How does chastity modify your behaviour?

Yes, you will be affected in those ways, if your wife keeps you horny and submissive with many tease sessions.

 

A few years ago I would have said this was all one-handed typing, however I am now certain wearing my cage stops me getting depressed and deepens our dynamic.

 

It will improve your ability or willingness to communicate. A major issue for me. Not just about sex, about everything.

I used to have no problem being closed off, lost in thought, worries, the days stress, life, weighing me down. I would silently burden myself and shut down. That's what guys do right? Well it hurt all my relationships.

Behavior mods...we are working on some but it's slow and steady, but probably working. Nothing huge, but now I tend to spend more time with her, don't stay up late alone, or go out without her very often.

 

Locking your penis up in a cage does not magically alter your personality. Orgasm denial can and that has been a weapon used by women from the dawn of man. Achilles did not have his penis locked up and yet, look at the lengths he went through to for a taste of Helen of Troy. So it is no magic property of chastity that transforms men, it is withholding orgams to get men to do as the woman wants and a man who is aroused by being dominated, sexuall or othewise.

I suspect that many guys who enter into chastity read all those things that are supposed to happen and do them because they think they are part of the game. Chicken or egg, which comes first in chastity. Do men act the role they have read about or do they actually feel like doing all those things once locked up? When I was in water sports I could drink a woman's urine. However that was during sex. If she came up to be while we were not having sex and told me to drink her urine, I would tell her where to go. Sexual arousal makes men do strange things but it is his small head that makes him do things, not his big head.

I am not saying that there are men who do not live sexual fetishes 24/7, but I am saying that many who say they are doing so online, are not. Interesting study that was recently published that said Millennials are having less sex than my generation. The biggest reason cited was porn. The men today can live their sex lives online and so they can satisfy their fetishes without having to get their wives to participate, finding a girlfriend or getting off their butts. I have met many lifestylers but even then, those into a relationship are not doing it 24/7. It is exhausting for a domme to dominate a man all the time. Sometimes the sub wakes up and just does not feel like being dominated that day. I was always surprised when I visited a couple I met at a BDSM club, at home. They were like any other married or committed couple. Perhaps the husband was more attentive to his wife but you had to be looking for that to spot it.

If you want to meet lifestylers, go to http://www.submissiveguide.com/2013/03/a-list-of-national-bdsm-events-attend-one-or-two-or-three/

As far as Chastity goes, try Fetlife.com and find out where and when Munches are being held. You can attend locked up or not. Even then, you will find that outside of the sex game, they are just like other couples you know. So it is a game to me. I have a safeword that can end it instantly as is true with all BDSM activities with people who play safe and sane. Just the fact that it is called fetish play by most should give you a tip as to what it is.

 

Chastity play is generally something the chastised one the one being kept chaste introduced to the relationship. If your partner goes along with this and learns to see the advantages to them and enjoys themself then whatever makes them feel good may well be the price you have to pay. A price most of us would meet willingly if it is making everyone happy.

 

For me it did absolutely make this change and that is not why I got into it. I thought it would be a fun sex game. Lock me up, we go out on a date and she teases me about being locked and whether or not she'll ever let me out. We come home and boom, hot sex. We started "playing" with a random time generator to determine lock-up periods and they just gradually got longer. I noticed a huge change my first time I hit a full week in chastity. I can't fully explain it, but I just became very focused on her. I wanted to do things for her, provide her with pleasure and be intimate with her in a non-sexual way. It just kind of snow balled from there. I'm not sure if it will have the same effect on you, but chastity has completely changed our relationship and the way I see my wife.

 

I don't totally agree I think when you let your wife take control of you manhood over time things change she becomes more controlling and strict you the man if he is enjoying the dynamic that has formed becomes more submissive and that is not because he has read something in the internet you just conform
Just my opinion .I am I my 50s and my wife and have been doing this a very long time works great for the both if us and has evolved on it's own to become as it is today ..no safe word but a loving understanding between us both

 

I think this merits a more detailed response. I think 24/7 chastity does make us more submissive if we are already submissive for the following reasons:

• Erections are primate dominance displays. We can't have them.
• Constant reminder of submissive nature. Forces us to integrate our different sides, rather than maintain two tracks.
• If mandated by our dominant, means the D/s relationship is always "on".
• Denial (as part of chastity) is a genuine punishment and thus provides leverage for our dominants.

So I don't think it alters our personality, but I do think it does specific things to it if we are already submissive.

Yes, this. However, also not this.

There is a third way between 24/7 and "dungeon/bedroom only", that is a Female Led Relationship where things look pretty normal, but the kinky pervades the intimacy and underwrites the woman's control over the relationship and living together. Chastity fits into this as a low-key, low-demand way of keeping the Femdom running in the background.

As to the numbers - there is certainly a lot of "one handed typing" going on on the internet, which seems a little sad as the real thing is so very good.

 

I think wearing a device can change you in subtle ways depending on the way it is being used. I know it has changed me, I know my wearing a device has changed my Wife. @Thatguyontheinternet has been writing extensively at the moment about how he has realised his device is changing him, and how that has freaked him out a bit.

I did not come into this lifestyle for fantasy reasons so I have actually been surprised about how much it has changed me and how it has become my fantasy. I love the way it has helped my Wife become more assertive and sexually adventurous. That stems from the simple fact that we only do things when she wants, reciprocation is no longer required, if she likes something she can do it again and she can see how much all of her experimentation is affecting me.

The main change is in how much more interested in non sexual intimacy I have become. We do all sorts of things together that we never did before, and we are actively seeking more things that increase our intimacy. I run her baths and read to her while she soaks, I remove and apply nail varnish to her toenails, give her foot massages and face masks. None of these things are done seeking sex as a reward. Before chastity if I was nice to my Wife she immediately thought I was trying to get her in the mood for sex.

 

It will change you both and the relationship. We have no more arguments,are closer than ever and can make out for hours with her not having to worry about it going any further than she wants. The house is cleaner and she has more time to relax. With all your sexual energy directed some where else besides your self, you will be amazed at all the things you were missing out on.

 

If you do anything over a long period of time it changes you. Just think about it non sexually. The first time you drank a beer or a glass of wine you weren't an alcoholic you became one over along time of drinking over and over again. You also may never become an alcoholic and just be a casual drinker your entire life. Or never drink again.

I use to Masturbate almost daily but 7 years ago when we started with Chastity my Mastubation habit is now almost non existent. Even when I'm unlocked the desire isn't their like it use to be. So has Chastity helped to modify my behaviour, I would say it has helped but it's only one of the pieces to the puzzle.

In my Opinion if you do anything for a long period of time it will modify or change your behaviour

 

I agree with you. Changing can be a great thing

 

Shouldn't behavior modification be the middle name for chastity ? If you are living in chastity with a FLR, then you are going to see some behavior changes in both partners. And, I find this to be true even if your partner is not necessarily a full blown dominant. I liked the earlier reference to nonsexual intimacy. That is something that does not always come naturally, but now has the opportunity to happen more frequently.

 

I like this description a lot, with one change. For us: a Female Led Relationship where things look pretty normal, but the 24/7 chastity kink pervades the intimacy and underwrites the woman's control over the relationship and living together. Chastity fits into this as a low-key, low-demand way of keeping the Femdom running in the background.
Perfect.