into feeling that she has the right to expect such devotion from me. She loves receiving and I love giving.

 

Good to read about the punishment (or funishment) from both sides.
The humbler sounds like "fun".

 

In the absence of the the paddling any number of aspects of the way she administered the punishment could have been at least somewhat enjoyable. Humbler included. But when it's actually used to immobilize you in order to ensure you endure something truly un-fun, it's not so enjoyable.

I've got to say, the intensity of that last night has had me inside my head for most of the day.

I was never hit or spanked as a child at all (@Mistress B - yes, I know, that explains a lot ) and there's a huge difference between the kind of sharp pain of the riding crop she used and the only other type of physical pain any other human has ever inflicted on me; punches, head buts, etc.)

Thatgirl was shockingly effective. The way she controlled the whole thing. The things she said. It is the first time in the nearly two years we've been doing this that I felt truly out control and at her mercy.

Then there's the fact that she LOVED it. She felt so good after. I could see it. The combination of seeing how good she felt and feeling the way I did has been powerful for me. I like that she loves it. And I feel for the first time in my life I've allowed someone else to truly be in a position of power over me. If only for that short time. No parent, teacher, boss, or authority has ever achieved that. And having someone that you know loves you dearly inflict pain on you for your own good is so... idk. And I am surprised by how profoundly it's gotten to me.

I'm expecting this to be a relatively regular occurrence and am wrapping my head around that fact. It's confusing to be okay with something that i serisously hate because it's part of something larger that I love, and important to someone that I love.

So I guess it's a bruised ass going forward for me.

 

What is even easier is to just hit him as many times as you want at the end of the week. You will mentally know how he did during the week and not have the hassle of keeping score.

Psychologically, associating pleasure with punishment will not be sending the right message. As a sexual submissive for the last 47 years, punishment was punishment. It hurt, went beyond what I could endure and it was meant to change my behavior. Being paddled or caned while receiving pleasure, before, during and after, was just sex play to me and something I looked forward to. I even would have purposely gamed the play so that I would get as much "punishment" as I wanted that week. Punishment never provided any pleasure for me. There was a difference psychologically for me, and BDSM is pretty much involved with psychology.

I also wonder how long this is sustainable in a relationship. In most of the couples I knew over the last few decades into various aspects of BDSM, the sub did not want to live a life being beaten every time they disobeyed their girlfriend/wife unless they had a deep psychological need for it. See how it goes, but mixing pleasure with pain is not a normal method of changing a person's behavior. Sort of sending a child to his room and then letting him watch TV, play video games and surf the web.

Corporal punishment can be done for pleasure, as it is for me as a sexual masochist, or to deter bad behavior. Only you know which result you want.